Etiquette when dealing with eldersElders first, youngest later

Elders are people whose lineage is higher than their own, such as grandparents, fathers and mothers. Respect for elders is a traditional virtue of the Chinese people, so you know the etiquette of getting along with elders? The following is for you to prepare the etiquette when getting along with elders, I hope it can help you!

Manners with elders

1, say "please" and "thank you"

"Please" and "thank you"

"Please" and "thank you" are the most important words. "Thank you" is the line from Benny the purple dinosaur, and it's a magical pair of words indeed. Make it a lifelong habit to say "please" and "thank you" at home.

2. Cover your mouth when you sneeze and cough

It's vulgar to let snot and spit fly. Trust me, teachers favor kids who know this etiquette before they start school.

3. Ask before you touch someone else's stuff

There's nothing more disturbing than a child who doesn't understand that he's not the center of the universe and can't do whatever he wants. They should ask before they take something that doesn't belong to them, and that includes mom and dad's stuff.

4. Apologize sincerely

This isn't a meaningless "I'm sorry" that's forced on them by an angry parent. Empathy is definitely a life skill.

5. How to knock before entering the house

This includes the bathroom door when mom is enjoying her private toilet space.

6. Saying "Excuse me!" Kids are naturally pushy

Most of the time you'll find parents being interrupted by their kids every time they speak, and moms and dads just have to ignore that. The truth is, kids need to know when they can and can't interrupt, and should learn how to politely say "excuse me" instead of "mommy, mommy, mommy" over and over again.

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It's rude to keep talking during a movie. Kids need to learn how to squirm as little as possible when they're feeling self-conscious, and not to laugh out loud. Patience is definitely a virtue.

8. Quiet meals

Despite this, my kids still know how to use their own utensils and not talk while eating. Table manners are also a must when we're not at home - even for my 5-year-old daughter.

9. Don't make fun of others

Toddlers and toddlers can be unappealing for pointing out someone's huge mole or obesity in a public ****ing setting. But parents must teach their children that such emotional insults are really unnecessary. It's bad to point out someone's flaws or make fun of them.

10. Be helpful and compassionate

When you see someone holding something in both hands, open the door for them. Ask their teachers or parents if they need help with chores. Knowing how to be helpful and compassionate is an etiquette that children can learn at a young age, and it's a day that makes them feel good about themselves and loved by others.

Etiquette for meeting elders

"When we meet elders on the road, we should greet them quickly, and when they have nothing to say, we should stand back and respect them. When we meet elders on the road, we should take the initiative to go over and greet them, which is the etiquette of meeting. You can't see grandpa all the way down the road and still walk leisurely, that's not respectful. When we greet our elders, if they are not doing anything, we can leave when they leave. This is the saying, "When the elders have nothing to say, we should retreat and stand up respectfully". When I was in college, I seldom had the chance to go home, and I went back only a few times a semester. When I walked in the door and saw my mom and dad, it was called "meeting the head of the family", so I rushed over to them and called them "Dad, Mom". After saying hello, put your bags down and come over quickly because your parents have not talked to you for a while, they do not know your situation very well and will have a lot of worries. At this time, you sit down and accompany them to read a book or drink a cup of tea, this time can never be saved. Many people say, "My mom doesn't have much to say to me," because you just say hello and leave, and when she is about to say something, you are already gone. In fact, if you are very attentive and sit quietly with your parents for a while, they will naturally have a lot to say to you. So, we need to be patient in talking to the elders, and sit with them for a while, and when they really don't have anything to say, then we can "stand back and stand up".

On one occasion, I came back from Haikou and visited my grandfather in the afternoon before returning home in the evening. I hadn't talked to my parents for more than four months, and when I got home in the evening, I put everything down and talked to my mom and dad first, and I talked for two or three hours. I reported to my parents in detail about my life and work, and reassured them of what I had done. My father shed tears three times while listening to me. I went back to Haikou to continue my work, and when I called home, my father told me, "Do well there, don't worry about what's going on at home, Dad will take care of it." My father also comforted my heart and hoped that I would not get attached.

"Ride off the horse, ride off the car, over the still waiting, more than a hundred steps." This is a recounting of the etiquette of the ancients who met their elders while sitting on a horse or riding in a carriage. If you greet in the car is very disrespectful, you must quickly get off the salute to say hello. By extension, if you happen to be busy, the elders came, you should put down the work, first to the elders to say hello, everywhere do not forget this respectful heart. But if the car is traveling at high speed, can you roll down the window and shout "uncle", this is a safety concern, so learn manners to learn flexibility.

The ancients were very sentimental, and because of this sentiment, they wrote very touching poems. Li Bai wrote a "Yellow Crane Tower to send Meng Haoran of the Guangling": "The old man left the Yellow Crane Tower in the west, and went down to Yangzhou in March. Lone sail and distant shadow in the blue sky, only see the Yangtze River flowing in the sky." "He sent his friend to the end of the blue sky, he waited until his friend had been completely out of sight, and then reluctantly left, that part of his friend's love and appreciation for each other was revealed in the farewell. Can children nowadays write such poems? It is difficult! Because today's children do not have a respectful heart, they are more anxious and irritable. So, we have to grow the child's respect for people in these manners.

"When the elders stand, the young should not sit; when the elders sit, they are ordered to sit." When the elders stand, we as juniors can not sit, wait for the elders to tell us to sit, we will sit again, this is the etiquette of advancement and retreat. There was a little girl, two or three years old, who went to the park one day to play with her parents and her grandmother. Her father was sitting there reading the newspaper, and the little girl was sitting on a bench. When her grandmother came over, the little girl suddenly jumped off the bench and fell down. Both her grandmother and her father thought it was very strange, so they quickly picked her up and asked, "Why did you get down?" The little girl said, "The elders stand, the young should not sit." Because her grandmother was coming over, she had to stand up quickly. Her father was so embarrassed that he was reading the newspaper when her grandmother came over, and his three-year-old daughter was already standing up. It's really the later generation, and in the face of these children who are learning the sacred books, we also need to implement the Disciple's Rules with them.

Learning etiquette should also be flexible and not dumbed down. We say that when you see a person, you have to curtsy and bow, but it just so happens that you're in an elevator, and it's very crowded, and suddenly you see an uncle coming, do you want to bow to him? If you bow, the people next to you may be crowded. One of our teachers, after learning "The elder sits, the order is to sit", went to an organization to liaise, and the person in charge of the conversation with him was a woman. The teacher was a junior, and the elder did not ask him to sit down, so he just stood there. He was very tall and the elder had to tilt his head all the way up to talk to him. Suddenly the elder felt her head was sore and she said, "Sit down! My head can't take it anymore!" So when we see elders looking up, don't wait for them to tell you to sit down, just sit down naturally.

How to talk to your elders

"In front of your elders, keep your voice low. This is the politeness of speech, when you speak in front of your elders, your voice should be lowered, otherwise it will affect the elders' conversation. Nowadays, children lack a good grasp of when to speak and when not to speak. Often a group of children can't control themselves when they are playing together, and their yelling and screaming is so loud that it makes a scene. We need to stop them at the right time, or they will get used to it and it will be hard to correct them. When you find that your child is talking loudly and interfering with the conversation of the elders, you have to quickly say, "You have to keep your voices down." The child then lowers his voice, but for how long? Three minutes later it's out of control again. Some elders say, "Forget it, forget it, leave them alone!" Is that right? No! Education requires patience.

China emphasizes the middle way, which is actually expressed in one's daily life. For example, should we wear clothes in the middle way? Wearing too much is hot, wearing too little will catch a cold. If you eat too much, you will get stomach problems; if you eat too little, you will starve. Speech should also emphasize the middle way, "respect for the elders before the sound to be low", which is the respect for elders; "low not heard, but not appropriate", speech so that elders do not hear clearly is also very rude.

"In must tend to, back must be late, ask up to, see do not move". When we talk to our elders, we need to let them hear what we are saying clearly, and we need to look at them with our eyes. When we talk to a child nowadays, how long can he focus his eyes on you? Ten seconds is good enough. If a child's eyes are not focused when he speaks to someone, it means that his heart is not respectful and is very restless. Why is this so? It's because there is a lack of etiquette, and over time, they do what they want to do. Therefore, these small details need to be taught patiently by the elders, so that the children can slowly follow the rules.

"Nearby will tend, back will be late". The first thing you need to do is to go to the front of the room and don't let the elders wait too long; you need to take a few steps back when you leave after talking to them, and then walk out. Elders talk to you, you do not immediately say "good, goodbye", immediately leave, this seems to tell elders, hate to go immediately, do not want to stay a second more. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to do that, but I'm sure you're going to be able to do it, and I'm sure you're going to be able to do it.