Traditional modesty and friendliness

China's traditional concept is modesty, so we prefer to belittle our children in public to show modesty and friendliness.

"Look at Xiao Ming, how clever he is. Every time, I hope our children are half as smart as him. " "Teacher, he is very disobedient at home and often lies." Mothers often scold their children in front of "outsiders", either intentionally provoking or unintentionally greeting, which is very harmful to children.

On the one hand, children feel inferior in unfair "comparison" On the other hand, the mother, as her closest relative, exposes her shortcomings to "outsiders", which will reduce the children's trust in her mother and hurt the feelings between mother and child.

Talk more about the advantages of children in front of "outsiders". Although it looks modest, it invisibly guides children to strengthen their own advantages, which will enable children to overcome their own shortcomings and move forward step by step.