I wonder what is the custom of getting married here in Dalian? What's the point?

Dalian's marriage customs are greatly influenced by Shandong people, but with the social process, especially after opening to the outside world, many new forms have been merged. These old customs and new styles complement each other, thus forming a local wedding custom with Dalian characteristics.

After a couple enters the mature stage of love, the first thing to do is to register. After registration, the young couple went to the man's house for a holiday meal. According to common sense, the mother-in-law should give her daughter-in-law money and jewelry at this time to show her acceptance.

Then the date chosen for the wedding. The wedding date should be even, the lunar calendar, the solar calendar and the day of the week are even, and among the even numbers, six is the most popular. If there is a Saturday in the lunar calendar and a sunset on June 6 in the solar calendar, it is a very prosperous day. However, there are exceptions to the singular, such as nine, which is particularly popular because it means eternity. 1On September 9th, 999, many people got married in Dalian.

It is best to have clear skies in Wan Li on the wedding day in Dalian. If it rains, it means that the bride is very powerful and everyone will feel depressed.

After setting the wedding date, the bride and groom began to make intensive preparations. Under normal circumstances, the bedspreads and curtains of the new house are prepared by the woman, and the woman has to prepare one or two quilts. In addition to preparing bedding for daily use, the man's family also needs to prepare a kang quilt for the bed. Large items such as household appliances are also mainly bought by men, but women should buy at least one, usually a washing machine, because it is often used by women. The rest is to prepare wedding supplies. Most weddings in Dalian nowadays need pigeons, flowers and balloons. These flowers are lilies and roses. The balloon must be red, and the number is also related to "9". The more 9, the better, such as 999, at least 99. Some weddings, including inviting bands and singers, are all prepared by the man, but the corsage for the mother-in-law must be prepared by the bride and worn by the bride after she arrives at the new house. Finally, both sides should choose a best man and maid of honor for themselves. The best man and maid of honor should not be taller than the bride and groom, but they should not be too short and their looks should not be worse than the bride and groom, so as not to usurp the host's role and make the couple change their minds, but they should not be ugly enough to lose their shelf.

According to local customs, the bride and groom can't meet on the first day of marriage. On the wedding day, the procedure is as follows: the groom takes flowers and the motorcade to the bride's house to get married. After meeting, he sent the flowers to the bride's arms, and then had dinner with her to see jiaozi off. The night before I sent Jiao Zi away, she was wrapped up by her mother-in-law who had stayed up all night. According to local customs, the bride's parents are not allowed to attend her daughter's wedding, but now many participants make an exception. When seeing the bride off, although she was elated, she should also show sadness and give up. The first stop after leaving the woman's house is to accompany her family to see the new house. The bride should take two wedding basins wrapped in red cloth from her parents' house, and put cosmetics such as mirrors and combs in one basin; The other pot is filled with steamed carp with white flour, which means that life is more than enough every year. After these things are taken to the new house, they should be unpacked and put on the wedding bed. When the bride enters the new door, she must first call out "Dad! Mom! " Of course, this mother didn't scream for nothing. After the mother-in-law agrees, she will give her daughter-in-law a red envelope. The amount of money in the bag is exquisite, usually 100 1 yuan, indicating that her daughter-in-law is one in a thousand, and she is also given 990 or 660, depending on her own economic situation. At the same time began to nail the door curtain. The curtain was nailed by the bride's unmarried brother or brother. If there is no brother, the cousin can also hold this position. The tool for nailing the door curtain is a weight wrapped in red paper, indicating that they are determined to live together for life. The husband's family should put a red envelope under the weight in advance, with the content ranging from 50 to 100. When the person who nails the door curtain is finished, he will put the red envelope in his pocket. Then, the groom will hold the beautiful little boy prepared by his parents in advance and sit on the wedding bed with the bride. This is called "pressing the bed", hoping to have children early. My mother-in-law wants to give a red envelope to the child who presses the bed to express her gratitude.

After the short wedding ceremony, the whole family will drive to the hotel where the wedding celebration is held, and the time to the hotel should not exceed 12, otherwise it will be unlucky. This is a big principle.

Wedding celebrations are complex and simple, but four ceremonies are essential: first, three obeisances. A worship of heaven and earth, may the relationship between husband and wife last forever; Second, worship Gao Tang and thank your parents for their kindness; Third, the husband and wife respect each other as guests, and the young couple are soul mates from now on.

Grace and love; The second ceremony is a toast. Drink the toast dry, don't keep it, which shows that husband and wife treat each other sincerely. After drinking, the young couple will send rings to each other and put them on each other's hands, indicating that they have a common heart from now on.

The last ceremony is to propose a toast and light a cigarette for every relative and friend attending the wedding. At this time, people attending the wedding can embarrass the couple at will, such as using many tricks to prevent the bride from lighting cigarettes easily, so the wedding often sets off a small climax at this time. In addition to the wedding reception at noon, the groom's family usually sets up several tables at night to entertain the people who help with the wedding. After dinner is the bridal chamber. When making trouble in the bridal chamber, red dates, peanuts and lotus seeds should be sprinkled on the bed, which still means early birth. Regardless of age and generation, everyone can enjoy the bridal chamber, but there is a limit. The bride must not turn her face and get angry when making trouble in the bridal chamber.

If the newlyweds in Dalian live with their in-laws, the bride should not sleep the next morning, get up early to make breakfast for the whole family, and greet the elders at home with the groom.

On the third day after marriage, the groom will accompany the bride back to her family. The gifts brought are roughly live carp, which means more than one year; Vermicelli means good days and long-term future; Wine means eternity and so on. Gifts should be in pairs. Go back to your mother's house with the sun on your head and return before sunset. Your mother's house is not allowed to live in. When the young couple leave, the bride's family will return some of the gifts the young couple brought, and then add a few more for the young couple to take back to their in-laws.