Some parents always make their children "humble". What's wrong with this education?

Some parents always make their children "humble". What's wrong with this education?

1. Children often become inferior and sensitive. Parents always want their children to be humble to others. In the long run, children will feel inferior and think that they are inferior to others, which leads to their need for humility again and again. This kind of wrong cognition can easily lead children to become inferior and sensitive. When children suffer unfair treatment from their parents or others for a long time, their hearts will become more and more sensitive. In the future, children will take the initiative to give opportunities to others, but their inner unwillingness will accumulate deeper and deeper, and eventually they will face a big outbreak.

2. Children are not easily satisfied with the status quo. Parents always hope that their children can be modest to others and give priority to other people's ideas in everything. Children who grow up under this kind of education, although they have learned modesty, can be praised by others for it, but they are still not satisfied at heart. For children, humility is not the original intention of their behavior, but the behavior instigated by their parents. Therefore, when children are humble again and again, their inner sense of loss will be stronger. The more they lose, the less satisfied they are with the status quo. If children are always humble, they will inevitably feel inferior, thinking that they will not have anything better, even if the opportunity is in front of them, they will give it to others.

If you don't want your child to be a ingratiating personality, parents should guide their children to be principled and modest in the right way. Let children know what principled humility is. Parents should not refuse to educate their children with humility for fear that their children will become ingratiating personalities. On the contrary, they should know how to protect their own bottom line and principles, and at the same time educate them with humility, not what others want. No matter how much they like it, they will "bear the pain" to others. Only by knowing how to protect their own bottom line can children not shrink back and become weak because of other people's views. Respect children's choices. When we educate our children, we pay more attention to their inner thoughts than others' eyes and our own face. Only by truly respecting them can they really learn how to get along with their friends and express their ideas better when there are differences.