Experience of Listening to Professor Li Meijin's Lecture

? It took more than two hours to listen to Professor Li Meijin's lecture. Teacher Li explained the law of criminal psychology, the importance of early family education and caring for children, the period and causes of children's psychological problems, and the problems that children have now, and how parents deal with them. These are the problems that our parents encounter in the process of raising their children.

? Through attending classes, I can also see more clearly the problems I have in the process of raising children. Some aspects are lucky and reasonable, such as: insisting on taking care of children and not letting the elderly help; Create free space for children; Make family rules. Some aspects really don't seriously study and think, and follow the "self-righteousness", such as: children should try their best to meet their own needs, girls should be rich and delicate, and so on. At last they got used to bad temper and selfish habits. Not learning the correct educational concept is really a lot of detours, and many things are irreversible.

? Teacher Li is right. Parents should keep learning and exploring themselves. The arrival of children is to let us know about life and see ourselves from children. If you can't complete your work and enrich yourself, how can you guide and communicate with your children? Now the child 14 years old, personality psychology is basically formed. Many things we missed, such as the sense of security and the cultivation of personality, are not easy to make up, but our parents can continue their own learning, enterprising, exploring and reflecting. This stage is the best time to study with adolescent children. We will focus on our own study and discuss with them instead of controlling and preaching, and they will have more. I'm asking myself, I always forget the most important thing. If I really study, plan and think about the rest of my life, my child, why can't she find her own life coordinates and life value? I have always believed in my children. I often analyze with her father. She is much better than my father and me, more confident and more open-minded, but we just don't believe in ourselves and always interfere with her. This is perhaps the problem that we need to solve most. Always on the road!

? At this stage, we are always anxious about our children's future and think that learning is their only way out. I don't know if there is something wrong with our values and we don't trust our children's abilities. We know that a healthy body is the most important, a healthy mind is the most important, and a sound personality is the most important, but we are still anxious, but our behavior and language show that academic performance is the most important. The reason we know this time is that we haven't found our confidence, so we want our children to realize it for us. They are also independent spirits. They don't want to carry on our dreams, others have their own lives. I think it's still hard to do.

? In the new year of 2020, when a large area of plague virus attacked us, so many compatriots lost their lives, so many relatives suffered, so many compatriots gave their lives, and so many people forgot themselves for others. Will we deepen our thinking? We will get to know ourselves again, know the environment we live in, think about why we live, and where we are going to take our children? How do we really regard the most important thing in life as the most important thing?

Class 8, Grade 1, Junior High School

Tako Zheng's mother.