How to understand the relationship between teachers and students and how to establish a harmonious relationship between teachers and students.

Not long before building a harmonious relationship between teachers and students, a survey report on the psychological status of middle school students showed that only 2.06% students were willing to talk to their teachers when they had psychological problems. Nearly 30% of the students think the teacher is hateful and deliberately find fault with themselves when dealing with the teacher's criticism. Although there are some limitations in this survey, considering that some teachers and students in many schools openly object, students speak ill of their teachers and even threaten revenge (some of them do), we have to re-examine the old and brand-new topic of teacher-student relationship. 1. Building a harmonious relationship between teachers and students is an inevitable trend of the development of the times and education reform. It is a multi-factor relationship system in the social relationship system, which not only reflects the socio-economic, political and moral relations, but also includes the relationship between teaching and learning to achieve educational goals and complete teaching tasks, as well as the psychological relationship between emotional behavior. The relationship between teachers and students must be related to a certain economic foundation and serve it. In most periods of agricultural economy and industrial economy, teachers are the subject, master and authority of "preaching, teaching and dispelling doubts". Students can only passively accept knowledge, and the relationship between teachers and students must reflect "the dignity of teaching". In the post-industrial economy era, due to the arrival of knowledge economy, the demand for personality development is increasingly strong. With the continuous expansion of educational channels, educational management and educational means are gradually modernized and scientific, and the activity stage with teachers as the main body is gradually occupied by students. Therefore, the old teacher-student relationship is bound to be strongly impacted or even collapsed. From the perspective of educational reform, modern educational thought pays more attention to "people-oriented", and pays more attention to cultivating students' ability and developing their intelligence. The process of education is a process of interaction, mutual promotion and mutual improvement. As the most important interpersonal relationship in the school environment, the teacher-student relationship runs through the whole education and teaching process. The quality of this relationship is directly related to the effect of education and teaching, the realization of school training objectives, the psychological health and all-round development of students. In the process of education and teaching, if the relationship between teachers and students is in a state of equality, trust and understanding, then the harmonious and pleasant educational atmosphere it creates will inevitably produce good educational effects; From the perspective of students' development, having communication skills and cooperation consciousness is a necessary condition for career success. Optimizing the relationship between teachers and students can lay a foundation for the formation of students' sound personality and the improvement of their comprehensive quality. Therefore, building a harmonious relationship between teachers and students is the inevitable development of the times and educational reform. Second, the idea of building a harmonious relationship between teachers and students. Harmonious teacher-student relationship should be equal personality between teachers and students, democratic interactive activities and harmonious atmosphere. Its core is the psychological fit between teachers and students and the mutual acceptance of hearts, forming a loving and sincere emotional relationship between teachers and students. Its purpose is to fully develop students' personality in the spirit of autonomy. It should be reflected in: on the one hand, students develop themselves in an all-round way in mutual respect, cooperation and trust with teachers, gain a sense of accomplishment and life value experience, gain positive practice in interpersonal relationships, and gradually complete the establishment of free personality and healthy personality; On the other hand, teachers can make every student feel the dignity of independence and the happiness of spiritual growth through education and teaching activities. 3. This is not an alarmist story. The channels for imparting analytical knowledge about the factors affecting the construction of a harmonious relationship between teachers and students are constantly expanding, while the door to feelings is constantly narrowing. Over the years, it has been influenced by traditional concepts such as "Heaven and Earth are like teachers", "Master and apprentice are like father and son" and "Strict teachers make excellent disciples". Especially under the heavy pressure of "exam-oriented education", the teacher-student relationship is distorted and the teacher-student confrontation is widespread, which is mainly reflected in the following aspects: 1, the traditional concept of "showing dignity as a teacher" still exists among individual teachers, who can't put down their airs and treat students equally, resulting in tension between teachers and students. At the same time, some teachers lack art in management and communication, and the practice of replacing teaching with management, replacing sparse with blocking and replacing education with criticism has dampened students' self-esteem, made their behavior incomprehensible, widened the distance between teachers and students, and caused students' closed psychology or rebellious psychology. Under the heavy pressure of teaching achievement, teachers and students are tired of "grading". Unrealistic demands and overloaded homework have put some students and teachers under great psychological pressure. However, some teachers sneered at students with unsatisfactory academic performance and even corporal punishment in disguised form, which made those students excluded, their personality and psychology suppressed, and they could not find the sunshine of success, so they were tired of learning, tired of learning, and played truant. On the one hand, responsible teachers are forcing students to study; On the other hand, students who lose their freedom of choice and are forced to study regard the teacher's behavior as repression and aggression, and the relationship between teachers and students becomes tense and sharp over time. 3. Due to the arrival of online education, the channels for students to receive information are widened, and the proportion of information obtained from school teaching channels is reduced. However, teachers lack social information because of their busy work, which reduces students' trust and satisfaction with teachers. 4. The achievement-oriented evaluation method is deeply rooted, and it is impossible to implement a comprehensive and objective evaluation system, which makes some students' all-round development and personal potential ignored, and also causes the alienation of teacher-student relationship. There are many factors that distort the relationship between teachers and students, but its root lies in the deviation and improper behavior of our educational philosophy. In the long run, it will seriously affect the development of quality education. It can be said that building a new relationship between teachers and students is the premise of quality education. Four, some experiences of building a harmonious relationship between teachers and students In several years of education and teaching activities, I realized that the following points should be paid attention to in building a harmonious relationship between teachers and students: 1, love students. "Education cannot be without love, and there is no education without love", and love is the soul of education. Only by loving students can we correctly treat and tolerate the mistakes made by students and patiently carve every student. When I was a class teacher, I didn't know how to make those so-called "poor students" love learning. Until I found out that an old teacher often invited those students to the office to give them serious guidance after school, and found that he always asked these students to help him write on the blackboard and praise them in front of other teachers. Slowly, something surprising happened: these students actually began to ask questions to their teachers on their own initiative, and the phenomenon of being late was less, and they were no longer sick in class, and their grades were also improved to a certain extent. Seeing the progress of those students, I realized how important it is to love students, although it is difficult. 2. Give students respect. Respect is more important than love. Only by giving students respect can they feel the equality between teachers and students and the existence of self-esteem. Once they think they have lost their self-esteem, they will lose their upward motivation and spiritual support, which will lead to depression. On the contrary, they will get a source of upward motivation. I remember that after a collective labor, I praised an introverted boy in front of all my classmates, who usually speaks quietly. I said, "male students should learn from him in their work and show men's courage." Unexpectedly, since then, this student, who usually doesn't like performance and has poor grades, has performed better and better in various group activities, his grades have improved steadily, and his relationship with me has suddenly become much closer. I never understood why. It was not until I communicated with his parents that I understood what was going on: many students called him "sissy" because of his low voice. I didn't expect a casual compliment to change him. To this end, we should respect students' personality, wishes and privacy, and take all ways to affirm and appreciate students. 3. Do research on students. As Suhomlinski said, "Understand every child's spiritual world as deeply as possible-this is the first golden rule for teachers and principals". Only by understanding students' social, family background, personality differences, hobbies, psychological changes and development characteristics can we get along with students. Once I learned that there were several students with financial difficulties in my class, so I decided to apply for grants from the school for them. When I informed them to accept financial assistance, I saw their expressions of surprise and gratitude, and I also felt the joy of sharing happiness. I always thought it was the most successful thing I had ever done. 4. Let students become masters. Knowledge ultimately depends on the students themselves, and life ultimately depends on the students themselves. This determines the dominant position of students. Therefore, students should actively participate in practice, learn self-education, self-management and self-success, so that students' personality can be fully displayed. Many classes in our school have adopted multiple sets of class cadre rotation system, which has enabled more students to participate in democratic management, won favorable comments from students and achieved good results, and avoided the passivity of teacher-student relationship. 5. Change yourself. The relationship between teachers and students is unity of opposites. Teachers are in the main aspect of contradictions and play a leading role in sports changes. Therefore, the key to establishing a good relationship between teachers and students lies in teachers. As a teacher, we should first change our ideas, strengthen our self-cultivation, improve our professional ethics and teaching ability, and infect and conquer students with noble character and excellent quality. Many teachers get cheers from students every time they go to a new class because of this. Second, the role should be changed. In quality education, teachers are no longer soloists but accompanists, the center of the stage should be students, and the task of teachers is to stimulate students' interest in learning rather than their supervisors. This point has been fully reflected in the "double-teacher-one-book" teaching mode and the good educational effect of research-based learning in our school. To sum up, the establishment of harmonious teacher-student relationship depends more on the renewal of teachers' own ideas and the improvement of their quality, as well as the continuous improvement and improvement of their personality; It depends on the teacher's meticulous love and respect for students all the time. It is believed that the establishment of harmonious teacher-student relationship will generate strong educational energy and promote the continuous improvement of educational effect. References:

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