What are the advantages of arranged marriage?

The first advantage of arranged marriage is that it suits each other. Not that the poor must marry the poor, but the rich must marry the rich; Appropriate means that the family education and family environment of the two families are similar, and their academic qualifications are roughly the same. There are many examples of unhappy marriages around me, most of which are inappropriate. Some people say that you are generalizing and you can have a few friends. My counterattack is: bah, this is like a sampling survey, this is a glimpse of the whole leopard.

One of my childhood sisters wants to marry a worker. My partner's sister has a college degree, and that worker has a technical secondary school degree. My partner's mother doesn't agree. My partner's sister just got married and is said to have stolen the household registration book. After marriage, the man shows his true colors and always hits people. Finally, his partner's sister couldn't stand it and divorced, but her hand was broken by the man and she kept shaking. She can't even do such a job as washing dishes.

I'm not saying that workers are bad, but because of the differences in knowledge and understanding, there are many different views on life. I believe that most people with low academic qualifications agree that "men are superior to women", but women recognize "equality between men and women" in the process of continuous learning. In addition, there are some differences in family habits. Marriage is not a single union of two people, but a fusion of two families and two family relationships, so the closer and more similar the two families are, the faster the integration will be. Because after marriage, even a trivial matter like not washing your hands before and after meals may trigger a fierce battle. This is the difference of ideas, and the change of ideas will not happen overnight, because she (he) has grown up in that environment for more than ten or twenty years, which is difficult to change, not necessarily bleeding, but not too much.

The second advantage of arranged marriage is that you fall in love after marriage. The current divorce rate, like that in inflation index, is unprecedented. Why? I just fell in love before marriage for too long, lived together before marriage, and did everything I had to do. I haven't done anything since I got married, only having an affair. You see, there are several divorced people who haven't been in love for long before marriage, let alone those film and television actors and singers. Even Faye Wong is awake now, falling in love with Li Fei quickly and then getting married. This can't be delayed. Didn't Faye Wong sing Crazy Foreigners? Look, but she doesn't totally like it. After all, that Li is not an outsider. Of course, there are exceptions. This is beyond the scope of our discussion today.

In a word, arranged marriage does not have this shortcoming. You only met on the first night of the wedding. Of course, you have got a general understanding of his personal situation from your parents in advance, and then from that night on, you gradually got to know him bit by bit. At this time, he is completely undecided and left to you to ponder. There is no doubt that he is legally yours at the moment. When you fall in love with him, I believe most people are not used to changing their minds. They are going to be in love for about ten years, which means they are at least thirty or forty years old. In ancient times, even the desires of middle-aged and elderly people were weakened and almost the same. Even if love turns into kinship, it doesn't matter, because it is difficult to breed new love. Therefore, arranged marriage is still very conducive to maintaining the stability of marriage. Since our society needs a stable marriage to stabilize people's hearts, we should think about how to get a glimmer of life in the shackles of human nature.

The third advantage of arranged marriage is the words of parents' life matchmaker. Some people say this is good, because I am the one who got married, not my parents. This is wrong. What is love? It's crazy, so falling in love and getting married is like marrying a chicken. But parents' lives are different. They are experienced people, they are sober, they are your parents, they know you, and they know what suits you and what doesn't. And you are crazy at this time, not only won't listen, but when they are monsters that stop you from learning the scriptures, you must kill them. But in case you are really unhappy after your parents ordered it, you will always have another excuse: I didn't choose this one myself, my parents chose it for me, so I have to get another one outside. At that time, you were more positive and rational, and most people would stand on your side and sympathize with you.

To sum up, arranged marriage has more advantages than disadvantages than free and disorderly love. When will modern people realize and think about why our ancestors have been advocating arranged marriages for thousands of years? It's not unreasonable, it's the great fortune of benefiting the country and the people.