"Funeral comes uninvited, wedding comes uninvited." Why are there such rules for weddings and funerals?

This is a human accident in rural weddings and funerals. Because of the rules worn by the older generation.

Being uninvited means that if someone has a funeral, they should take the initiative to help with the funeral, and don't ask. This is actually because there is a funeral at home, and the family members are already very sad and have no mind to manage these things.

At this time, as relatives and neighbors, they will take the initiative to go to the host's house to help and mourn automatically. People in the same family will take the initiative to take the main responsibility, greet guests and so on.

If something goes wrong, no matter what conflicts the family and others have before, they will mourn. This is also the traditional thought of China people. What do people care when they die? At this time, you will feel the warmth of the world.

It means that if there is a happy event at home, the host family should make a list and invite every guest one by one to show respect.

This is the biggest etiquette when there is a happy event. If you are not invited, it means that your host family does not welcome you. It is naturally disgusting to come uninvited at this time.

We will prepare food according to the number of guests. If there are a few more people, it will be embarrassing if there is not enough food. So try not to let this happen.

And in rural areas, most of them are in vain. As long as they help, there will be a meal as a thank you. And happy events need gifts.

If your talent is not up to the average level of everyone, or too little, you will also be laughed at. Then go to eat a meal, which is a bit too unruly.

So most people still keep this traditional and ancient rule, because it is the inheritance of etiquette and civilization. Sometimes this rule is quite reasonable.