How to teach a good child to understand without hitting or scolding?

"A loving mother is more than a child" this is my viewpoint on the matter of educating children all the time!

Nowadays, babies are the "baby bumps" in the family, and some families don't give birth to a second child, so a small family like ours in the post-90s, where the mom and dad are only children and the child is an only child, is simply the emperor treatment.

Who else scolds their children? Few and far between, even if the mother is in a bad mood one day, see the naughty children did not hold back the anger of the children hit the children, immediately in the heart and guilt, a hundred coaxed the children to be happy. I can only say that this is pushing the child into the abyss.

Isn't it true that as a "human being", happiness, anger, sadness and joy should be the most basic emotions? Why do you have to force yourself in front of your child? Children still cry and get angry occasionally, they don't pretend to be fake, they show whatever emotions they have, so shouldn't parents do the same? It's also important to let the child know that parents have emotions too, and cry, and get angry, and get anxious, and giggle, and that's what makes them real people.

And I'm especially not in favor of coaxing a child after hitting them. A hit is a hit, why do moms and dads hit their kids?

How many times has it been said, no unplugging, still unplugging, who do you hit if not the kid?

How many times has it been said not to touch the kettle, or touch it, shouldn't they hit?

How many times has it been said, no climbing on the windowsill, or climbing, when you really lose your child, it will be too late for you to educate your child.

The reason why children are children, the reason why they need to be raised by their parents until the age of 18, is because they are immature, they don't understand what is danger, what is death, what they can and can't do, what are the rules and what are the freedoms. All of this needs to be taught by parents, over and over and over again without fail.

Some people would say that you can be patient with your children about all these issues you cite. Patience? Once, twice, three, four, five, six, seven, eight times, almost every day, many times, but the child is a child, he does not realize what is the danger of a serious tone of voice in your mouth.

This time, I would choose to hit. Let him know that it hurts, know that this thing is not to be touched, "If I touch it, someone will hit me and my body will hurt", when the child has this realization, he will not touch those things that we have repeated many times. Then when he grows up and knows and understands the dangers, does he still need to be hit? Hitting a child is just that phase, so that he can get through the years where he has trouble communicating with adults smoothly and safely.

You hit him, let him know the seriousness, just do not feel guilty, what is there to feel guilty about! The love him, the pain him, as usual, love him, then he knows, mom and dad love him, only some things he can not do, do will make mom and dad angry, but also will threaten their own lives, this time the child will gradually grow up, he will become more and more understanding, you want to be a good boy appeared.

Recently, "Where Dad Goes Season 5" is super hot, inside the show Ying Caier and Chen Xiaochun's son Jasper got super people's favorite, some fans even want to go to Chen Xiaochun's home to steal the child, of course, this is the words of jokes to express the fans' love for Xiaochun.

We found that Ying Caier and Chen Xiaochun are both grumpy, the paparazzi also photographed many times Ying Caier lost his temper to Jasper, how come they both raised a child with such a high emotional quotient and so understanding. The reason is because they have rules in educating their children, what is not allowed is absolutely not allowed, and what is allowed, they give their children full support for him to try.

No scolding of course will educate a good child, but even the talented girl Bi Shumin choose to beat on the beat, then I am an ordinary mom how can not choose their own feel appropriate scolding way to educate the child.

Finally, I would like to remind you that you can hit, but you can't scold, and you can't hurt your child's mind too much, and many of the words that you scold out, he will believe. So, swearing can not scold, hit to have a reason to hit, and after the fight, and when the child calmed down, and the child to talk about why he hit him, and give a hug, that mom is love you, the child will understand.