The traditional custom of looking at the sky

After determining the wedding month, both men and women will negotiate whether the date is at the beginning or the middle of the month (Han folk customs generally do not get married at the end of each month), and the specific date is decided by the man's "sage". Don't trust the numerology of some network software and some "masters" on the network. Then choose the auspicious day of the zodiac in the yellow calendar or the day clearly marked "suitable for marriage", and some find out the choice according to the handed down "Marriage of Zhou Tang Tu". Marrying Zhou Tangtu is to arrange the words "husband, aunt, hall, Weng, land, house, stove and kitchen" into a circle. The specific search method is as follows: if the "wedding month" is a big month (30 days), search in the direction from husband to aunt; if it is a small month (29 days), search in the direction from woman to stove. As long as there are no days with the words "Weng" and "Gu", it is ok, but the word "Tang" is the best, followed by the first, kitchen and stove. People usually choose the first two words, and the last two words are rarely used. From this point of view, although dating is for others to see, the choice of men and women is still quite large. This long-standing custom of "watching the sun" is still widely popular in rural areas.

"Looking at the sky" must first determine the month of marriage according to the woman's zodiac. The woman marries according to the zodiac, commonly known as "looking at the age of chaos."

In the early years of Han folk customs, there are also animal taboos that are not suitable for marriage all year round: Shen, Zi, Chennian snake, chicken, cow, company, you, ugly tiger, horse, dog, Yin, noon, Wuxu pig, rabbit, sheep, sea, hair, immature dragon, mouse and monkey. But this taboo has attracted little attention now. Beginning of spring has two years of widowhood in the lunar calendar, and the year without beginning of spring is the year of bachelor. This is not ancient, but it has a great influence on the marriage customs of the Han people. Whenever there is "second spring" or "no spring" in the coming year, there will always be a wedding peak before the Spring Festival. Later, years ago, it became popular for women to go to the man's house for dinner (in some places, they stayed at the man's house for one night, accompanied by their prospective mother-in-law or sister-in-law).

Men are optimistic about life. Generally, the matchmaker sends messages orally to the woman's family, and some seriously send them in writing to show respect for the woman's family. This is what people often call "the next marriage book". But no matter how to "see" and "communicate", once the wedding date is determined, it cannot be changed. In the old customs, while looking at the days, it is also necessary to determine the taboos of weddings and seeing off relatives according to the zodiac signs and birthdays of both men and women, and no one is allowed to attend. It also stipulates the direction of getting up, dressing and dressing up, the direction of getting on and off the sedan chair (car), the time of getting married, getting home and worshiping heaven and earth. In order to avoid evil spirits, pray for good luck and peace. This Han folk custom cannot be simply attributed to feudal superstition.