Media reports in Wu Ang

Wu Ang's life track after 1970s should be the life samples of many young artists. She used to be a reporter, but later she quit to sell articles at home. In the meantime, she does things by temper on and off. For example, she does handwriting analysis and dream research ... Of course, she also writes poems, novels and emotional columns.

To cultivate emotions, many people tend to choose technical schools. Wu Ang is obviously not one of them. She is an "internal strength school".

Among writers who write emotional columns, she likes Lian Yue. I agree with him that love is the biggest thing in the world, and that mutual help can drive readers to do some introspection in their familiar gender fields. She believes that we need an upgraded version of love education at present: in the parents' generation, the concept of free love is established, but how to find love and how to love is a new lesson. She advocates women's emotional independence, believing that being loved is a gift from heaven, full of accidents, and taking the initiative to love is a compulsory course in life.

At present, the fourth book in her emotional column series, Emotion is a Crime, has been published, which is also an opportunity for a reporter to interview Wu Ang and share an emotional columnist's attitude and understanding of love.

Misunderstanding of love: love is possession.

Beijing News: This is the fourth book in your emotional column series. What's the difference compared with the past? What kind of idea is "amorous is a sin"?

Wu Ang: Since I wrote my first emotional column, I have been from 30 to 38 years old, which is a very important stage for women. For me, I have a new and more mature understanding of love. This is also reflected in the book, which is more tolerant than the first three books. Usually in the concept, affection is love, but in fact it may not be, but it will also be hurt. Of course, this kind of injury is not in the legal sense. When I answer emotional questions, I don't have many moral boundaries. I follow the boundaries of human nature. Protecting marriage can have a legal position or a moral position, but I stand more in the position of love.

Beijing News: Have you summed up some misunderstandings in adult love at present?

Wu Ang: The most common mistake is to think that love is a kind of possession. I love you, and your time, money and energy will be under my control. Driven by external public opinion, modify your inner will, for example, others think you should get married and have children, and you should do these things; Toxic breakup, facing the emotional knot, taking a horrible and dramatic attitude; After being hurt in love, I use this as an excuse to enter the so-called incompetent state of love and think that I can't afford to love anymore.

Beijing News: What do you think of love failure?

Wu Ang: Failure in love means that your success rate will increase next time. However, many people don't want to work hard and suffer. They want to win the lottery at a very young age and meet true love and cheap goods, which is very unrealistic in modern life. In life, one of our common sense is that when we are away from home, we rarely can't find our wallet, but it is easy to step on shit. Just like looking for a job, the first job is not necessarily the best one for you, and so is love.

Beijing News: Do you think there is a big difference in the perspective of love between men and women?

Wu Ang: Not long ago, when speaking in Yufeng Library, a man raised a question. He wants to arrange his wife and two extramarital affairs very technically. This reflects the perspective of some men that it is easy to treat love and emotion simply and rudely. This is an evil thing, full of deception and disrespect for women. Maybe it's because many men don't realize the physical and mental pleasure brought by a quality deep intimate relationship and can't find the value. There are many shortcomings in this.

In contrast, women are more likely to talk about emotions and are more concerned about the nuances of emotions, but they also have their own problems. Two of a kind is an interactive and mutually recognized relationship. But many women will be wishful thinking. Many women even use business management to control their husbands, which is terrible.

It's getting harder and harder to grow old together

Beijing News: At present, it seems more and more difficult to grow old together.

Wu Ang: It's getting harder and harder to grow old together, which is also related to the changes in modern life. Marriage is more and more like a game in which you and yourself grow up. When they met in their twenties, many ideas may not have been decided. But later, one may choose to be Ma Yun and lead a stable middle-class life, and one may choose to be San Mao and travel everywhere. If they choose different paths, their marriage will naturally separate like a forked hair. Change is not necessarily a change of heart, but the result of his own growth.

Marriage is more of a process in the connection of everyone's life. Being married for several years is a kind of experience for you, and the next partner may be better. If this understanding is to be established, it is not a bad thing that the divorce rate is high.

Why is it difficult for young literary women to marry?

Beijing News: But if a woman is independent in many ways, she may have less and less demand for men. Especially young women in literature and art, it is usually more difficult to marry. Why?

Wu Ang: We should also reflect on marriage. Why do we have to get married? Why can't there be a relatively loose relationship between the opposite sex? This choice can reduce the responsibilities and connections in marriage. This requires the whole society to change many concepts.

It is difficult for young women in literature and art to get married, because they like a non-model life, which is a complete set, which will become a constraint for many men who tend to choose a stable life. But this is not a problem. She can live a romantic life and travel around the world with a sword, full of uncertainty and drama. However, if we are entangled in the issue of marriage, it will expose the non-literary characteristics. You can't be a small boss in a private enterprise, and there is no state-owned enterprise that requires welfare treatment.

Beijing News: Most of the bad stories you encounter when writing emotional columns are emotional. Will your confidence in love be affected?

Wu Ang: A few years ago, I mentioned that there are too many insecurities in the feelings of adults nowadays. Many economic and social anxieties are brought into intimate relationships.

However, in recent years, I feel that the information I received is changing. The younger generation in China received more information through the Internet, and they began to choose a non-model life, and their emotional tolerance became wider and wider. In the letters received, there are fewer and fewer introductory questions. Some people plunged into it, and some people got up and slammed ashore. Wu Ang said, I won't make a movie for many years!

Wu Ang, a Fujian writer, shot many blockbusters, such as House of Flying Daggers and Huo Yuanjia. Before that, she founded Jialong Independent Production Company with her friends and made a meaningless online video "Crazy White Collar". She is a film producer.

In 2007, Wu Ang went to the United States to study. Since then, she has stopped making movies. "Why? Very simple, don't do it if you don't like it! "

The producer's work is very complicated, from the planning of the film, to finding investment, to publicity, all of them have to participate. "I was born a withdrawn person. Although I can handle five or six people in the crowd, that's not my cup of tea. The film circle is vanity fair, and I am not proud of it. "

Orphan of Zhao was planned from the beginning. "I don't want to talk about these old things, and then talk about those films. I feel like a doorman in the Warring States period. I need to rely on these things to fool people and give myself gold, but many projects really started with me. Later, I did it and did it very well. " Wu Ang was born in the media, and she also shouldered the heavy responsibility of propaganda. "I know the interest of the media too well."

Wu Ang is a woman with a heavy heart. "I am willing to try anything. For me, the movie is just a ticket. I have learned a lot and satisfied my desire, but I am still not suitable for the lifestyle of making movies. My movies are also very popular, and I also like commercial movies. I'm not interested in the masterpieces of young artists. I don't have a movie dream, but I have a dream of writing and painting. Making a movie is too long and painful, and it takes too much hard work. I am a person who doesn't like squatting and would rather do something refreshing. "

However, this film is not without gains for Wu Ang. "The structure of the novel may be difficult for female writers. You must tell the story very comprehensively. The reason why you rarely write long stories before is the fear of structure, but as a producer, you have to keep talking about drama and drama, and I have also learned editing skills, which is useful for novels. "

Wu Ang has been very creative recently. At the beginning of the year, what day is Monday was published, and then the Gift of Bill Gates, The Man in the Bottle and Two Germans were published. In her novels, there is always a word "thousand". "I like the name of this role. He is a nobody and will appear in different identities and stories. They are either lesbians or aliens. They are losers. Maybe we have a shiny surface, but this is the' Qian Qian Absolutely' in our bones. "

If a film company took a fancy to your novel and wanted to make a movie, would you? Wu Ang smiled and said, "I know a lot about movies now. Movies are just so unreliable. There are too many factors that determine their success or failure. If their price is right, let's talk about it. But I prefer to present my novel as a stage play, which is more reliable. "

Now, while writing, Wu Ang runs a psychological counseling Taobao shop, and also does some handicrafts, far away from the film circle that once played a ticket. Wu Ang said, also very good. At least I know where my standards are and where my interests and values are.

Wu Ang, born in 1974, is from Zhangpu, Fujian. He worked as a journalist, writer and columnist, and also published the lower body poetry school.

In 2007, Wu Ang returned to the poetry circle, and won a new creative height and extensive attention with a series of poetry works such as The Jew. This year, he founded the handmade brand "Shu Handmade" and opened a psychological counseling Taobao shop. "I never thought that what I am doing now would be the last state of my life, which is very unpredictable.

At present, the integration of gender relations requires a female writer like me to understand and tolerate men, not to incite stronger male hatred.

I don't think sympathy is the best attitude towards women. Compassion itself implies that they are weak.

Female friends, please always love life and men as a beautiful young lady. "

There is a handwriting analysis/dream analysis shop on Taobao called "Wu Ang aphrodisiac shop", which is expensive and has a good business. It took more than half a year to reach the Four Hearts. A buyer commented: "No one has ever known me like this ... everyone needs Sister Wu." Wu Ang's works have the power to point directly at people's hearts. With her natural sensitivity and later study, she made bold moves in other people's emotional entanglements and spoke without mercy. People nicknamed her "Spicy Love Doctor".

personal file

Wu Ang used to be a journalist, but now he is a poet, writer, columnist, screenwriter and Taobao shop owner.

Wu Ang's most recognized identity is a writer, but at present, a large part of her work is emotional counseling or handwriting analysis for others. In short, she is a state similar to that of a psychologist. In addition, pure literary creation continued, and works were published in publications such as Flower City, Everyone and Furong.

Talk about spicy love doctors.

Wu Ang accidentally became a "love doctor". Six years ago, an editorial classmate of a newspaper in Hangzhou asked her to help build an empty window for three months to solve the emotional confusion of letter readers. As a result, Wu Ang's words unexpectedly became popular, and the "empty window period" became a "VIP table" and a "love doctor" for more than six years. The reply was also published as "Who's the Lover". At present, this newspaper, the Oriental Morning Post in Shanghai and the Daily Business Daily in Hangzhou all have Wu Ang mailboxes to prescribe prescriptions for the city.

June, 5438+October, 2008 10, she was fascinated by handwriting analysis and opened a Taobao handwriting analysis shop to help people interpret their dreams. Although the passenger flow in the store has been relatively flat, it is much better than she expected. "I didn't expect people to accept handwriting analysis as a mind-reading so soon. From a commercial point of view, I can't say how powerful it is, but from the perspective of the influence of consumption concepts, it is still beyond my expectation. "

Through the print media and the Internet, Wu Ang soon had a group of regular fans. I once said that her words were too sharp, ironic and not gentle enough, but someone bought it. To borrow a buyer's words from Taobao's "Wu Ang aphrodisiac store", Wu Ang's analysis "made me angry and embarrassed at first, but after I calmed down, I knew everything you (Wu Ang) said was right." With this ability to recognize people and distinguish wisdom, after half a year, Taobao shop rushed to the four hearts.

In Wu Ang's view, opening a mailbox or opening a Taobao shop is a kind of communication, and she enjoys the fun of "communication". For example, her mailbox and online shop are called "her serials" by her. She especially likes to associate with people with very different backgrounds, such as foreign trade, and tell her how to do foreign trade business. Mothers with children tell her about parenting lessons, which makes her space broader and richer.

Psychoemotional expert? A writer?

At present, Wu Ang is a freelancer. He works during the day and never stays up late. In his spare time, he cooks, walks, reads, updates his blog, listens to classical music and jazz, takes interesting photos, goes to libraries and bookstores, and rarely meets people. The composition of income is very simple: manuscript fees, royalties, and handwriting analysis for people in Taobao shop.

"To be exact, I am still a writer, and psychological and emotional experts seem to be proper terms in the media? It sounds like learning is not good. " As Wu Ang said, psychological counseling is only a part of her many jobs, and she chooses the identity of a writer more often.

Wu Ang settled in Beijing, but lived in the United States most of the time, "because I set the work at hand to be done through the Internet, and then I was liberated, and geography did not prevent me from staying." This state is really the envy of all nine-to-five office workers, but it is difficult to follow suit.

Wu Ang, who is like a duck to water in the United States, traveled all over the city to consult handwriting experts, collected the handwriting of celebrities from all over the world for "practical exercises", learned dream analysis from people who are better than her, and of course learned novel writing.

Wu Ang found that psychology is very mature in the United States, and ordinary people's acceptance of psychological counseling is extensive and in-depth. In the United States, there are all kinds of psychological counselors: marriage counselors and career counselors, and there are psychological counselors for any troubles. Psychological counseling industry is divided into very fine lines. "At this point, China is relatively backward, but I think China people also need it. This industry belongs to the sunrise industry in China. "

■ Wu Ang perspective

Look at yourself.

A spicy love doctor who speaks from a man's standpoint

Reporter: "Spicy" is obviously reflected in your emotional column. Many people mistakenly think that you are a man, and your position in writing letters seems to be generally on the side of men. Do you think women are not worthy of sympathy?

Witch: Regarding the status of men, I think there are two aspects of women's power in history. One is that women actively strive for it, and the other is that more men understand and support it from the perspective of women. At present, with the integration of gender relations, I have always advocated that men in love should learn from women and gain true independence, freedom and happiness. I don't think sympathy is the best attitude towards women. Compassion itself implies that they are weak. What they need is heartfelt respect, more maturity and autonomy.

Reporter: What do you think of the role of "malicious words" for people who are caught in emotional entanglements? Some people call you a "spicy love doctor" for this reason. What do you think of this title?

Wu Ang: Bitter words are mainly due to the limited space of the reply and the rain in Mao Mao, so I'm afraid it's not enough to write a book. Zen makes people enlightened, and they all come hard or hard. Comfort and touch, readers around you can do it. When they write to me, they must be helpless and eager for stronger help. The title of "spicy love doctor" is quite good, I don't mind.

Reporter: Will you be "spicy" when you encounter emotional troubles yourself?

Wu Ang: I am a very strict person with myself. I tend to be a bit of a workaholic, and I don't pamper myself on emotional issues. I can let go. Generally speaking, I'm not used to talking and complaining. I think I have a wide range of interests, love life and an understanding attitude, which can keep my heart in a relatively healthy state. I also want to allow myself to be depressed and unhappy sometimes, and occasionally find a friend who is more mature and stable than me to be my own psychologist.

See emotional counseling

People who do emotional counseling should at least know how to love.

Reporter: You have opened columns in many newspapers all over the country to answer people's emotional questions. Do you think you can be called a psychologist? What advantages do you have over a qualified psychologist?

Wu Ang: I have never called myself a psychologist. I have the same high standards for psychologists and writers. Freud was a psychologist, Lu Xun was a writer, and most people were just practitioners. I have great respect for those who have been trained. This is not modesty. As for my own advantages, I have a wider range of cases and better language skills. In addition, I am deeply curious and concerned about people themselves, which makes me have endless fun.

Reporter: What kind of personality do you think is suitable for emotional counseling?

Wu Ang: People who are suitable for emotional counseling don't need a fixed personality template, but at least they should understand the meaning of love, people and things, and it's best not to be so emotional and narcissistic.

Reporter: What are your personality characteristics?

Wu Ang: There are several points in my personality: optimism, boldness, and my own principles. I am actually kind, but I am deeply hidden.

Look at women.

Young girls often suffer from inexperience.

Reporter: What is the gender and age of the person who usually buys your handwriting analysis?

Wu Ang: My guest officials are mainly women, because the price of analysis is not low, and most of them are in their thirties and forties.

Reporter: Why do you think they bought it? What kind of psychology?

Wu Ang: Handwriting analysis has certain objectivity and accuracy, which is why our online shop customer service accepts it. The advantage of online shop is to keep the comments of old customers, so I don't need to persuade people to accept it endlessly, but it will be a long and gradual process. These Hakka officials have one thing in common: they are more concerned about their own hearts, and people who have problems in their lives, emotions or interpersonal relationships want to actively understand and change it.

Reporter: What types of emotional problems do women often encounter, such as emotional problems that women usually commit?

Wu Ang: Most of them are women who are caught in a triangle relationship and have extramarital affairs. Young girls often suffer from inexperience. Once they talk about love, they fantasize about each other's absolute personality. When they broke up, they were hit hard. A mature woman is a wife in short. What is more difficult is that their marriage involves another woman. How do they keep their marriage safe and fresh?

Reporter: What do you think an emotionally mature woman should look like?

Witch: Know the meaning of love, brave enough to love, and have the ability to love.

Reporter: Give some practical emotional advice to women.

Wu Ang: For women, when you go out, they will call you Beauty and Little Sister. Therefore, female friends, please always love life and men as a beautiful young lady. Wu Ang likes to go to villages in Guizhou and Sichuan by train to find ancient embroidery and explore folk handicraft skills. This hobby finally made her comfortable.

"Shu" is a self-designed handmade brand founded by the writer, and formally joined the fair trade organization through the platform of "Le Chuangyi". "I only have a simple idea. I want to use the most exquisite materials, with the simplest handwork, and have a simple appearance. I want to be your companion at hand, touch it at any time, enjoy it at any time, stand the test of time, never tire of watching it, and so on. " Wu Ang explained the concept of "Shu" like this. She said that you can understand Shu as "tree", "Shu", "book" and "cooked", which sounds natural and stretched.

The value of handwork

Wu Ang is a casual and natural person. She has her own studio, and set up the "Wu Ang Wisdom Institute" in Taobao, which mainly analyzes handwriting, interprets dreams and aromatherapy. She likes to sew gadgets with simple materials and wander around different places like a bird. She found exquisite embroidery and ancient papermaking skills in Guizhou and Sichuan, and was addicted to them. She hopes that more people can get in touch with these handicrafts and folk skills, and she also tries to make craftsmen in poor areas get more economic benefits through their skills.

In some bookstores and creative gift shops in China, you may find some simple and practical things, such as ancient Guizhou handmade floral paper and cotton and linen ipad case with Shulong pattern. In Shunyi Villa District, handicrafts from all over the world in Wu Ang are very popular in physical stores.

Wu Ang will purchase Japanese cotton and linen fabrics, patterned fabrics sent by friends of fabric designers, and pure copper plum blossom buttons in the hands of craftsmen, so that they can make simple products according to their own design drawings or samples.

"Shu does not pursue the complexity of design, and hopes that the products provided to everyone are practical and durable. Handicrafts should not be influenced by the concept of changing seasons in fashion. "

"Handmade products have unique characteristics. If you have done it yourself, you will know how difficult it is. " Wu Ang believes that handicrafts contain the producer's unique wisdom and skills, from which you can feel the producer's quiet heart, which is what modern urbanites lack.

Fair trade and skill protection

With the help of Le Chuangyi, a domestic non-governmental fair trade organization, Wu Ang has found some cooperatives and non-profit organizations as OEM points in Beijing. She also found some family workshops and Miao women in poverty-stricken areas such as Guizhou and Sichuan to make products for Shu.

Due to the asymmetry of market information and the fact that middlemen earn a lot of profits, workers who provide productivity are often at the end of the commodity interest chain, and the final reward may only be 1%-6% of the retail price of commodities. Le Chuangyi, a member of Shu, requires craftsmen to earn no less than 10% of the retail price of goods. The first batch of "Shu" products raised this standard to 15%, hoping to preserve traditional skills by increasing the remuneration of craftsmen.

"These family workshops hidden in mountain villages can often find ancient skills with a history of hundreds of years. We buy them and actively recommend them to the outside world. " Wu Ang said, taking Guizhou ancient papermaking as an example, this process has been passed down from the middle of the Tang Dynasty up to now, with a history of 1000 years. From raw material processing to papermaking, it takes more than 10 processes to complete, and its production skills only depend on the words and deeds of the master, which usually takes 3- 10 years to master skillfully.

"Especially people with material surplus like us, who eat, live and wear more than the basic needs of people, should be given to the bottom of society. This is a basic fairness. " She said.

Wu Ang once signed a contract with Guizhou women to buy embroidery, and determined the purchase price. However, the embroidery she ordered was not as elaborate as before. "Handmade is not suitable for mass production, mass production and commercialization. You must know the characteristics of handicrafts before you can engage in this industry. If we want to develop into a large chain store, continuous reproduction and industrialization will destroy the core value of handicrafts. My idea is very clear. " Wu Ang believes that not everything should be aimed at speed, development and profit, and not all commercial forms should follow the rules of commercial society.

This time, I also brought a method of making oil pepper from Guizhou, and called it "Shu". She hopes that the handmade concept of "Shu" can penetrate into all aspects of life.