How to make children understand and have the traditional virtue of "modesty"?

At present, children in most families are only children, and parents give their children the best things. What toys and snacks? Try to meet children's requirements. Because there is only one child, no one will compete with the child for these items. But such an environment can easily cause children to be self-centered and not know how to share, so they don't know how to be modest.

Usually, parents should not spoil their children too much. Don't meet all the requirements of children unconditionally, but meet them appropriately. If it is unreasonable or nonsense, don't promise. Children may cry at first, but they will give up as long as you insist.

Let children establish a correct relationship with others, and establish a correct relationship between children and some items, which is also a foundation for children to learn to share. Parents can strengthen some education on their children's sense of belonging.

A prominent feature of children's psychology is "self-centered". Children only pay attention to their own needs and rarely take the initiative to meet the needs of others, so most of them don't like humility.

Egocentrism is an inevitable stage in the development of children's early self-awareness. Around the age of 3, children's self-awareness began to sprout. At this stage, children observe the world with self-centeredness and think that people and things around them are closely related to themselves. They often choose their own behavior and design their own activities from the perspective of "themselves" without considering others.

It can be said that "egoism" exists in everyone, but there are individual differences in knowledge level and development speed. If self-inclination is too serious or reaches 4? Five, even six? At the age of seven, I still stay in the self-centered stage, which becomes a problem.

Due to parents' doting and inappropriate parenting styles, children's self-esteem and modesty will also be formed.

Parents and grandparents focus on their children, and it is easy to spoil them. Spoiling will strengthen children's self-centered consciousness and make them think they are the center of the world. Elders naturally take themselves as the center, meet all their requirements, and don't know how to be humble and share.

Children's social development is not perfect.

After the baby has a certain sense of self, the development of social skills begins. Social skills mainly include: communication skills, the ability to cooperate with peers to solve problems, and the feelings of caring and sympathizing with others. When a child's social skills are not well developed, he is unwilling to listen to the opinions of his family, share his toys with others, and be happy with his companions. The imperfection of social development is also a reason why he was bullied.

The meaning of "humility".

Modesty is a kind of peer interaction behavior that can bring positive emotional experience to children. It helps to overcome the "self-centeredness" of children, especially the only child, help them realize the needs of others and promote their individual growth. Modesty, in essence, considers the feelings and needs of others, so it can restrain the signs of children's "self-centeredness", help them acquire the ability to choose opinions, coordinate, communicate and control themselves, and promote their social development.

Parents don't have to panic if they don't know how to be humble about their children's bullying behavior. Finding children's problems is a great progress in itself. Children are in the stage of rapid growth and development in all aspects, and they are highly plastic. As long as parents take it seriously and adopt proper methods, they can get good results.

1, creating a shared family atmosphere

Parents should start with the food that their children care about most. If the child monopolizes it, parents should take the food away and distribute it fairly, and can't let it go. At first, children may cry and beg, but parents must not give in and insist. Occasionally "relapse" is also normal, as long as parents insist, they will definitely correct it.

2. It is appropriate to meet the requirements of children.

Reasonable requirements for children can be properly met. For those who cannot be satisfied in time, children should learn to wait, but don't be too accommodating. Even if the child is tough, parents should stick to the right path and leave no room for the child. With compromise, children will know that there is another chance next time. Therefore, parents should be cruel, persistent, patient and determined to stick to it.

3. Let children understand the meaning of humility through classic stories.

As the child grows up, we can let him read the classics and tell him the meaning of the story. When the catchy sentence "Kong Rong can make pears at the age of 4" is printed in his memory, the connotation contained in the story will gradually penetrate into his heart. Such a positive role model will unconsciously become a code of conduct that children are willing to learn and emulate.

4. Help him experience the pleasure of humility in the game.

When the child is old enough to play role games, you can design some such scenes to play with him. For example, let him play the role of kitten and puppy, you play the role of bear, the kitten is a polite child, the puppy is a rude child, and the kitten gives up her seat to Grandpa Bear and is praised; The puppy won't let me, which makes Grandpa Bear very sad. Let the child play the big bear and experience the different feelings of others giving him his seat and not giving him his seat.

5. Inspire children to think and judge whether they should be modest.

When playing with children in amusement parks or other environments, if you encounter corresponding scenes, you can discuss with your children whether you should be modest and why. Why not? Only when children have a certain understanding and recognition of humility from the bottom of their hearts will they continue to abide by it in their later lives.

Sharing is a positive expression of people in social communication. Let children learn to share with others slowly, which is of great significance to the development of children's sound personality and good interpersonal relationships. Modesty is a heartfelt behavior and a sense of happiness. Modesty is a virtue, not a false superficial article. Parents should let their children understand the truth.