How to establish a good and harmonious relationship between teachers and students

First, getting rid of the shackles of traditional ideas is the fundamental guarantee for establishing equal and mutual assistance between teachers and students.

As we all know, in the whole process of our education and teaching activities, the relationship between teachers and students is a relationship system that contains multiple factors in the relationship between social groups. It not only reflects the political, economic, cultural and moral relations of society, but also includes the relationship between teaching and learning to achieve educational goals and complete teaching tasks, as well as the psychological relationship of emotional behavior. Therefore, establishing a harmonious relationship between teachers and students is the most basic requirement for educators and the inevitable trend of educational reform and development. This is because the teacher-student relationship is different from the general social relationship. In the traditional past, teachers have always been in the position of "preaching, teaching and dispelling doubts", dominating everything and being the symbol and authority of academics. Students can only passively accept knowledge, so the traditional relationship between teachers and students must reflect the dignity of teaching. However, with the advent of the economic era and knowledge economy, the demand for personality development has become stronger than in the past; With the continuous expansion of educational channels, educational methods, educational management and educational means are gradually modernized and scientific. Today, the activity stage with teachers as the main body has already been gradually occupied by students. Therefore, the old teacher-student relationship is bound to be strongly impacted or even collapsed.

First of all, from the perspective of educational reform, modern educational thoughts pay more attention to "people-oriented", cultivate students' ability and intelligence, and cultivate students' moral quality and ideological accomplishment. The whole process of education is a process of interaction, promotion and improvement between teachers and students. As the most important interpersonal relationship in the school environment, the relationship between teachers and students is bound to run through the whole process of education and teaching, so the relationship between teachers and students is directly related to the effect of education and teaching, the realization of school training objectives and the psychological health and all-round development of students.

Secondly, in the process of education and teaching, I think that if the teacher-student relationship is in a state of equality, trust and understanding, then the harmonious and pleasant educational atmosphere it creates will inevitably produce good educational effects; On the other hand, from the perspective of students' development, having communication skills and cooperation consciousness is a necessary condition for career success. Optimizing the relationship between teachers and students can lay a good foundation for the formation of students' sound personality and the improvement of their comprehensive quality, so establishing a good and harmonious relationship between teachers and students will greatly promote the improvement of teachers' teaching level.

Second, learn more about students and be their heartfelt mentor.

At present, most students are born in one-child families and are loved by their parents since childhood. Some students have developed many bad habits since childhood. For example, they don't even know how to dress, cook and wash dishes, let alone the hardships and difficulties of labor. They are called "the older generation". These students are not serious in class, lack self-confidence in everything, have no definite opinions when things happen, are highly dependent, are emotionally unstable, and are easily influenced by the external environment. They often mix with social idlers and fight. If such students are not educated and guided in time, it will not only bring great influence to families and schools, but also bring great harm to society. Therefore, we should take effective measures, guide in time, be reasonable, be emotional, communicate with them attentively, and really communicate with them from the heart. Use your own actions to influence them and be their mentor. Help them set learning goals, correct learning attitudes, encourage them frequently, and constantly educate and motivate them with the glorious deeds of advanced figures, and help them establish a scientific world outlook, outlook on life and values from an early age. If all our teachers can do this, even the worst students will turn around. Isn't that what we want? Therefore, I think the most basic principles of establishing a harmonious relationship between teachers and students should be equality of personality between teachers and students, democracy in interactive activities and harmonious atmosphere. Its core is the psychological compatibility between teachers and students, mutual acceptance of hearts, and the formation of sincere emotional relationship between teachers and students, thus teaching and educating people. Efforts should be made to fully respect one's personality, which is embodied in the following aspects: students develop themselves in an all-round way through mutual respect, cooperation and trust with teachers, so that students can truly gain a sense of accomplishment and life value experience, gain positive practice in interpersonal relationships, and gradually improve and develop free personality and healthy personality; At the same time, teachers can make every student feel the dignity of independence and the happiness of spiritual growth through their own educational and teaching practice activities. What impressed me the most was the year when I transferred to a township middle school. At that time, the school spirit and style of study were not very good, and the social response was strong. No one wants to give their children to this school, and no teacher in the graduating class wants to be the head teacher of the graduating class. So all the students with good grades left, leaving only 30 people in the class. The best one is the total score (this article belongs to the Voice of the Secretary, please visit www.wm338.com for more articles). Later, some students heard about the school adjustment and changed a newly transferred teacher (who participated in their class during the trial teaching) to be the head teacher of the graduating class, so some students inserted into our class with the psychology of trying, so more than 50 students (including Enron and Xingren Huilong), repeat students and repeat students got together, and several of them were stubborn students expelled from other schools. The quality of students can be imagined. First of all, after I reached an agreement with the school leaders, I actively cooperated with the school leaders and reached a mutual understanding. The school then contacted the police station to carry out activities to rectify the school spirit, especially school discipline. After many times of rectification and education, a semester has achieved initial results. Secondly, I understand and master the students' personality and psychological characteristics, and go deep into the students. Through home visits, I learned about all aspects of students, parents' attitudes towards students and requirements for schools. In the process of visiting and understanding, a series of existing problems and many hidden dangers were discovered in time, and several tragedies were avoided. I tried my best to do the students' ideological work, and negotiated with the leaders to do their ideological work repeatedly, and finally calmed down a lot of troubles. Our actions have influenced and touched students, and the real mutual understanding between teachers and students has greatly improved all aspects of students. After a year of hard work, our class finally achieved gratifying results. From this example, we can see that as long as we communicate with students and really be good teachers and friends of students, our education will be successful and further developed.

Thirdly, solving the related problems between teachers and students is the premise of establishing a good teacher-student relationship.

It is not an alarmist story that the channels for imparting knowledge are widening and the doors for feelings are narrowing. It is understood that in many remote areas for many years, it has been influenced by traditional concepts such as "killing a dutiful son with one stick", "a master is like a father and son" and "a strict teacher makes a noble apprentice". Especially under the heavy pressure of "exam-oriented education", the relationship between teachers and students is completely distorted, and the phenomenon of confrontation between teachers and students occurs from time to time, which is mainly reflected in the following aspects: on the one hand, the traditional concept of "dignity as a teacher" still exists among individual teachers, and the traditional educational concept makes it impossible for them to put down their airs, treat students equally, and correctly handle the relationship between teachers and students, which leads to tension between teachers and students. At that time, some teachers lacked artistry in management and communication, and always replaced teaching with management and sparse with blocking. This practice of replacing education with criticism has seriously hurt students' self-esteem (this article belongs to the voice of secretary, please visit www.wm338.com for more articles), which makes their behavior not understood and supported, widens the distance between teachers and students, and causes students' closed psychology or rebellious psychology. Therefore, under the heavy pressure of teaching achievements, many teachers and students are exhausted by "achievements". Some teachers put forward a lot of unrealistic high demands and arrange overloaded workload. Students have no time to read or study except homework every day. This invisibly puts some students under great psychological pressure. Even some teachers will satirize and punish students with unsatisfactory academic performance in disguised form, so that those students feel excluded, their personality and psychology are suppressed, and they can't find the sunshine of success, so they have the idea of being tired of learning and playing truant. On the one hand, "responsible" teachers are forcing students to study; On the other hand, students who lose their freedom of choice and are forced to study regard the teacher's behavior as repression and aggression, and the relationship between teachers and students becomes tense and sharp over time. On the other hand, with the continuous development of online education, many students have broadened the channels for receiving information, and the proportion of information obtained from school teaching channels has dropped significantly. However, due to the busy work, teachers have relatively insufficient social information and less research on some issues than students, which reduces students' trust and satisfaction with teachers.

4. Mastering the most basic teaching methods is an important link to establish a harmonious relationship between teachers and students.

After years of educational practice, I realize that the following points should be paid attention to in establishing a good teacher-student relationship: 1 Love students, care about students, help students, and truly become their guides. "Education cannot be without love, and there is no education without love", and love is the soul of education. Only by loving and caring for students can we correctly treat and tolerate the mistakes made by students and patiently carve every student. When I was a class teacher, I didn't know how to do their ideological work for those so-called "poor students" and make them love reading their own books. Until one time, I found that an old teacher often invited those students to the office after school, gave them serious guidance, asked them to help him correct his homework, did something within his power, and praised and encouraged them in front of other teachers. Slowly, something surprising happened: these students began to ask questions to their teachers on their own initiative, and the phenomenon of being late was less, the phenomenon of violating discipline was obviously reduced, they stopped getting sick in class and their grades were improved to a certain extent. Seeing the progress of those students, I realized how important it is to love students, although it is difficult.

2. After years of teaching practice, I found that I must give more encouragement and respect to students at ordinary times. I think respect is more important than love. Only by giving students respect can they feel the equality between teachers and students and the existence of self-esteem. Once they think they have lost their self-esteem, they lose their upward motivation and spiritual support, which leads to depression. On the contrary, they will get a source of upward motivation. I remember that after a collective labor, I praised an introverted and flat boy in front of all my classmates (this article belongs to the voice of the secretary, please visit www.wm338.com for more articles). I said, "male students should learn from him in their work and show men's courage." Unexpectedly, since then, this student, who usually doesn't like performance and has poor grades, has performed better and better in various group activities, his grades have improved steadily, and his relationship with me has suddenly become much closer. I never understood why. It was not until I communicated with his parents that I understood what was going on: many students called him "sissy" because of his low voice. I didn't expect a casual compliment to change him. To this end, we should respect students' personality, wishes and privacy, and take all ways to affirm and appreciate students.

3. Study and understand students and observe more. Only by understanding each student's social, family background, personality differences, hobbies, psychological changes and other characteristics can we get along with students. Once, when I learned that there were several students with very poor families in my class, I tried my best to help them apply for financial aid from the school. When the school informed them to receive the hardship allowance, I saw their expressions of surprise and gratitude, and I also shared this happiness.

4. Let students be the masters of their own affairs and the masters of learning. We know that all knowledge must be mastered by students themselves and done by students themselves. This determines the dominant position of students. Therefore, students should take the initiative to participate in practice, learn the ability of self-education and self-management, restore their self-confidence and fully display their personality. Many classes in our school have adopted multiple sets of class cadre rotation system to let more students participate in democratic management, which has won unanimous praise from students and achieved good results, and finally achieved the expected goal.

5. Be good at changing yourself and developing yourself. Generally speaking, the relationship between teachers and students is both antagonistic and unified. Teachers are in the main aspect of contradiction and play a leading role in teaching. Therefore, the key to establishing a good relationship between teachers and students lies in teachers. As a teacher, we should first change our ideas, strengthen our self-cultivation, improve our professional ethics and teaching ability, and infect and conquer students with noble character and excellent quality. Many teachers get cheers from students every time they go to a new class because of this. Second, the role should be changed. In quality education, teachers should be accompanists rather than soloists, and the center of the stage should be students. The primary task of teachers is to stimulate students' interest in learning, not their supervisors.

To sum up, the establishment of a good teacher-student relationship depends more on the renewal of teachers' own ideas and the improvement of their quality, as well as the continuous improvement and improvement of their personality; It depends on the teacher's meticulous love and respect for students all the time. It is believed that establishing a good teacher-student relationship will generate strong educational energy and promote the continuous improvement of educational effect.