The classroom teacher and students talk about the art of skill: classroom teacher and students talk about the record

Talking is a means of emotional exchange between classroom teachers and students, is a bridge between teachers and students, an important means of education for students. A successful heart-to-heart, can make the students like a spring breeze, to inspire students, encouragement; on the contrary, it can also make students depressed, confused, or even devastated. So, as a classroom teacher should be how to better use this educational tool? Here there is a methodological problem, the problem of artistic skill. The speed of development of today's society, a large number of information that can not be selected impact on the students, so that the students' minds are no longer "simple", "watering the tree to water the roots, teaching to teach people to teach the heart," as a teacher we not only want to teach, but also want to teach the heart in order to achieve our educational purposes. We, as teachers, should not only teach, but also teach the heart, in order to achieve our educational goals. Their personality traits, psychological characteristics and learning achievements are different, teachers must really enter the hearts of students, to understand the current state of their thinking, learning and certain life behavior, in order to really solve some practical problems. Talking is a proven way. Talking is the traditional moral education work methods, but also each teacher, especially classroom teachers must be practiced a basic skill. Talking is the collision of the hearts of teachers and students, is to communicate with teachers and students feelings of ties, is to enter the student's mind bridge. Student thought anchored, need to talk; student test scores slipped, need to talk; students have contradictions, need to talk; student achievement progress, need to talk; left behind children, need to talk; students and parents contradictions, need to talk; teacher-student relationship to be harmonious, more need to talk ...... talk is different from talk, the teacher-student relationship is a kind of two-way conversation. Talking is a two-way communication activities between teachers and students. Classroom teacher and student talk to achieve the best results, we have to talk about the art of talk, grasp the psychological characteristics of different types of students. Before talking to students, we must prepare a good lesson to find the student's crux, for different students with different ways, different content, we only find the root cause, our method to go deep into the hearts of students, touching the soul of students, education students, in the end is the cultivation of the heart, nurture the heart, in order to achieve the effect of water to the drain.

First, talk to a clear purpose

Talk with the students, we have to find their flashpoints, students often have an inferiority complex, from elementary school to high school experience of criticism of the teacher often show defensive and confrontational psychology. Talk to these students, to find their flashpoints, establish self-confidence; talk to middle students, we have to tap their power point, middle students always feel that they are "not enough than the top, more than the bottom", so the spirit of hard work is poor, lack of motivation to move forward. This kind of students can take "touching" way to talk to the "just" to "just", and urge them to wake up. Talking with the top students, we have to tap their introspection point, the top students are generally more confident, but also easy to be conceited, sometimes do not see their own shortcomings. Talk to them, to use "reminding", in the affirmation of the achievements at the same time, implicitly pointing out its shortcomings, prompting them to correctly evaluate their own strengths and shortcomings, to the new goals; with traumatized students, including left-behind children, single-parent families talk about children, teachers should care about them, love them, with emotional compensation to Relieve their physical and mental pain, so that they get compensation from the teacher to produce a love of new life, the pursuit of knowledge; with the family pampering caused by the students talk, we have to set up for them to establish ambitious ideals, the correct outlook on life, so that they understand the importance of learning knowledge, but also to get in touch with the parents, to fight for the * * * with the education.

Second, talk about the best time to choose the right

The so-called best time is the most receptive moment to talk to the object, choose the best time to open the door to the convenience of the conversation. Although the juvenile heart is innocent, but after he did something wrong, often because of nervousness and fear, and the windows of its mind closed tightly on the only teacher sent to the feelings of the spring breeze, the students that closed the windows of the mind can be for you and open. Before New Year's Day this year, students in my class gave each other New Year's cards. Among them, there are a few students because the money is not enough, they will buy New Year's Eve tablets in the "goat". When I was informed of this situation, instead of reprimanding the students or making them take responsibility for their mistakes, I had a unique conversation. I first used a relatively low tone, with the feelings of sorrow, told a story is not a story: a man from a child to steal eggs to big time theft of state property and criminal law, and finally hated his mother for his discipline is not strict, along with my narrative, the class from curiosity to surprise, and then contemplation, which a few people lowered that heavy head. It seems that they have been emotionally moved at this point. So, I revisited with the students of the ancients do not eat "food in contempt", do not drink "stolen spring water" story. This is in fact the students reasoning. However, this time the "reason" has been melted in the feelings, the students do not think it is didactic. Then, I got to the point and talked about the New Year's card, using the two stories as an excuse to emphasize how young people should behave in the 1980s. When the "canal" was ready, the "water" came. After the conversation, the students took the initiative to ask me to admit their mistakes and hand over the New Year's card (in fact, I didn't know the specific person at that time). They recorded this unforgettable conversation in their diaries, saying that they had gained a lot. It can be seen that students are reasonable, the key is to see the teacher at the right time to use the love and reason. If you have feelings, he will be able to understand, and if you have reason, he will be able to understand.

Third, talk about the best angle to be selected

It's like photography, with a good view, if you do not consider the best angle, it is difficult to have a good work. The best angle is the aspect of the conversation that is easy to accept. For example, a student has a shortcomings need to talk, if the teacher single-handedly criticized his shortcomings (although this is not a way), then he is likely to produce resistance. Instead of this, it is better to slow down for a period of time, wait for the best moment to appear, in the student has achievements, have made progress when talking about his shortcomings and deficiencies, which is even if the teacher criticized the tone of voice heavier, he is also easy to accept, a moment is difficult to wait for the best moment and because of the seriousness of the problem and have to talk about it, then we have to consider the best angle of the conversation. Once, a student and a young teacher in the classroom "bull", refused to accept the teacher's criticism, I find this student to talk, although not the best moment (because at this time he is likely to have a kind of rebellious mentality), but I chose a better angle, I first praised his previous respect for the teacher's behavior, and in fact, this is also the case. This injected a stimulant and tranquilizer into his mind, and prepared a good psychological state for him to accept the criticism. Then, I pointed out his mistake of disrespecting the teacher this time, and then guided him to recognize where he was wrong, so that he could understand why he was wrong. Finally, he happily went to apologize to the teacher. Imagine, for this kind of stubborn students, if not from the praise point of view but from the criticism point of view to deal with him, then the result can only be the opposite of what you want, want to speed up is not enough.

Fourth, talk to talk about the art of conversation

The art of conversation is the river in the waves, splashing waves, carrying the weight of history, playing the music of the years, supporting the richness of human emotions, flashing with the wisdom of the philosophers. Can be a word nine Ding enemy millions of heroes, can be like a spring breeze wins ten years of cold window, it connects every corner of the knot society, it communicates with every part of the human heart, it is the river of the human heart, sustaining the interaction between people, then classroom teachers want to have a smooth relationship with the students, we need to master the art of conversation. Only in this way can we better organize and manage the class group and complete the education and teaching tasks. As a teacher, often have high hopes for students, the deeper the hope, the shortcomings of the students "hate" the more eager. This will inevitably talk a lot, with big words to teach, everywhere to criticize and blame. However, the students did not listen to it, but with a great deal of resistance, or as a whisper, and more serious may also produce retaliation. In fact, each student has its own strengths, do teachers should be good at finding and timely encouragement. Compliment and encouragement is the trust of the students, it can help students to overcome their shortcomings, inject confidence and strength, help students to build on their strengths and avoid their weaknesses, and constantly improve and perfect. Talking with students should pay attention to the kind attitude and friendly tone. In this way, students are easy to accept, dare to speak the truth, will open their hearts to you; talk to students can bring a little self-criticism, helped by appropriate caressing action. When teachers and students in a matter of tension, do not do teachers to the face of the teacher, but should put themselves on an equal footing with the students, said they should be responsible for what, where there is no help to care for the students. Where the attitude towards students is not correct, etc., so that students will consciously find their own responsibility, will learn to understand and sympathize with the teacher.

In short, the teacher and the student talk to pay attention to the art and skill. If every teacher can utilize this art and skill, the quality of education must be able to play a multiplier effect.