Values of guardians

The main psychological state of guardians is worrying. They care about their motherland, their work, their families, their neighbors, and their affairs are extensive and detailed. The mentality of worrying about everything is easy to control the depression of nurses. It's not that they are unhappy, but that they have a strong sense of humor.

Trust-authority

Defenders trust authority and agree with the hierarchical structure of authority-the law from top to bottom. They believe that there should be a relationship of subordination and obedience.

In kindergarten, if there are children who pay urgent and nervous attention to what the teacher says, most of them are guardians; And those who play and smell like small animals, so as to spend a happy time, are artistic creators; And a small number of idealists and rationalists are conscious and somehow avoid getting involved in this chaotic scene.

Desire-belonging

Perhaps in the hope of seeking a sense of security to some extent, maintaining its membership is very important for the guardian.

Seek security

"Good or bad" is the common language of guardians. They are deeply attracted by their role as social protectors, keep alert to the unsafe factors in their lives, look for defensive measures to resist losses, failures and disappointments, and also resist the irresponsible behavior of others.

Cherish-gratitude

Defenders cherish the gratitude of others for all their contributions. They help others, but they often don't do anything to please others. If others don't take their service results seriously and thank them, they will feel embarrassed.

Desire supervisor

The noblest ambition is to become an outstanding leader of an important and prestigious public organization. Be responsible for business, manage things, direct operations and hold power. The "supervisor" strongly attracts the guardian's desire to exercise his power properly.

The Social Role of Artistic Creator

Human beings have two basic social roles, one is determined by their own position in the social environment; The other is what we won for ourselves.

In the study of causality of personality, three social roles play a particularly important role: spouse, parents and leader.

Marriage partner

In the role of spouse, the guardian regards himself as a collaborator and is ready to establish a comfortable and stable family life with her husband or wife at any time. In addition, guardians are extremely loyal to their partners and feel obligated to support them when they are in trouble. Therefore, they are more likely than others to be psychologically prepared and become the savior of their partners in trouble.

If a person with temperament is most in line with the traditional wife, mother or loyal monarch, it is a guardian. They are loyal, reliable, tireless and used to nesting and child-rearing activities, which laid a solid foundation for all our civilized systems, including the marriage system.

Choose a spouse

When guardians start dating the opposite sex, they don't want to pursue excitement or other feelings, but participate in social activities, cultivate social etiquette, abide by social or family traditions, and finally find a suitable partner. Although guardians often give people the impression of being too serious, they also need entertainment. Preparing and participating in social activities is their best way of entertainment.

They are not interested in noisy environment, but they like dating the opposite sex, watching popular movies, attending dances, going to amusement parks and sightseeing. In addition, extroverted guardians also like parties, but not out of emotional release, but because of social mutual infection.

The female guardian is willing to accept her boyfriend's traditional way of showing respect (sending flowers), but even on the most ordinary date, she hopes that others will treat her like a lady, treat her in the most polite way, open the door for her, push the chair and help her put on her coat. They also want to be punctual like male guardians, but they are habitually busy at the last minute because of trivial matters such as makeup, clothes and hair, and often let their boyfriends wait downstairs.

Male guardians always try to act like a gentleman and keep appointments in the old-fashioned way, such as standing up when she walks in the door and sending her home after the ceremony. And willing to accept a fixed schedule and arrive at the appointment place on time.

Guardians spend too much energy on dating social etiquette, and there is little room for exploration. Of course, they are also full of curiosity and deep love for their regular boyfriends or girlfriends. But they never treat sexual activities casually or irresponsibly, and are careful not to cross the line. They often criticize premarital sex from a moral point of view. They oppose "free sex" and "cheap" sexual experience, as if determined to keep their "wealth" by locking themselves up and "save" strength for marriage.

Female guardians often control their sexual life before marriage. The underlying idea is that "good girls don't do this", but they may also try sex under the pressure of their boyfriends. They are dignified and serious in public, but when they are with close female companions, they will also show surprising eroticism, teasing or talking about sex.

Male guardians have many opportunities, high social recognition and can lead a dissolute life. But they don't want to, more is to realize a sense of responsibility to their peers, otherwise, he will feel hypocritical and despicable. However, they are not rigid. When socializing with other men, they also swear and make some jokes about sex. Just when you are with the opposite sex, pay attention to maintaining your most elegant demeanor.

The cautious tradition of guardians may be disgusting at first, but if you are ready to settle down and start a family, you will find them extremely attractive. Idealists gain a sense of security under the comfort of guardians, whose clear values and social experience will calm them down, and they will inject a noble spirit into their persistent moral sense; Rational people regard morality as trivial things without thinking, and are critical of guardians, but they will also be attracted by their social skills and appreciate their sense of responsibility and carefully arranged family life; The Guardian attracts the most ambitious artists who are eager to get engaged to the Guardian.

Although the guardian type attaches importance to marriage, they always think twice before acting, and strongly advocate long-term dating to reduce their blind enthusiasm. They like traditional courtship, and hope that they can participate in important family and social activities, express their good feelings in common language and express their serious thoughts to each other by giving gifts.

Once the guardian makes a solemn commitment to a safe marriage, sexual behavior may occur randomly, but what really attracts them is the social impact of marriage.

marry

After a large-scale wedding (including a well-planned honeymoon), guardians will turn their attention to what they think is a more serious life. Establish family, make friends, communicate social relations and promote career development. They prefer the certainty and predictability of married life, are satisfied with a stable life, keep a regular sex life and seldom complain about boredom. Instead of a variety of dates, I began to ignore the emotional appeal, thus disappointing my spouse. They suppress the natural expression of their feelings, and although they will be inexplicably irritable or sad under fatigue and stress, on the whole, they are reliable, generous and kind followers.

Tradition has a strong binding force on guardian partners. They have a sense of family development and attach great importance to their families. They often use their family time to engage in various housework activities. They may regard family members as personal property, often refer to "their husbands" or "their children" and cherish their material wealth. These are carefully cared for by them and will never be easily worn out. Defenders tend to spend money carefully, and may arrange their own expenses strictly and make appropriate plans for the future, sometimes at the expense of many sacrifices at present.

Defending women is so prone to "empty nest syndrome" that they take the family as the stage; Retirement will also bring mental trauma to the accompanying man. When relatives are not at home, both male and female caregivers will be nervous, often keep in regular contact by telephone, and will endure painful suffering because they are too worried about the unlikely disaster of their spouses and children.

Guardians are usually conservative in sexual life, and it is easy to form a certain routine in the early stage of marriage, which runs through marriage life. It is not that they are not seduced by the outside world, but are content to have sex where they are used to time, and only regard sex as a means of reproduction, not a way of pleasing their bodies and minds.

They often show two attitudes: cultivating and criticizing in all aspects of life. I will also express my expectations without scruple.

Peer combination

Although guardians tend to strictly control their loved ones, they can still happily combine with people of various temperament, especially when the other party also attaches importance to family, but the defects still exist.

Guardian &; Idealist:

Similarities: concerned about society and morality, hoping to help others. Defenders appreciate the spirituality of idealists and their insight into potential things, which is much worse than their traditional realistic lifestyle. But they also have some disharmonies. Defenders worry that they are too addicted to their own world, which will lead them to break away from tradition and bring crisis to their families. Moreover, when idealists regard guardianship as the superficial expression of all family efforts, guardians may be depressed.

Guardian &; A rational person:

Defenders are very satisfied with the skepticism of rational people and their fascination with their works, which seems to be very similar to their pessimism and sense of obligation; I also admire the creativity of rational people, which is very different from their simple dependence on convention. However, guardians may feel rejected by rational people and hold a contemptuous attitude towards dogma and customs. Indeed, among all types, only rational people do not appreciate the interest shown by guardians in housework, and often forget to thank them after their care.

Guardian &; Guardian:

The combination of the two has the same twists and turns. They can attract each other and get along surprisingly well. First of all, the guardian will not be particularly troubled by the intimacy or predictability in marriage, and will even be satisfied with it; Secondly, they pursue family stability, family maintenance, children's love, hard work and consumer savings, not to mention the thankless feelings of mutual appreciation. But both of them should take care of their families, stick to their own path and arrange everything for each other. To make matters worse, once the critical spirits of two people collide, it will be terrible. Even a different view of others will make them quarrel. Their marriage contains constant contradictions and conflicts.

Guardian &; Artistic creator:

Generally speaking, their marriage will be more successful. Although it is not very harmonious on the surface, it can complement each other well. People who are artistic creators sow seeds in various ways, while people who are guardians take good care of them and harvest them carefully. In the eyes of guardians, unrestrained artistic creators are children who need to be taken care of by others, and they are a good pastime after their conscientious life. On the other hand, for artistic creators, cautious and responsible guardians are not only the core of their free life, but also the parents who let them enjoy the excitement and relaxation brought by entertainment impulses.

child-rearing

Guardian children

Guardians are very concerned about many things, such as keeping toys in good condition, tidying up the room, helping adults do housework and pleasing parents and teachers, which give them great pressure and fear. They are more concerned and precocious. But it is a "good boy" in everyone's eyes.

Children who are guardians are busy beavers since childhood. Let them be guardians at home and managers among friends. Fortunately, there are many such role models around me, thinking that many parents and teachers are also like this. Children will naturally imitate the actions of adults, so they are already very proficient in deployment at school. It is wise to let these children be satisfied with their four roles as guardians: supervisor, inspector, supplier and protector, and then introduce them to other roles.

Guarding children can fulfill the expectations of adults and feel extremely proud of it. In school, teachers will find that children who are guardians are their good little helpers and can be role models for other children. At home, they are usually willing to undertake the task of distribution. Of course, the demand is within one's ability and can be praised, so it will be met and there will be a strong reaction to praise. However, if they are not recognized by adults in time, they will not be so enthusiastic about their work.

They enhance their self-esteem by serving others. They are eager to help others, and they will feel very guilty if they are not accepted. When their elders give clear appreciation, their self-confidence will be further developed. As children of art creators, they don't object to being fooled or even grandstanding; Rational children don't mind being criticized or considered boring. These two types of children don't mind or easily forget others' criticism of their behavior, but the guardian's children can't.

Guardian children are very cautious and always think twice before you act. Their biggest concern is safety. Moreover, guardians of any age seem to have no sense of security, no matter how hard they try. Nothing is warmer and safer for them than home. Homesick and easy to travel, too. So do some strong and athletic boys, no matter how strong their bodies are.

A warm family is very important for every child, but it is a matter of life and death for a child as a guardian. Their parents' divorce is particularly harmful to them. Among teenagers who commit suicide, guardian personality accounts for a large proportion. Maybe it's because they feel abandoned. Whether they are really abandoned or not, they all give up themselves in despair. Unlike other children who give up, they really give up.

Although only a few people take such extreme measures, they are also family patients with heart disease, and it seems that they began to imagine that something bad would happen at an early age. Once things happen, they strengthen their pessimistic beliefs. It is understandable that they will be depressed under severe setbacks, but generally they will not. Their pessimism is not obvious in childhood, when it may be just inner fear. But they can immediately understand that their indomitable positive spirit in adversity can win others' sympathy, comfort and help more than complaining about others.

They listen to others' complaints with great interest, vaguely aware that complaints will disgust their parents. They also have troubles and hope that their parents can give them sympathetic attention, but they just try to achieve their goals through their own complaints.

Parents and children-encourage social workers

The guardian's parents are concerned about their children's social communication and social customs. To sum up, it should be 12 standard: reliable, loyal, beneficial, friendly, humble, kind, obedient, happy, economical, clean, brave and respectful.

Managers (supervisors and inspectors) among guardians are often strict parents, who think that children can't succeed without fighting; Guardians (providers and protectors) are more concerned about the care of their children.

Guardian parents &; Children of artistic creators:

In most cases, they get along well with their children. Especially when children are young, they only need a little restraint, but when children grow up, parents will find that their methods of discipline are ineffective, and scolding and beating children usually lead to bad results. Moreover, children who are artistic creators prefer to take risks, while their parents are worried and worried. When children, as art creators, resist their stubborn and autocratic parents, the result is often more serious. They will take strong revenge, make themselves eccentric and have strong hostility.

Guardian parents &; Children of guardian type:

It will be easier for parents to have a child with the same temperament. Guardians' children rarely rebel, and they closely match their parents' expectations. But the disadvantage is that children are naturally cautious and easy to worry, and parents' caution aggravates children's worries and concerns. As a guardian, a child should at least have a carefree and optimistic parent as an example. Moreover, excessive modesty will bind children's hands and feet and lack the spirit of adventure.

Guardian parents &; Idealist children:

Parents basically have no problem raising such children. Idealist children are born virtuous and have outstanding cooperative spirit. However, parents seldom understand their kind but unnecessary suggestions to others, which bothers them. They are good children who are helpful at home and school, but if their parents ask them to consciously win the respect of others, they will be filled with indignation. This kind of control makes children feel controlled and used. Although it doesn't matter to discipline, children are easily alienated from their parents, and in extreme cases, children will rise up and resist.

Guardian parents &; Rational child:

Guardian parents appreciate their children's seriousness and desire for achievement. When parents notice their children's strong sense of autonomy, this relationship will develop beautifully. However, the problem of discipline will make parents at a loss. If you want to get your child to obey by tough means, the child will feel offended and will show contempt for your parents. A rational person of any age needs a reason to do everything. If parents don't obey their rules and only trust authority and customs, children will be very reluctant or lack respect. More introverted and rational children will choose to avoid their parents; Extroverts choose to contradict their parents, but in either case, their relationship will be alienated. Fortunately, guardians are often combined with artistic creators, and on the other hand, they will prevent children from being adversely affected by authoritarian parties.

3.6.3 Leader-Stabilizer

The excellent intelligence of guardians lies in their deployment reliability, that is, whether they are managers of rules and regulations or custodians of supporting facilities, they can handle goods and services skillfully. They expect their talents to be appreciated by their superiors. Fortunately, they are as easy to find as artistic creators.

The most practiced and mature guardian role belongs to the category of managers and custodians. They play a stabilizing and consolidating role in the organization and can be called "stabilizers". Their talents are reflected in their progress, routine things, rules and agreements, good at drafting liaison policies and persistent work. They are annoying, thorough, firm, reliable and orderly. Attach importance to contracts and implement standard operating procedures.

They carefully define their responsibilities and assign the responsibilities of their subordinates equally seriously. They are also called "traditionalists" because they carefully maintain and strengthen the traditions of their own institutions. They know better that a strong traditional system brings people a sense of belonging and eternity.

Excessive stability will increase the operating cost of the organization, but the output will not increase accordingly, that is, the bureaucracy in the organization will become serious. Change is inevitable, so it is suggested that guardian leaders reconcile their inherent traditionalists and cultivate their adaptability. They have a tendency to restrain change, so they must control their behavior. Sometimes, they will become obstacles to health change and waste their own and others' efforts. They tend to pay more attention to operating costs than benefit costs, so they should pay attention to the work effect regularly.

When praising and motivating subordinates, I passed on my values to others. In their cognition, only the hardest-working workers deserve their gratitude, otherwise, they are not diligent. Only the champion can get rich bonuses, and the runner-up or runner-up can get honors, and others can get nothing. In fact, the most inefficient people still have their own value and contribution to the organization.

When discussing the plan, the leader of the Guardian asked his colleagues to cut to the chase quickly, make a decision and then move on to the next project. They need factual arguments and are not interested in theoretical issues. They are good at data processing, but they are not good at dealing with people, especially those who are not as stable and reliable as them. In particular, when they begin to control their direct counterpart-reason, they often encounter trouble.

Defenders often have a clear attitude towards their colleagues, immediately point out their dissatisfaction in public, and occasionally use unnecessary critical language. They find it easier to comment on others' shortcomings than to praise others' strengths, and often think that people's abilities are obvious without comment. They will retain their appreciation of others, and find it easier to directly award others honors, awards and titles than to appreciate others.

The guardian himself is methodical, and I hope so are others. They will convey the meaning over and over again, trying to make everyone understand. They have the ability to investigate and examine many details. They are reliable and diligent leaders and will treat everyone equally. Deal with things seriously and thoughtfully, and be loyal to the purpose and personnel of the organization. Defenders are satisfied with doing their duty and being respected for it, but they are annoyed at ignoring the rules and violating the standards. They simply can't understand this and feel anxious. Defenders also irritate others because they often show fatigue and anxiety.

Institutions without guardians will ignore many details and may become inefficient. Guardian leaders naturally and easily engage in the work of stabilizing and consolidating the institutional system. They are decisive, content to arrange things, clear about organizational policies, patient and persevering, and rarely make substantive mistakes. They can do hard work well, and their promises are trustworthy.

3.7 Changes in the role of guardians

Although it is very beneficial to regard the four temperament types as independent and complete behavior state patterns, there are still obvious differences among individual members in each temperament type.

Among them, managers (more determined) are more suitable for the warning role of policy and procedure management; Custodians, (friendlier) prefer to keep people and property.