Reading excerpt from human weakness (1)

1.？ In case of collecting honey, don't trip over the hive.

Warner Meg, the "father of department stores": It is unwise or even stupid to blame others.

Ninety-nine percent, no one will blame himself for anything, even if his mistake is very serious.

Criticism is useless because it makes people feel contradictory and urges him to try his best to defend himself. At the same time, criticism is also dangerous, because it will hurt a person's self-esteem and arouse his disgust.

Hans Shirley: The more people want to be recognized by others, the more they are afraid of being criticized.

Don't judge people, in order not to be judged by others.

From a selfish point of view, self-improvement will benefit you more than others. (self-improvement, lifelong benefit)

If you want to be tolerant and open-minded, you need to work hard on your personality and restraint.

The greatness of a great man can be seen from how he treats a humble person.

Understanding can make people tolerant and inspire people's kindness.

Understanding is a kind of tolerance. A happy life is half awake and half drunk; The heart is divided into two halves, half awake and half tolerant and understanding. )

2.？ The secret of interpersonal communication

The only way to make you willing to do anything is to give you what you need. (i.e. suitable bait)

Whoever can truly satisfy other people's inner desires can hold people in the palm of his hand.

Many insane people can find a sense of being valued in their fantasy world that is not available in the real world.

Sincere praise can change a person's life. The way you speak determines the level of emotional intelligence. )

The people we deal with are ordinary people who need recognition and appreciation, and they will be refreshed by our praise.

Where warmth is needed, try to pave a friendly road with the spark of gratitude. You have to believe that when you come back here again, you will find that they have become the flame of friendship and will repay you warmly.

Laughter and condemnation can't change the status quo, but sincere praise can.

Time will go forward forever and never come back. Therefore, if I can get anything that is beneficial to anyone, I should do it immediately, without stint, without shirking or paying attention. Because this moment is over, you can't start over.

Emerson: Of all the people I met, there must be someone better than me. I made progress by learning from their strengths.

Please put down your utilitarianism and desire, try to find the advantages of others, then put away your hypocrisy and appreciate it sincerely.

3.？ Think from someone else's point of view.

It is human nature that you care about your own needs and will always care; But others, they don't care what you value, because like you, they only care about what they want.

Talking about the needs of others is the only way to influence others, and on this basis, tell them how to get what they need.

Harry O 'Foster's Behavior Affecting Human Beings: The most fundamental driving force of behavior is human desire ... Whether in business, at home, at school or in politics, if you want others to listen to you, the first way is to arouse their strong desire.

The winner takes the world, and the loser takes the lead.

Henry Ford: If there is a secret of success, it is to understand others' ideas from their standpoint.

People will always face all kinds of problems, so what people need is a solution to the problem.

William winter: One of the most basic needs of human nature is to prove yourself.

1.？ The mystery of fashion

Alfred adler's The Meaning of Life: There are people around who have no interest in their partners; Such people often encounter setbacks in their lives, and always bring trouble and harm to people living around them. Living around such people is like living in a cold winter, and life is hard to show.

Alfred adler: If you want to write touching works, you must first be interested in people.

If you can really pay attention to others, you may get the attention of many people who are willing to communicate and cooperate with you.

Bringing your true feelings to him will not only bring you friendship, but also bring long-term partners to your company.

If you want to get others' love, establish true friendship and help others while helping yourself, you must remember this principle: show sincere interest and concern for others.

2.？ How to make a good first impression?

Actions speak louder than any words.

Encouraging education is more effective than punishing.

The power of a smile is enormous, which is often in a "latent" state and will not be immediately revealed.

Try to understand other people's thoughts.

The best way to create happiness is to do and talk happily, as if we were already happy. ...

Shakespeare: There is no distinction between good and bad in the world, but people's minds are divided.

Lincoln: Most people are as happy as they want. Their happiness depends on themselves.

The goodness in your heart will be conveyed through your smile.

A sincere smile can let them see the dawn of their efforts and let them know that there is still happiness in the world.

The meaning of a smile: it costs nothing, but it is priceless. It enriches the receiver, but it won't let the giver lose anything. It happens in an instant, but it is often remembered for a lifetime. Even if you have money, you must have it in your life; No matter how poor you are, you can't live without it. The happiness of home depends on it to build; The goodwill of work depends on it; Friendship between friends is reflected through it. It is the magic weapon to relieve fatigue, the dawn of the frustrated, the hope of the sad and the natural antidote to the troubled.

3.？ Remember each other's names.

Jim Farley: Ordinary people are always more interested in their own names than others.

In fact, the reason why many people can't remember other people's names is very simple, because they don't spend the necessary time and energy to pay attention to and repeat these names, so they don't keep them firmly in mind. They are always too busy as an excuse.

Franklin roosevelt: Remember other people's names and let others feel their importance.

Emerson: Good habits are bought by trivial sacrifices.

Everyone has absolute ownership of his name, and no matter who he is, he can't infringe upon or deprive him. A name is a reflection of a person's self-awareness and a sign that this person is different from others. When calling a person by his first name, he will pay great attention to and care about the information behind the name.

4.？ Learn the art of listening.

Jack wood Ford, a famous American non-fiction writer, loves a stranger: few people will resist sincere praise.

Praise others from the heart, praise without hesitation.

If you want to be an excellent speaker, you must first become a person who knows how to listen. Care and listen to others, ask questions that others are willing to answer, and encourage them to talk about their experiences and achievements.

5.？ How to arouse others' interest

Roosevelt: A convenient way to touch people's hearts is to talk about what they care about most.

Talking about his interests with the other party can bring a win-win situation.

6.？ Make others feel important.

If a person is selfish enough to pay a little kindness and a heartfelt compliment in return, he will get nothing and will not make others happy, nor will he say a compliment to others; If our souls are so narrow-minded, then you are doomed to fail because of your selfishness and narrowness.

Always make others feel important.

John dewey: The deepest motivation in human nature is the desire for attention.

William. James: In the depths of human nature, I am very eager to be recognized and appreciated by others.

Treat others as you want them to treat you. Do what you want to do to others. )

It is an eternal truth that everyone will feel better than you in some way. If you want to go deep into their hearts, then you should let them know that you really think they are important, and you really think they are important.

Disraeli: Talk to each other about themselves. I'm sure they won't sound bored for hours.