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According to the traditional custom in Jiangxi, the marriage age is 16 to 30 years for men and 14 to 20 years for women. Weddings follow the rules of family law, and the general process consists of seven aspects: entrusting the media, exchanging posts, choosing an auspicious day, engagement, employment and meeting the bride. In a family, the boy is about 20 years old and the girl is about 15 years old. Parents begin to arrange marriages for their children, and the matchmaker leads the red line so that men and women can't meet, let alone get to know each other. When you entrust the media, you have to pay the matchmaker in advance. This is called buying shoes (which means you need to go to find someone else). In the future, I will give a gift to the matchmaker and invite her to dinner. The matchmaker accepts the money to buy shoes, starts to perform the contract to find the right person, and participates in the whole marriage process until the bride is sent to the bridal chamber. There is a folk proverb: "When a newcomer enters the bridal chamber, the matchmaker climbs over the wall". After marriage, you should make thank-you wine and give gifts to express your gratitude. Matchmaking is a profession, usually a woman, so it is called "matchmaker". The matchmaker has a glib tongue, and both sides speak well, saying, "The water is boiling." Parents of both sides exchange positions with their children's horoscope, which is also called "matching horoscope". The so-called eight-character, that is, according to the year, month, day and hour of birth displayed by heavenly stems and earthly branches in the old calendar, uses the five elements to calculate whether the eight-character of both sides are combined or gram. After the parents of both sides are satisfied with the preliminary understanding, they write down the eight characters of the man's birth in red posts, which are sent to the woman by the introducer, and the woman asks the fortune teller to "open and close" to see if the year, month, day and time collide with the woman. If you agree, this marriage is impossible; If they match, they will also write the eight characters to the man, which is commonly known as "returning the eight characters". Write it in red paper and put it under the incense burner in front of the ancestral tablet for three days. Within three days, each family has something to do, so we should send it back to Gengtie. Forget it, the whole family is safe. This is the success of replacement. After the posting was successfully changed, the woman sent a blind date family group to the man. On the blind date, she saw nothing, looking at the house, driving livestock and going to the fields. The woman thinks that the man's family can give an interview bride price. After many times of running-in, after the bride price reached an agreement, she chose a lucky day to "press the shoe sample", and the man asked the matchmaker to give the shoe sample and "press the sample money" to the woman. On market day, the girl made a pair of shoes and returned them. After seeing the shoes, the man knew the girl's needlework and expressed satisfaction. This is the determination to get married. Every step of marriage, from successful changing of posts to engagement, engagement, wedding and meeting the bride, should ask the husband to choose a suitable date, commonly known as date. Besides auspicious days, Nanchang people also get married in Laba every year. It is said that this is a dry dragon that went down to the south of the Yangtze River. When they came to Nanchang, it was the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month, and they interpreted an auspicious story. Since then, the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month has become an auspicious day, which has continued to this day. The eighth day of the twelfth lunar month is the Buddha's day of enlightenment. It is said that this day is too old to be idle, and there is no evil star in charge, which is an auspicious day for marriage. People say that "there is no need to choose a date for Laba's marriage", and many people hold happy events on this day. After the wedding date is fixed, the man chooses an auspicious time to invite him to "bring wine from the east", also called betrothal wine. At the banquet, the man presented clothes, shoes, socks, towels and the like, invited the woman to "pull cloth" on the street, and sent the agreed bride price, gold and silver jewelry, money exchange, three generations and other gifts to the woman. The woman gave all her stickers to the man. After the banquet, the man will also ask the matchmaker to give the "dragon and phoenix stickers" to the woman, and the marriage will finally be settled here. Employment is also called talent. On the day of "gift-giving", the man's family carried the "box" and carried the burden, firing a gun and whistling all the way to give the bride a bride price. Gifts for the woman's family include: a pair of three animals, a male and a female, a pair of hoof flowers, a pair of carp, clothes and shoes for the bride, as well as exotic flowers, cloth, clothes, fish, meat, noodles and shoes. If the family is well-off, there should be hundreds of kinds of fish, meat, noodles and cakes, which are commonly known as "all kinds of meat and noodles". The woman returned shoes and socks, towels, handkerchiefs and other items and left the banquet enthusiastically. At the dinner table, men and women meet, and the man gives the woman a "meeting gift". After employment, the marriage relationship has been confirmed, and both men and women are generally not allowed to dissolve it without authorization. If the man changes, the woman may not be required to return the dowry; If the woman changes, the bride price must be returned to the man. After employment, the man prepares gifts for his father-in-law three times a year, which is called "sending festivals", and the woman also gives certain gifts in return. The day before the wedding, the woman should kowtow to her parents and the patriarch, and then tie her hair, also called sewing, that is, tie it up, make it into a bun and insert flowers. If the woman wants to open her face, she will cut off her hair with thread, and then put on a wedding dress and sit on the bed without going to the ground. The woman should hold a banquet at home to entertain relatives and friends. From this day on, the bride will not eat anything, only some thread powder, meatballs, longan, lotus seed soup and so on. The woman's mother wants to cry, and the longer she cries, the better, and the worse she cries. The longest crying wedding lasted 48 days. The time to cry is before dawn every day. I started crying on the first day and said "Open your mouth". Weeping wedding songs are very rich in content, teaching daughters to be filial to their parents-in-law, to respect their elders, to manage their families diligently, to get along with husband and wife, and so on. For example, "ten things to teach your mother, the first thing to keep in mind is to sweep your mother-in-law's room before sweeping the floor, and don't touch her." On the wedding day, grandma in the room led the crying, mother and daughter cried, aunt cried, married sisters of the same generation cried, mother and daughter cried, and everyone cried together. Tears of parting, tears of mother's kindness and blessing, sincere tears of daughter's humble obedience to mother's instructions, tears of joy for everyone. There are no fixed lyrics for crying marriage. It is usually the mother of the bride who cries first and teaches her daughter how to behave. Two or three days before the wedding, relatives, friends and idle people came home to decorate the courtyard one after another. The whole house became a red world, with red lanterns hanging on the door and the word "Xi" hanging in the middle of the hall, red candles in pairs and incense in pairs. The day before the wedding, TVB Plot Network provides online viewing:

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