Will some traditional cultures and customs disappear in the future when young people begin to "break off their relatives" and refuse to pay with money? What effect will it have?

"Breaking off relatives" simply means basically not visiting relatives and being too lazy (unwilling) to have contacts with relatives. Some traditional cultures and customs in the future will definitely disappear or evolve into other forms of existence. The influence is undeniable. I'm a post-90s generation, and I don't like visiting relatives. Let's talk about this topic today ~

Recently, the topic "Why did this young man break up with his parents" rushed to Weibo for hot search, which caused a hot discussion among netizens. Young people, especially those born after 1995, began to break off their parents.

To tell the truth, it's normal for me to break up with my relatives. It doesn't mean that I look down on my relatives and have no contradiction with them. I just don't want to have contact and contact to save trouble. Talking is really hard! I believe many people are like me for the following reasons:

1, the impact of social development

After graduation, we basically work outside all the year round. Many people take root outside by their own efforts. Even if you can't take root, you can rent a house outside. It takes about ten days to go home a year. More people are in contact with colleagues, friends and even strangers. This new social system has become the main way of social communication for contemporary people.

Everyone has their own way of life. I can't be with my relatives, so others don't want to be my relatives! Think I'm a vampire ... most people will start a new social circle in their own circle. As for relatives, they just have some kind of "nominal title", which cannot be abandoned and confused.

2. Abandon traditional ideas.

In the past thousands of years, the traditional extended family has been the most basic organizational structure of China society. The older generation values having more children and more happiness, and pays special attention to the communication between relatives. Nowadays, with the changes of the times, the family in China is gradually disintegrating, splitting into smaller units, becoming more independent, attaching importance to private space and emphasizing the existence of self-worth.

From this perspective, the "divorce" of young people now is not a ruthless separation, but another way to adapt to and find family ties in this era.

3. Developed network

Nowadays, mobile phones and various electronic products emerge one after another. Even if you stay at home alone, you won't feel bored. If he wants to talk to someone, just send WeChat directly. I can chat with my friends and my parents, and it is better to chat with a stranger without shaking WeChat. Chatting with relatives is not easy to end the topic. Forced chat might as well let me go to eight o'clock in the morning and find three rooms and one living room.

Of course, what I said above is only three things in common, which are also influenced by various factors. Some traditional cultures and customs will gradually disappear with the passage of time, with mixed effects. Let me express my opinion:

? Impact 1: Pursuing independent life and paying attention to personal choice.

For thousands of years, traditional cultural customs such as unwilling to pay with money, refusing to give bride price and dowry, and no longer obeying "parents' orders and matchmakers' words" have gradually weakened. According to the traditional concept, the relationship between family and relatives is very important, and the older generation should strive to maintain it, so our personal equality and freedom will also be restricted.

If you don't care about these rules and regulations, but pay more attention to your inner choice, that person's freedom and equality can also be guaranteed, in other words, you can be more comfortable. From this perspective, this influence is positive.

? Impact 2: Indifference of affection

Any relationship needs to be maintained for a long time. Starting to cut off relatives means that you don't want to have contact with relatives. Over time, the relationship will become very weak, and even you and the other party will think that there is no such relative. In terms of affection, feelings will become indifferent, leading to alienation of family relations.

? Impact 3: Changes in community relations

People are social animals and used to rely on the help of relatives. However, with the continuous development of the phenomenon of breaking off relatives, they will change the traditional community relations and seek new ones.

As the saying goes, "A distant relative is better than a close neighbor". Most people prefer to be with friends who have the same views and topics, and a new social subject will be formed. We are no longer satisfied with the sense of belonging at the blood level, but eagerly look forward to the spiritual needs of cognition and love. After all, blood is invisible.

On the one hand, I don't like to leave my relatives because I'm afraid. On the other hand, I have nothing to talk about with my relatives. There is little contact at ordinary times. Now we get together to talk about work or marriage and children. Seemingly caring, it is actually uncomfortable. I always feel a little uncomfortable. I feel like a "masked tiger" and I have to laugh.

Especially in the face of relatives who like to preach, the other party is an elder and can't disobey. If they do this, they will complain to their parents, which is quite annoying, but they just don't want to associate from the heart. ...

My cousin bought a house near where I work and settled down. I didn't know it until the year before last when she came to my house to pay a New Year call. She invited me to her house several times, but I didn't go Maybe there is a reason for my self-esteem. After all, her successful career is not the same as our ideological level.

In order to cope with this phenomenon, we need to re-examine and understand traditional culture and customs to better adapt to social changes, and traditional culture and customs should also be innovated to keep up with the development of the times, which is very difficult on the whole.

In fact, the phenomenon of breaking off relatives is an important symbol of modern social changes, which may be more in line with the needs of modern people. What do you think of this? Welcome everyone to exchange and discuss ~