Women can take half a life to give birth to a child, why do some men scold women for wanting a dowry, is it selfish to go too far?

Since the questioner asked the woman to give birth to a child to take in half a life, some men scolded the woman to ask for a bride price, whether the selfishness of the problem.

Then I would like to ask the questioner and some "women's rights" three questions, the first question "the world only Chinese women to give birth to children hard, other countries women? The second question is: "What other country in the world, besides China, requires a bride price?" The third question is: "Is it for men to give birth to children, and women don't need children for their old age?"

Actually, if the questioner and the "women's rights" can answer the above three questions fairly, they will know why some men will scold the bride price issue, because the bride price thing is really unfair to the modern Chinese men.

Women in other countries around the world are just as likely to give birth to a child as they are to carry a baby to term, but except for Muslim weddings in the Middle East, there is basically no such thing as a bride price. And the Middle East men get married, to buy a house, take the bride price, after marriage to support the family, but in paying these, they also have the corresponding harvest, such as can marry more than one wife, wife can not file for divorce, the wife to do housework with children to take care of the in-laws, the wife, if she is cheating on her wife, and in some places will even be implemented "stoning" alive with a stone to death of cheating on the woman. The first is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing and how you are doing it.

You see this need for the man to prepare all the material basis for marriage, and take out a bride price to the woman's family marriage, after marriage, the man's power is whether with the ancient Chinese marriage relationship is very similar to the ancient Chinese marriage, but the ancient Chinese marriage, the woman cheated on the woman was "piggy bank" drowned alive.

Without comparing other countries, marriage itself,

People's greatest need for marriage is actually to form a new family with a "stranger", to become a new family*** with the risk of facing the future life.

There are a lot of risks and uncertainties in life, such as illness, unemployment, lack of income, old age, physical weakness, accidental injuries and so on, and in our original family, we can turn to our parents for help when we encounter these situations.

But surely our parents will leave us first, for example, our parents left us when they were 80 years old, by which time we were over 60 years old and all kinds of illnesses and diseases came to us, don't you need a child to help you at this time? Don't you need your significant other to help you? Therefore, I would like to say to the questioner and the "women's rights" sincerely, don't always think that women are at a disadvantage to have a child, it is for your husband to have a child. The child will call you mom, and he will take care of you and be with you when you are old and sick. You have to work hard to give birth to and take care of your child today, but in fact you are adding a layer of "insurance" for your own life with blood and kinship!

You now want Chinese men to do before marriage to the Middle East men as the obligation to buy a house and take the bride price to support the family, and after marriage is not willing to give men privileges like the Middle East women, but instead to obtain the status of women in Europe and the United States and other marriages after marriage. Isn't this a case of taking advantage of both, but not wanting to give anything, and then ending up with a child that the women themselves need, and using that as a bargaining chip?

You taste this in the end who is selfish, power = obligation, you let the man to pay more to buy a house, buy a car, decoration, bride price, wedding banquet these obligations, then you let the man get what power?

Satisfy it, Chinese men are not good at talking, especially not good with women, after all, there are too many old sayings pressure on men, so that men do not with women, such as good men do not fight with women, which is why the Chinese men with their wives to fight most of the choice of silence, not a woman more than justified, but a lot of men, even if justified, but also do not want to talk to the woman to calculate.

You think about it, put yourself like a man, and a girl with the object, you have to pay for the date to pay the bill, over the holidays and birthday to buy gifts for his girlfriend to send red packets, when you get married to pay for the purchase of a house, renovation, buy a car, wedding photos, wedding banquets, bride price, the honeymoon and so on this series of expenses, after the marriage to make money to support the family to pay the wages of his wife, and with the wife as the same household chores, earn less, not good enough! And you have to be complained by your wife. And you do all this without any privileges, would you like that?

I know, see here, some women's rights will say that the child with the father's surname is also a "privilege" ah, I can only say, 99.99% of the world's countries children with the father's surname, this is not a privilege. Even in European and American marriages where there is no bride price and the man doesn't have to get married and buy a house, the children have the father's last name because it's required for genetics and for the next generation to get married.

Actually, in Chinese marriages now, women are the privileged ones, and women are the ones who enjoy it. Women who enjoy so many privileges can cheat or divorce without fear of punishment if they are not satisfied in their marriages. It's a big deal, so it's only natural for some Chinese men to complain about the bride price, so what's so selfish about it? The fact is that the marriage is "unfair" to the two people who need it, and they can't complain about it.

Again, now the marriage law can protect men's pre-marriage property is not divided by divorce, but can not guarantee the bride price, these years around the explosion of the female pre-marriage to be high-priced bride price, no half a year after the marriage on the divorce of the news less? Now the marriage cheating bride price is quite a lot, married once to a 100,000 200,000 bride price, half a year after the divorce, and then find a person "flash marriage" to bride price, this work than work to money much faster.

I sometimes wonder what else you want from a Chinese man? When you are in a relationship with a generous willing to spend money to you, when you get married to buy a house, buy a car, decoration, bride price, after marriage to earn money to support the wife and children, home to do the housework, and then can not have a word of complaint? I'm sure that's all there is to it, isn't it?

The "feminists" thanked the previous generation in rural China for being y influenced by the idea that "raising children is the only way to protect them from old age", which has led to the situation where there are too many men and too few women in China today. If the difference in the ratio of men to women in China today was not so great, it is estimated that China would have been flooded with leftover women today. Because a lot of Chinese women are "poisoned" to get married not to find that form a new family *** with the face of uncertainty in the future life of the companion, but to be able to ride them under the bull horse, so that they can easily walk the road of life after the bull horse!

Would you like to work as a cow or a horse for someone? The kind where you have to earn your own feed money. By the way, I would like to remind you that the hardest thing to abandon in life is the "companion" who supports each other, and the easiest thing to abandon is the "burden".

Think about whether you are a companion or a burden to the other person in your marriage.