Advice to parents of preschool children

The first batch of invited family education experts from Henan Provincial Department of Education, and the head of the pre-school sub-group of Henan Family Education Lecturer Group.

1. Parents should be children's allies and partners, not supervisors, coaches or judges.

2. When we are aware of children's irritability and bad emotions, we can remind children to relax consciously.

3. It is very important that children are willing to continue to do one thing and "feel good".

4.3 to 6 years old is the best time to cultivate a person's awareness of rules, which plays an extremely important role in children's habit formation, concentration ability, emotional stability and even happiness in life.

5. Educate children not only to have temperature, but also to have scale.

6. Rules should be issued in advance to minimize punishment afterwards.

7. Try to explain the consequences to children when making rules, preferably related to their immediate interests.

8. It takes strength to educate children. It should conform to the child's feelings and rhythm. If you use the wrong direction and method of education, children will fly you.

9. For families with a second child, parents should consciously arrange one-on-one time with their children.

10. We can't change the innate factors, but we can adjust the acquired environment. The most important environment for children is the family environment. Family support is to help children change gradually by providing specific advice to parents, optimizing parent-child interaction, improving family environment.

1 1. A healthy emotional state is not without negative emotions, but with more positive emotions. Actively increasing positive emotions is equivalent to actively supplementing nutrition to children's brains. Parents can actively adjust the interaction mode in daily life according to the three-level needs of children's emotional development (security-self-confidence-emotional flexibility) to help children build a ladder of emotional healthy development step by step.

12. Our attitude towards children and the way we interact with them are greatly influenced by our own emotions. On the surface, it is blaming children, and the driving force behind it comes from parents' own anxiety.

13. Adults' emotions can be adjusted and improved through self-awareness and self-pity. Parents also need support and need to store cups. No one has endless water in his cup, but he can only get out but can't get in! Only when you have settled yourself down can you establish contact with your children and embrace a relaxed and happy parent-child relationship. Therefore, the emotional state of adults is the premise. Next time you feel tired and exhausted, remember to find someone who can save yourself a drink, or list something that can save yourself a drink in advance to help you.

14. The level of parenting skills has been fully demonstrated in this "instant": the result-oriented depends on whether parents love their children or themselves more at this moment!

15. Have we become what we most longed to like when we were children, or what we hated when we were children?

16. Parents who love themselves will pour out their bad feelings to their children without thinking, simple and rude, free and carefree. Parents who love their children will control their primitive instincts, see more the helplessness and pain of their children, and actively assist their needs and feelings.

17. Parents' faces are the color of children's sky ~ It is not difficult to make children happy.