Are rural people really conservative?

Possibly in the public perception, the countryside is closed to information, so people are backward and conservative, but some of the people I met in the big city who came out of the mountains gave me a new perception of this group.

They came out of the countryside, came to the big city, the world view received a shock, but the values did not keep up. They advocate the openness of the big city, but the openness here refers to the idea of equality between men and women, the independence of personality, the freedom to dress, freedom of speech, the freedom of marriage and so on, which of course also includes sexual openness. They focus on sexual openness, but they are mistaken about what it means to be sexually open. Sexual openness is not the same as promiscuity.

My university classmates, there are a few girls from the mountains. In the daily interaction, the biggest difference with them is the concept of consumption and the concept of love. Here to talk about their outlook on love.

They are in love earlier, but the boyfriends are neither friends, nor classmates, but the community, some of which are recognized through the game, some of which are recognized through the network chat, when they were just sophomores.

This is no excuse, but then they have changed a few boyfriends, or social mixed people, this is not a case, but a phenomenon.

Their criteria for finding a partner reflect their needs. Big city growing up, family harmony, the character of the sunshine boys of the same age will make them inferior, and older, social gas, some vulgar boys will make them feel superior, they pursue such a boy.

The result? They are cherished by such boys, baby? No, three days quarrel, the age gap is big, the environment gap is big, resulting in a bigger gap between the three views, a student thinking, a social thinking, or a low level, the conflict is inevitable.

Social men also have a lot of young and high-quality, but they are always picking those vulgar crooked dates, perhaps they would not have had to choose, the contact surface is too small, the game and the Internet chat is supposed to be inferior to a larger proportion.

This is just a difference in the criteria for choosing a spouse, and their performance on gender relations is even more different.

One of the game Ben now, meet for the first time to go out to open the room, the holidays on cohabitation. Other meet two or three times also on the weekend night to live together in the hotel.

According to their own words, nothing happened, I do not dispute. Just this kind of casual attitude to lead to deep thought, not to say whether self-love, but where some sense, will not be so easy and a strange man (netizens do not see before is about the same as a stranger) out of the room, security consciousness?

There is also a student thinks, and who have sex is not to do it, and boyfriend to do is to be white whoring. I was shocked, then you want to go out and sell it?

Today, I heard a colleague chat that she has a friend working in the gym, their front desk change most frequently, most are not much culture of young girls, junior high school, high school drop out from the countryside to work, most of the departure is because of pregnancy.

The reason why this group is so "open" to male-female relationships is precisely because of the "conservatism" of the countryside in this regard.

Relationships between men and women in rural areas are private and difficult to talk about, not to mention sex education. Their perceptions are influenced by the subtle influence of the people around them, the women around them are less educated, married early, two people together together, is commonplace, not much to be measured and thought, will not rise to the three outlook on whether or not they are compatible.

So even if they got out of the mountains, came to the big city, came to the university, the cognition of sex is still rural thinking, the love as an ordinary sexual relations, rather than two independent individuals attracted to each other.

This may seem like nothing to blame, but how many tragedies have been caused by casual relationships? Derailment, violence, unmarried pregnancy, abortion ......

Conservative and openness should have a degree, too much, are said to be conservative in the countryside, out of the rural people but so "open". Nowadays, there is no obvious geographical boundary between the city and the countryside, countless rural people flocked to the big city, but there are still barriers to the three points of view, may they have seen the openness of the big city, to establish a correct concept of love and marriage, spiritual prosperity, physical health!