The origin of a lady? What is the standard of a lady?

Definition of a lady The meaning of a lady's temperament and demeanor is definitely not the same as the traditional Chinese term of etiquette, it is the new historical conditions, the woman in the instrument, speech, demeanor, thinking and behavior on a unique Chinese characteristics of femininity, the real expression of the woman's pure, sincere personality. The traditional Chinese ritualistic thinking under the constraints of the lady is not worth advocating, because it erases the due charm and value of women. The kind of lady we advocate today is one who is based on traditional virtues without losing the values of modern society, a new woman in the context of a new civilization, a new culture and a new era. It is better to advocate being a lady than to advocate being a "barbaric girlfriend" or a "womanizer". This does not mean that it is a retrogressive, anachronistic, or a restriction of individuality, but rather that it will make women more individualized, attractive, and tasteful, and will restore the original face of women. First of all, a lady should be elegant in temperament. Cao Xueqin's daughters of the Red Mansion, all of them have a heart of love, talent. Among them, the sentimental Lin Daiyu is the most representative. Sister Lin is not only the representative of the "woman", but also the image of the "lady". For Daiyu, her virtuous side is characterized by elegance. If an elegant woman can be called "Daiyu", it means that she is first of all a more feminine woman. Daiyu, artistic, melancholy, like to read and write, she is talented, superior, to love has an exceptionally persistent pursuit; weak and sickly, congenital deficiencies, line of action at every turn as weak as a willow wind; Daiyu chaste, adhere to the "quality of the original clean and also clean to go," the creed. "Daiyu color of jade", "sadness condensation song Dai want to smoke", "flowers fly flowers Xie fly all over the sky, red fade incense broken who have mercy?" This woman with a mouth full of poetry, advocating classical reading, holding a handkerchief and lightly covering her lips, has attracted many generations of people to pity and cherish the jade, sighing and weeping. Her melancholy, aestheticism and classicism, her cold and faint love and sorrow, show the initial image of a lady with Chinese characteristics. She is soft on the outside, but wise on the inside. She lives in the culturally rich Grand View Garden, pursuing elegance and solitude, and her soul is a combination of sensitivity, intelligence, and melancholy. Lin Daiyu is a naive and straightforward woman who loves romance and advocates freedom. At a time when "a woman's lack of talent is a virtue", she secretly read The West Wing, and reached a level of intoxication. She would often recite the classic lines from The West Wing off the top of her head, which was a bit of a talent indeed. A lady should be an emotional woman like Daiyu. In front of her beloved man, she keeps the softest untouchable pain in her heart, a kind and affectionate heart, and the desire of all women for love. They are sometimes overflowing with emotion, sometimes shy; sometimes as gentle as water, sometimes naive and lovely; sometimes funny, exuding the innocence of the girl's breath. Of course, it will also be sad because of lonesome, will also be touched and tears. More importantly, you need to know what is appropriate, know when to appear, know how to show their own beauty. Although Daiyu was favored by JiaMu, but the overly delicate sensitive remind her to pay attention everywhere, always care, do not say a word more, not more than one step, for fear of being laughed at. In order to ensure that her "body is clean", in order to "come out of the mud and not be stained", "the nature of the clean and clean to go", even in death, she still wants to leave! Even when she died, she still wanted to leave --" You at least ask them to send me back to Daiyu is a flesh and blood made of water, with a sensitive heart and fragile emotions. The easy death of life, the warmth and coldness of human feelings, so that her deep eyes full of sadness of the world's wounds. She and Baoyu emotional setbacks, but also let her pain in the heart and lungs, daily accompanied by poetry and painting, spring to spring, will let her melancholy sadness. When "Daiyu buried flowers" of the frail figure appeared in the Grand View Garden, her sentimental complex emotions, is to associate their own encounters, worried about old age, she is in the shedding of a sentiment, a period of time. Daiyu, is a woman in love, which is very similar to the image of a lady. But the lady will never be in the wind and snow in the night to talk about a desperate love, because the modern lady's love is no longer the only one, she also has the other half of life - career. The fate of the lady will not be like Daiyu paid a lifetime of true love, but only fate; tasted a lifetime of tears, but can not undo the love and pain. Daiyu is indeed a woman of other flavors. She can often make some little sex in front of you, your appetite to hang sour, so that you have a kind of if not away from the feeling. But choosing Daiyu as a model is a big mistake for modern women, because Daiyu is a model of traditional lady, not a model of modern lady. The best choice for a lady is to choose Daiyu's elegance and to keep Daiyu's body as pure as jade, "the nature is pure and clean." Lady's speech to truly elegant and moving, in the possession of eternal smile and magnetic voice at the same time, must bear in mind the ten taboos of conversation with others and conversation avoidance. Ten taboos in conversation with others 1. Interrupt others' conversations or take over others' words. 2. Neglecting to use generalizations, making it difficult for the other person to understand your intentions. 3. Distracting your attention so that others repeat what they have talked about. 4. Continuously asking questions, making people feel that you are over-zealous and demanding, so that it is difficult to cope with. 5. Treating other people's questions carelessly, making people feel that you ignore and belittle them. 6. Casually explain a certain phenomenon, rash assertions, in order to show that he is an expert. 7. Avoiding the truth, containing but not revealing, so that people are confused. 8. Inappropriately emphasize some details that are irrelevant to the topic, making people tired and embarrassed. 9. When others are interested in a topic, but you feel impatient, immediately change the topic to their own interest. 10. Pretend to be wrong and inappropriate to the right point of view, pertinent advice, so that the other party suspects that you have the intention of teasing in the words. There is no such thing as a perfect person. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. People always have self-esteem, often do not want others to touch their own shortcomings, privacy, unpleasant things. Therefore, in interpersonal relationships, the speaker must seek to avoid. To talk to the object of some sensitive, special things, should be more for the sake of the other side. 1. Physical defects. Speaking to avoid people's physical defects, have to take the indirect way of expression. For example, a crippled person should politely say: "Your legs are not convenient, please sit down first." 2. Family misfortune. The death of a relative, the divorce of a husband and wife, and so on. If the person concerned does not take the initiative to mention it, it is not appropriate to talk about it abruptly. 3. Personnel shortcomings. Weaknesses in the way we handle people, or experiences and situations that are not honorable, are sensitive points that we do not want others to touch on. 4. When in Rome, do as the Romans do. "When you enter a country, ask what is forbidden; when you enter a country, ask what is customary; when you enter a country, ask what is taboo." This is crucial to socializing. As a lady do not think that you are born to attract people to like, talk to others, pay attention to avoid, in fact, is to understand people, respect people, civilized, cultured performance. If you can try to avoid unpleasantness, everyone will be happy. Facts have proved that a lady's elegant and moving speech will help socialize, help reflect the beauty of a lady's personality, and will add a few points to her beauty If a lady does not have the atmosphere, the charm will become commonplace, and it will be impossible to talk about a lady's virtue and understanding. The atmosphere of the lady can be a little powder, can also face the sky; can dress in fine food, can also be a little bit of food; can live in a wide building, can also live in thatched cottage; can be pointing to a thousand army, can also raise the case of the same eyebrow. In life, the natural atmosphere will be in some women to show extraordinary elegance, and the world as one, revealing infinite vitality. Atmosphere lies in the understanding of the body. Knowledge is not to comment on their own good and bad things in the world, but with a tolerant heart to treat all beings well. Women with this virtue in addition to the well-behaved and clever, but also added a graceful and elegant, calm and unhurried charm, cool as the breeze, bright like the moon. Atmosphere is manifested in the clothes and hats, but also in the hands and feet, but also in the eyebrows and speech. If a lady can enjoy every living moment while forging her own atmosphere of character that does not wither in frost, life and death, then the world is not just one more beautiful scenery, but one more model of human nature. The more such models, the greater the likelihood that the world will rise, the more noble and pure the lady's taste, admirable. Atmosphere must first learn to tolerate, allow others to live a different concept of existence. The world, there is nothing strange. Everything in the world, there is no absolute concept of right and wrong. Maybe you have a friend who is married to a man, but you believe that women should be self-reliant and not be subordinate to men. This is supposed to be the difference in the concept of life, you will not despise her, spit on her, right? Wisdom of the lady will not be so, they do a thing, every word first to consider whether to do so to harm others, how not to lose the lady's understanding of the original color. Everyone has their own way of pursuing, may be a different way to the same end, and ultimately we **** the same to achieve a purpose. Lady is not out of place, pretentious, but can be tolerant of others, know how to respect other people's choices, but also recognize different people's way of life. The atmosphere is also expressed in enthusiasm. The American writer Emerson once wrote: "No man can do great things without enthusiasm." The great poet S. Ulman also said: "Years and years only leave wrinkles on your forehead, but if you lack enthusiasm in life, your mind will be full of wrinkles." With enthusiasm, a lady will turn strangers into friends, will be able to sincerely tolerate others, will be able to make full use of the spare time to complete their own hobbies, will be in the mood to hammer the side of the supposedly virtuous. The enthusiasm of a lady will make you become broad-minded, abandoning resentment; will make you become relaxed and happy, even forget about the disease, of course, will also clear the weeds on the soul. The character of a modern lady should be soft inside and hard outside, and soft and strong, and under the soft and watery appearance, there is a strong heart beating. They are no longer the traditional lady's weakness, nor is it prohibitively strong women. Modern ladies y understand that the deliberate pursuit of toughness, and the woman's real inner world is too big a contrast, is no toughness of hardness. Therefore, the modern lady with the most gentle way for the most generous treatment. Moreover, they never abandon life and love, but rationally to love, fully enjoy the sweetness of love; they sincerely to live, enjoy all the beauty of life.