The couple's property AA system: A is money or feelings?

Though three years of basic peace and quiet, a small friction can be quickly resolved, but always feel that the feelings of both sides in the tendency to fade. He is also somewhat puzzled by this: "AA system" in the end can not maintain the relationship between husband and wife for a long time? The imported "AA" family concept, is to the traditional man outside the woman in the family model to challenge, which on the one hand reflects the wife's economic and family status, but also brings some problems, such as the boundaries of too clear, the lack of the big picture at critical moments; each have their own selfishness, avoid spending money on consumption; AA is a fairer distribution system that has been gradually accepted by everyone. Friends get together AA system, netizen party AA system, travel AA system, we are very willing to accept this way. It is not unnecessary to implement the AA system among couples, but it should be utilized flexibly. In normal daily life, will not spend money is the biggest benefit of AA system, but also will develop a good habit of not greedy for cheap. In case of emergencies, such as family members getting sick or having an accident, etc., AA should be utilized flexibly. Pan Qingju I think as a modern young family with two incomes to implement the AA system, also good, but there must be a degree of everything, can not be too clear, must still be a family! The purpose of the AA system is to give each other a free space to spend money, and not to be with each other a penny to be counted clearly, so that there is no fun, will only let each other live more tired. I think the two can discuss how much money per person per month to take out as *** with the fund, mainly for some of the larger public **** expenditure, the remaining part of the free disposal by their own people. Sunshine netizen Hong Yun Couples and AA such a thing ah I still heard it for the first time, since it is a husband and wife why should engage in such a AA system? In the end, the family will not end up splitting up? "Poetry" is not such a phrase "hold hands, and children grow old together", the wife is good together, such as drums and qin, since the husband and wife should be sure that the covenant is willing to tolerate each other's beauty and ugliness, happiness and sorrow, willing to covenant to accept and love each other all their lives, regardless of the future or the smooth or the reverse, or the rain or the sunshine, or the blessing or the disaster. This is called husband and wife well as for what AA system I do not agree. As for what AA system I do not agree. Drifting with the wind AA system has many benefits for me personally, the implementation of the AA system of matrimonial property at least has the following benefits. First, the implementation of husband and wife property AA system is conducive to the realization of social equality between men and women. In today's society, many housewives are not only the main housewife, but also participate in social labor and production, and make great contributions to the prosperity of the family. This also shows that women are able to gain economic recognition in society and financial independence by virtue of their own abilities. Second, the implementation of the AA system of marital property is conducive to the realization of family harmony. In today's family, there is a tendency for women to take more and more charge of the family's financial power, and for men to be more and more cautious in spending money. In the real world, there are often internal conflicts in the family because of family expenses. If the implementation of husband and wife property AA system, the implementation of economic autonomy, will be very good to avoid this family conflict, for family harmony to create a good atmosphere. Third, the implementation of the AA system, couples can avoid the necessary economic disputes. Today, the divorce rate into a rising trend, and once divorced, then directly involved in the division of marital property. If the implementation of spousal property AA system, it is clear that couples get their own, do not interfere with each other, is not it beautiful, why bother to run to the court, for the economic issues of war of words, angry eyes? However, we should also see that in an absolutely large family, men are obviously better than women in obtaining financial income, and once a woman becomes a single person, her living problems should also be worthy of our attention. Women will be worried about their future survival, so they will strive for greater initiative in the division of property. With the development of society, the gap between women and men in wealth creation and labor income will be further narrowed. I think that in the near future, women can survive in this economic society through their own labor. Therefore, when society has reached a certain stage of development, the worries of women will be solved. All in all, I think it is very meaningful to implement the AA system for matrimonial property. With the progress of the times and the advancement of ideas, the implementation of the AA system for matrimonial property will become more and more popular. Stone teaching refining the key to grasp the degree of the rise in the West in the 1980s of the husband and wife AA system, because it can maintain their own personalities, reduce the conflict between husband and wife, dispersing the family investment risks and other advantages are quite popular. According to a survey, in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, three major cities in favor of the AA system of couples as much as 40.9%. It is not difficult to find out through these data, the husband and wife AA system in China is becoming more and more popular. Husband and wife AA system seems to materialize the relationship between husband and wife, a bit calculating, but it is more conducive to honesty between husband and wife, but also easy to let the people in the city experience: love and marriage both need to be fully emotionally invested, but also can never be without a material basis to do the backing. Only couples are devoted to pay, love will be long-lasting fresh, marriage will be more solid. But couples AA system, after all, is "a family of two rule", "public rule" and "mother rule" parallel. Husband and wife if the coordination is not good, especially two people's philosophy is not unified, or every cent, the AA system of freshness is over, it is easy to rot and tasteless. In this way, the AA system is easy to trigger a series of uneven expenditure of cold war, such as I bought you a gift, why do not you buy me a gift? I subsidize your parents so much, you subsidize my parents so little? There are also water, electricity and gas bills should be shared equally, how to raise children's expenses should be fair and so on. Famous marriage expert Prof. Chen Fei Zi frankly, AA as a fashionable mode of financial management, certainly pulled away from the only remaining distance between husband and wife, but it does also protect the personal interests and private feelings, there is a rationality for its existence. However, all the avant-garde should have a depth of harmony, neither overkill nor blindly follow the trend, the key lies in whether AA is suitable for themselves. The economic foundation determines the superstructure. The couple's appetite determines whether the spices are added or not, and how much or how little is added is up to them to discuss. Xiao Xiaofeng traditional marriage more vitality AA system is a foreign product, it may be suitable for the western society of indifferent human feelings. In AA, the economic relationship between husband and wife is clear-cut, in a way, this relationship is more like a contractual couple. Both parties are in AA, and they are always calculating, which inevitably leads to a lot of conflicts. Due to the lack of inclusiveness between each other, the relationship between husband and wife is naturally becoming more and more diluted. People are emotional animals, husband and wife relationship once diluted, inevitably to find other emotional support. Because of each other's economic independence, which also for both sides of the extramarital affairs and other unfaithful to the marriage phenomenon to do the security, for the eventual breakdown of the marriage laid the foundation. On the other hand, the traditional marriage relationship in China is that the man is in charge of the outside world and the woman is in charge of the inside world. Although women nowadays are also engaged in various jobs, this fundamental marriage relationship has not changed much. In some families, the wife is in charge of the finances, and in others, the husband and wife are in charge of the finances. Either way, it is the essence of traditional Chinese marriage that couples are able to discuss and **** with each other on major expenses and on the handling of important matters. Traditional marriage, the man is good at respecting the woman, love and care for the woman, the woman is tired, the man will do housework, will bring delicious meals to the table. Outside, the woman is obedient to the man, give the man face, let the man win the dignity. They can feel the happiness brought by each other, so the marriage is naturally strong.AA marriage in China still has the problem of incompatibility, which also shows that the foreign moon is sometimes really not more round than the Chinese one.