The tradition of going to bed

I have written many articles related to proverbs, because it is really interesting for China people to pass them on from generation to generation. From now on, most proverbs are not scientifically reasonable, but you think they are reasonable. Why? Because proverbs are the crystallization of life experience and wisdom, but some proverbs also have a certain agreement with modern science, which makes me have to admire the wisdom of ordinary China people in life, such as the sentence "Don't train your son before meals, don't train your wife before going to bed".

Don't teach children before meals. Literally, this sentence means not to teach children before meals. An interesting phenomenon is that many children most easily make adults angry, just before meals or during meals. Either because I am picky about food, or because I don't eat well, I was repaired when I was a child because my parents called me 1800 times and I still didn't want to wait.

Although children do it, adults must master the correct education methods, such as why children don't want to eat, whether they are unwell, whether the food is not to their liking, or because they eat too many snacks before meals.

Parents will reprimand their children if they don't ask why. No matter how good the food is, who still has an appetite, let alone children? It is adults who feel that they can't eat anything that goes wrong before meals, let alone children who are reprimanded.

If this goes on for a long time, children are often reprimanded before meals, and their fragile hearts can't stand it. They often get into a dead end and draw an equal sign between eating and being beaten. They will feel fear when they see food, not to mention enjoying food with peace of mind, which will lead to anorexia, and in serious cases, anorexia. Parents should have regretted it then.

Often, after the child is beaten, he is forced to eat by his parents with bad emotions. In order to avoid their parents, they will turn eating into perfunctory, eat a few mouthfuls hastily, or gorge themselves and escape from their parents' sight. Poor diet can lead to indigestion. What is even more frightening is that when the children are crying for food, your family just eats fish (this kind of food with bones), which will increase the number of people who are eaten.

In addition, in ancient times, productivity was low, food was hard to get and food was sacred. Although modern life is good, parents should also establish the impression of cherishing and respecting food in their children's hearts. A reprimanded lunch and an unhappy dinner are all disrespectful and bad for food.

Instead of reprimanding children before meals, we should take the opportunity to tell them table manners when they don't eat on time, when they are picky about food, and when they don't respect food, so as to improve their sense of time and teach them methodically and seductively. In any case, this is more effective than severe reprimand.

The sentence "Don't train your wife before going to bed" is obviously feudal. The word "training" was originally used in unequal relationships. Only people with high positions can use training for people with low positions. Boss trains subordinates, parents reprimand children, and teachers reprimand students. You can't do the opposite. In ancient society, men were superior to women, and it was natural for husbands to train their wives. It was against the rules for wives to train their husbands.

If in modern society, husband and wife are equal, this sentence also applies to women: don't train your husband before going to bed.

In fact, for ordinary people with traditional ideas in China, princes and princes have never been what they thought and what they didn't expect. The happiest thing is that the husband and wife are harmonious, the children are under their knees, and the wife and children are hot.

Many couples often ignore their children when quarreling, but don't underestimate their insight into the two closest people, parents. Couples who often quarrel will make their children lack a sense of family belonging and cause their children's personality to be distorted.

Although there will inevitably be friction in husband and wife's life, there is an old saying in China that quarreling at the end of the bed and quarreling before going to bed will definitely seriously affect the mood and directly affect the quality of sleep, which is not good for the next day's life and work. In addition, two people sleep in the same bed, but they are angry with each other, and neither one cares about the other. Normal husband and wife life is also difficult to carry on.

Between husband and wife, there will be many problems, such as economic problems, mother-in-law problems, which have been difficult for all mankind for thousands of years. No matter how advanced scientific means you use, it is impossible to solve human emotions, but there are many problems. As long as you can solve sexual problems, other problems are not problems.

Sleeping is a relaxing and pleasant thing, and sleeping with the one you love is even more pleasant. Imagine that you are facing great pressure in your daily life. Take a hot bath at night, lie in bed, sleep with your favorite person, and hug and blend with him (her). You will feel five words floating in the sky: that's nothing!

So, why not adjust your emotions before going to bed to make the other person happy, but let yourself go to sleep to make the other person fidgety?