How to evaluate Sears parenting method?

Sears parenting method has a great influence in the United States, and at present, more and more mothers in China hold this book as a classic. This book is based on Dr. Sears' own pediatric clinical practice and his experience in raising eight children with his wife Martha. The biggest feature of this book is to advocate breastfeeding, sleep with the baby, carry the baby with a backpack, and respond to the baby's needs in time. Let parents and children establish close relationships as soon as possible and let children grow up in a caring environment.

In fact, this method is also in line with the traditional practice in China. When it is implemented, the old people agree with it and it is easy for them to understand. However, we should not go too far. This practice is actually more suitable for stay-at-home mothers. At present, most mothers in China are working mothers. They have to go to work during the day, feed their babies and take their children to bed at night, so they can't get a good rest at all. Although very tired, many mothers are afraid of affecting their close relationship with their children and dare not do so. But in the long run, their physical strength and energy can't keep up, which is more likely to lead to some emotional problems.

The core of Sears' parenting method is to establish a safe attachment relationship between mother and baby in the early stage, but it must be distinguished that this intimate relationship can not be established only by accompanying sleep and insisting on breast milk. Even if formula milk is sometimes added, even if children sleep in separate beds, as long as mothers respect their children, meet their needs and interact with them with high quality, children can establish high-quality relationships with their mothers.

So, moms can relax. If they are anxious and guilty because of breastfeeding and sleep problems, it will not be worth the loss, and the children will be affected by your negative emotions.

What babies need most is emotional security.