Why do many families quarrel as soon as the Spring Festival arrives?

During the Chinese New Year, people quarrel over money, and family relationships become complicated.

Yesterday in class, I heard another colleague complain that she quarreled with her husband at home on Sunday and didn't talk to anyone all day. The direct cause of the quarrel is that I took a break from work last Sunday and went to work all day. I was exhausted. 14, 15 hours earned more than 200, and wanted to subsidize the family. As a result, this Sunday, her husband didn't even discuss it with her, so he drove out and bought several thousand yuan of fireworks. She just complains that it's hard to make money now. Why not? I have to buy fireworks just to have a smoke, which is worthless. As a result, even her husband and son scolded her, saying that she ruined the festive atmosphere of the New Year. As a result, she secretly cried for a while, angry and wronged, and made a lot of money. She didn't want to buy new clothes or tidy up her hair during the Spring Festival, but this was the result.

In fact, this is only a superficial reason. The deeper reason is that interpersonal relationships at home make her unhappy. Her family is out of town, and her husband's family has an uncle and sister. Just last Sunday, her sister-in-law asked her for 10 Jin of flour to spread pancakes, but her sister-in-law had sold all her flour, or took it to my colleague's house for sale, and did not ask her if her family wanted some. This has made my colleagues very angry. Well, I asked my colleague for ten kilograms of flour, but my colleague gave her 17 kilograms without saying anything. As a result, after her sister spread pancakes, she gave her uncle's brother a lot, and she didn't even ask. And the day before yesterday, her elder sister-in-law came to their house to fry new year's goods. The couple were busy for nearly a whole day, and as a result, her aunt blew up her own, so she sent some to her uncle's house and left. Moreover, my colleagues and my wife are both human beings, angry and oily, and my sister didn't even give in. Isn't it obvious that you have no brothers or sisters in your eyes? This is why I am so angry with my colleagues.

In many families, the year is still the year.

It's actually quite normal. Who do you usually quarrel with? Usually, they are divided into five factions. Only traditional festivals and Spring Festival can bring all products together. Most of these quarrels are concentrated in families with older parents. Every year, because of the problem of parents' support for the elderly, one person says that children who stay with their parents will restrain and suppress their unhappiness and pressure for a year, and then put them on the table when other brothers and sisters visit the elderly during the Spring Festival, and put all the support and economic problems on the table.

As the old saying goes, a mother can raise nine children, and nine children can't raise a mother. Old people are very selfless to their children, but many children have their own families. There is a skeleton in the cupboard. In the face of the problem of supporting the elderly, everyone wants to shirk it for various reasons and stay as far away from their parents as possible. But blood is thicker than water, and it is impossible for family to put themselves aside one by one, so it is difficult for everyone to meet at ordinary times. The old man can still maintain family relations. If you take care of your parents at home, tell us the actual situation of the elderly, so that everyone can find ways to solve it and implement it. If you can't go out at home, you will increase the nursing fee on the original basis, or put forward more difficult conditions. Parents are not old, and sisters can serve each other for a year or half a year. There are several elder sisters who can go to work in the first quarter or by the month. Of course, some really don't have time. Those who can't leave have to reluctantly agree to give the money to the family to wait on them, while those who are short of money and nervous at home are hard to choose. They feel that there is too much money to serve themselves. After receiving your home, there are still many tolls. The biggest worry is that if the old people don't die in their own homes, it will be their taboo, and of course they will be dissatisfied with the lion's big mouth sisters. If you say anything to me, they will quarrel.

There is no doubt that people who serve their parents at home work hard. Their idea is that they have to earn hundreds of dollars a day to work outside. They use this idea to measure their work at home and outside the home. Since working outside can earn money, they don't want to serve the elderly. I'm sorry, then you take more money and don't want to take it Then wait on the elderly for a period of time, in order to coerce the elderly to go out to work. The reason is that they are too tired and bitter to serve the elderly, and their parents can do nothing. I don't want you to take money to wait on me. Of course, nothing else has changed. I have to say, those who wait first will continue. With this sentence, the opportunity has come, you can run away, but you can't want less. So there was a quarrel, and things had to be implemented. Finally, you have to bite your teeth. This has caused the main reason for the lack of communication between parents and sisters.

When quarreling, parents are the most heartbroken and sad. They have no ability to say who is wrong now, and no one dares to offend them. They had to be sad and cry alone with tears. This is cold water pouring the hope of raising children on them. What can they do? Anyway, there is no way to make them quarrel, whether to cook it or push it off the cliff and throw it into the river for their disposal. It's just the bitterness, regret and regret in their hearts. Now there is nowhere to tell, and no one wants to listen. I used to feed my children when I was hungry, but today it is such a reward. What happened to the world? I may not understand it with my eyes closed. I don't know if my living child will think about it, and I may not understand it. I won't realize it until I am a parent. It may be too late.

Not much, just a small part, mostly because of money or family chores. The most important thing is that husband and wife don't understand each other.

Usually it's for the money.

When will you stop arguing about money? That's a rich life.

I hate Chinese New Year, which is irritating.

Poor thing!

Nowadays, families are basically not at home, they are all working in other places, and their parents are at home. They spend so much every year and don't earn any money when they come back. Of course they will quarrel!

This is a problem. Especially in the countryside, I have witnessed a lot of rural life. There are probably several reasons:

First, I am usually busy at work, with less time at home and less communication. Some come back early in the morning and come back at night. Time at home is limited, so there is no time to quarrel.

Second, during the Spring Festival, there are some sensitive issues that need to be discussed with each other, and sometimes opinions are not uniform. The easiest way is to give money to the elderly on both sides, and sometimes opinions are not uniform. This will lead to quarrels.

Third, I am at home on holiday. I usually have no time to rest, but everyone wants to rest. They don't like doing housework, cleaning, washing around and shirking each other. In this process, contradictions and quarrels are easy to occur.

Fourth, everyone has nothing to do and often makes much ado about nothing. Some behaviors and habits, including eating, should be discussed if one party is not satisfied, and it is easy to quarrel if we talk about them.

Fifth, there will also be problems because of visiting relatives and friends. Some people love to go, while others don't. Especially for those who don't love to go, some people are forced to go, which will make them unhappy and quarrel.

Sixth, the problem of work and rest habits, some have to sleep until midnight, and some have to wake up naturally. Different schedules make it easy to quarrel.

Seventh is a very important point. Some male hosts like drinking or gambling. They drink too much, or lose too much gambling, and they will quarrel when they say it. This is the majority.

Anyway, it's no big deal. Family is like this, that is, moving forward in problems, reconciling in quarrels and developing in contradictions. Life without tongue and teeth is normal. As long as it is not a matter of principle and there is no violence, there will be no big problem. Bedside quarrel, bed end and. Sometimes quarreling is also a kind of communication, a kind of learning, and it can also solve problems. For example, on the issue of gift-giving, the standard was unified by quarreling this time, and there will be no problems in the future.

Indeed, because we don't spend much time together, we can only digest ourselves if we are unhappy. If you can't digest it, you will always be in your heart, and many problems will accumulate until the end of the year, so many people will quarrel at the end of the year. Today, my husband and I had a quarrel. Usually he works on the construction site, and I take care of the children at home, gathering less and leaving more. People are not together, and many things are solved by themselves. Being tired is nothing, but being a husband. Last month, because his classmate quarreled with his wife, his wife made a circle of friends, which probably means that she has a stomachache and a husband, but no one hurts and nobody cares. As a result, my husband commented on his caring wife below, and I saw it. I was angry with him, too. My wife learned to love others, not to hurt others. The point is that he still thinks he is right. Because we are not together, I am angry that he can't see it. Today finally broke out, because his brother and sister-in-law quarreled over money, and his sister-in-law rode home. My husband is in love, but my brother didn't go after him. He chased his brother's wife by car and said to persuade her. I'm speechless! When my brother came back, I had a big fight with him and told him that I was very unhappy. It's not his turn to care about other people's wives. What he needs to care about is me! it is me