How to pay homage seven days before death?

The old people said that in the first seven days, people's souls were still floating around, always watching their hometown on the homesickness platform. In the middle of the first seven nights, their relatives burned a ladder-like thing next to their chimney, called "ladder". Only by burning this ladder can the soul follow it to heaven. Although this is just heartless, we should trust our relatives, even if they are superstitious. Who wants to let their loved ones be wronged in this matter?

The first seven, China people's funeral custom, is based on the time of the deceased's death, plus heavenly stems and earthly branches to calculate the date and hour, but everyone used to think that "the first seven" refers to the seventh day after death.

Different places have different "first seven" customs. But it is generally believed that the soul of the deceased will go home in the first seven days. Family members should prepare a meal for the dead before their souls come back, and then they must avoid it. The best way is to sleep. If you can't sleep, you should hide under the bed. If the soul of the deceased sees his family, it will make him miss and affect his reincarnation.

It is also said that the soul will wander around before the "first seven" after death. When they come home at midnight on the first seven days, their families will burn a ladder-shaped thing at home and let their souls go up to heaven along this ladder.

After his death, his first seven trips home came from the Tibetan Death Sutra (also known as Yin Zhong Salvation Dafa).

The July 7th in Northeast China refers to the first seven, the last seven, the May 7th and the July 7th. Burning paper is a custom of Han people now.

After the founding of the People's Republic of China, although the funeral customs in the county have been innovated, farmers' families generally still hold funerals according to the traditional customs along the history.

(1) Prepare for the "afterlife". When you 100, you will die. When people are old, I or other family members should prepare things for them to use after they die. The most important thing is the coffin, followed by the shroud. According to local customs, these two things are usually prepared before the old man dies. In the past, cypress was the best wood for preparing coffins. The thicker the board, the bigger the coffin, the better. The shroud should be prepared with clothes, pants (skirts), shoes, socks and hats. Clothes and trousers should be made of cotton, and the colors of shroud are mostly red and blue. Avoid black and flowers. These spare items seem unlucky, but no one is afraid. Some people have been prepared, and as a result, they will not die for many years, so they have to keep their clothes and "houses" in another world for backup.

(2) Etiquette and Custom During the serious illness of the elderly, children must accompany them, otherwise it is unfilial. Family visits must bring gifts, otherwise the patient will die and will not be able to face the deceased and their families (except those who don't know). All important relatives should visit patients many times. When the patient is critically ill, he should inform his important relatives who are not around him to come to prevent "complaining" afterwards.

(3) Before dying and dying, children should be guarded by their side, and cut their hair (women comb their hair), wash their faces and feet, and look at the shroud. The whole family was very sad when they died. When folding, the face of the deceased was covered with yellow paper, and the book "Cover Paper" was written; Holding a copper coin in his mouth is called "money", and holding a copper coin or coin on his back is called "carrying money on his back"; Handstring cookies are called "dog cakes", and the number of cookies is equal to the age of the deceased. A black porcelain lamp, called a "soul lamp", was lit at the head of the coffin, and a pottery basin was placed for burning paper during the funeral. A shed called "Lingpeng" was set up in front of the coffin house, and a table was set up in the shed to hold a mourning ceremony. "Soul paper" is placed outside the courtyard, and the number of white strips is equal to the age of the deceased.

(4) Filial piety is white. The son shaves his head, wears a diagonal hat and points hemp, which is called "wearing hemp"; The rope tied to the waist mops the floor, which is called "waist rope"; Wearing sandals barefoot and holding a wicker funeral staff wrapped in soul paper. The daughter-in-law has long hair, a crown, a rope around her waist and sandals. Daughter Dai Xiaotong and daughter-in-law My nephew wears a square hat, and my grandson wears a persimmon flower hat. The son-in-law, nephew and son-in-law of the hanger are wearing mourning belts and Boxer hats; Sun's husband and granddaughter's husband wear hats of dutiful son and "persimmon flower"; The rest will wear boxing hats.

(5) Sending soup is called "splashing soup" locally. Linshu people are usually buried three days after death. Before burial, make soup three times a day in the morning, noon and evening. Before the soup is delivered for the first time, the ceremony of "reporting to the temple" and "guiding the way" should be held for the deceased, and the report should be made to King Jing at the Earth Temple to guide the route. When delivering soup, filial piety is carried out separately. The male is led by the eldest son; The daughter is led by the eldest daughter-in-law, who carries the soup pot. Filial piety men and women must cry when they send soup, and the more painful they cry, the more filial they are; If you don't cry, you have no feelings for the dead and are unfilial. Every time soup is served, in addition to the mourning men and women, clothes hangers should kneel down to mourn, and the mourning children should accompany the sacrifice.

(6) The funeral home is called "Correspondence". On the day before the funeral, the person in charge arranged a list of relatives who should come to attend the mourning. Several people informed relatives around the country, and the letter holder took a white cloth strip and explained to each relative the name of the deceased, the time of receiving the hanger and the date of the funeral. Relatives pay their condolences according to the notice, commonly known as "hanging paper"

(7) If one of the spouses has died, the funeral ceremony should be held the night before the funeral. Write down the memorial tablet of the invited soul in advance, and then write an invitation letter to the spirit body. When the dutiful sons go to the alley or the suburbs, the person in charge reads the invitation to Ling, burns it, salutes and goes home. The soul of the deceased is going home. The first deceased and the second deceased enjoy sacrifices at home. This is also a way for filial sons and grandchildren to commemorate their late father or mother. At the dawn of the funeral, the soul of the deceased will be sent away, saying "send the spirit". Because then the dead will come back.

(8) The ceremony of sending the soul of the deceased out of the house on the afternoon of the funeral. By bereavement, filial piety, together with hangers.

(9) Send travelling expenses This is when the living will return to another world for the dead, and send food, clothes, flowers, use and other things. Besides burning paper, there are also cows, horses, sedan chairs, cars and vaults, silver vaults, boys and girls. Burn it with the memorial ceremony, and the ceremony will be completed.

(10) After the funeral, it was followed by the funeral, which was also called "pulling coffins" locally. The ceremony of pulling the coffin is simpler than the ceremony of seeing off the gods and sending money. Before receiving the coffin, the dutiful sons should bow down to the wooden frame on which the coffin was placed or the vehicle pulling the coffin, which is called "worship the frame" or "worship the car" to pray for the safety of the deceased on the way home. Later, on the way out of the hospital, Xiao Wen knelt in front of the coffin. The moment the coffin started, the person in charge put the "old basin" on the eldest son's head and smashed it into a circle, which was called "breaking the old basin". Then, a cheeky team composed of strong neighbors carried the coffin into the grave, or pulled it into the grave with cars and tractors. At this time, the neighbors of Zhuang, who were helping, took shovels, shovels, cars and other tools to the graveyard to add soil and bury the dead. At the funeral, the dutiful son and the main male relatives should be sent to the cemetery until the coffin burial ceremony is completed.

(1 1) It is said that after death, although there is a funeral, the soul will not leave the morgue for five or seven years, so it is necessary to wake. It is the children, grandchildren and nephews of the deceased who wake up. They sleep in the grass shop in the mourning hall, sleeping with the dead, and they are not lonely. Wake on January 5.

(12) Look at the grave. Three days ago, my children and grandchildren visited the grave every night, which was called "watching the grave". Look at the grave. It means that the living comfort the dead, and it also means guarding the grave from theft.

(13) On the third day after burial, I went to the "Sanri Tomb", the seventh day to the "Touqi Tomb" and the second day to the "Erqi Tomb".

The custom here is to visit the grave every seven days and stop on May 7th.

Of the five graves that must be visited every seven days, if the deceased has several boys, there is no need to visit the grave on the seventh day. Because it is said that the number of sons of the deceased and the number of graves every seven days are taboo. Among them, the May 7th Grave is the most important.

On the day of the funeral, the notice of mourning is the May 7th Sacrifice Day, indicating the specific date of the May 7th Sacrifice Day and inviting relatives and friends to come.

All important relatives and friends will attend the memorial ceremony on May 7th.

The ceremony will be held in the afternoon, and the guests attending the commemorative ceremony will hold a banquet at noon.

For a dead person, after going to the grave for five or seven times, he will go to the grave for a hundred days every hundred days, go to the "anniversary grave" every year, go to the "three-year week" every three years and go to the "ten-year week" in the ninth year ten years ago.

Folk funeral custom is formed in the long river of history, which contains feudal superstition, but also deeply contains the affection, friendship, care and memory of the deceased by future generations of mankind. The dead are gone, everything is unknown, and the living are unforgettable, so they treat the dead with their own spiritual path.