Why do most mental patients expect too much from themselves and are not satisfied with the status quo?

Dissatisfied with the status quo, pretending to work hard, and finally achieving nothing. ...

When I saw the "basket case", I suddenly trembled and marked myself instantly. Is this about me? I admit, I am really dissatisfied with my present situation. I feel that I have no sense of accomplishment in my work every day, and my life is too stressful. So I actively study, write and take various self-improvement courses. Really positive! But now I have to ask myself: what is the conclusion? "progress" Or "nothing"? Is it an "active loser"?

I'm lost in thought ... I'm going through a process of "biting off more than I can chew" I have realized it, but I can't stop. I arranged too many things to learn for myself every day, only to find that all the progress was a little slow. When the result is far from the expectation, anxiety has always been with me. I need a correct methodology to guide my "self-salvation plan".

First, when you are not satisfied with the status quo, have you ever thought about your own problems?

It is difficult for everyone to remain objective when analyzing themselves, and I should be no exception. There are actually many problems in looking at myself objectively: first, I am arrogant. I always thought I was the most proactive. I always look at state-owned enterprises from the perspective of foreign companies, some of which are not grounded; Second, there are no fireworks. Always based on efficient work, lack of full communication and exchange with colleagues, which is not conducive to the development of cross-departmental work. The above two points are puzzles and problems in work. Third, the eye is superior and the eye is inferior. This problem is mainly reflected in the problem of self-growth. I have always thought that I have super learning ability, but in the process of practice, the speed is very slow, and the expected effect has not been achieved. Fourth, the sorting ability is poor. If you don't have a notepad every day, you can't continue your life. You can't master the basic life skills such as where to take things out and where to put them back, which leads to a lot of time wasted on finding things and packing things. Fifth, physical problems. Over the years, my weight has fluctuated. I know that a good figure will give me great confidence, but I can't keep it seriously. Dissatisfaction with one's body shape also brings a lot of negative emotions to life. The last three points are related to the disappointments in life.

Self-dissatisfaction with the status quo can be divided into "peripheral state" and "self state". I have tried to be as objective as possible about the problems caused by my self-state, and I am trying to change them, but my dissatisfaction with the surrounding state is hard to change. For example, people are really more willing to spend a lot of time trying to pass the buck; Everyone is more willing to form a gang to cheat; People are more willing to spend a lot of time talking about their parents' shortcomings; People brush friends, brush Weibo, and look at Tik Tok everywhere ... I really don't want to associate with these States, and I need to redeem myself.

Second, when you are not satisfied with the status quo, have you sorted out a clear path of change?

Actually, I want to say that I combed it, but I combed it too much. When there are many goals, there are no goals. Should I meet a better self and practice piano, chess and calligraphy every day? Or do you want to increase passive income by learning to invest and manage money? Or do you want to increase your active income through class teaching? Because I want to do everything, I slowly push it in all directions. After a battle, the key breakthrough and concentration are all the same ... in fact. When the goal deviates, time and energy can't keep up, and the effect is minimal, which is a natural result. Finally, I think, let's try to increase my active income first. At present, it is still a problem that must be solved in a short time, and it is also the fastest way to eliminate anxiety. When my active income increases, my passive income will also increase, because the way to increase my active income is to teach financial management courses, so my financial management level will increase accordingly during the teaching process, thus indirectly increasing my passive financial management income. As for becoming a better self, let's start by putting on every piece of clothes carefully and tidying up your body. We can't be quick and quick.

Third, when you are not satisfied with the status quo, do you strictly implement the plan to break the game?

When the goal is clear, it depends on the execution. I was tired enough because I scored too many goals before, but I didn't see the effect. Now that the goal is clear, how can we really break the game through practical actions? The process from planning to implementation is a particularly terrible process, because too many people plan to abort in this process. When a person has the ability to act, he has succeeded by 70%. Whether the plan is complete or not and whether it can achieve the expected results must be tested by actions. There is no real "preparation", but timely adjustment in the process. I didn't work hard until I loved it, but I saw my progress in the process of hard practice and found my true love with a sense of accomplishment. When we really implement it, we will all see our own changes, but the process of changing ourselves and achieving our goals is not slow, which will give us more feedback and motivation, so that we can continue to stick to it. Everything is difficult at the beginning, and implementation must be in accordance with iron discipline! No excuses, no rhetoric, no forgiveness. Because forgive yourself, you don't need to work hard in this life!

Every day, we are broadcasting live. No matter whether someone praises you or sends you flowers, you are the protagonist of this play. How the protagonist realizes the grassroots counterattack needs to be realized through the deduction of one episode after another, and the final success is not so abrupt. Be your own director, your own screenwriter and your own protagonist!

Change, from this moment on. ...