What was the character of ancient girls?

Girls in ancient times were educated by three obedience and four virtues from childhood.

Three Obediences and Four Virtues

Three moral relationships and four virtues followed by feudal women.

"If you don't marry from your father, you marry from your husband, and your husband dies from your son" —— A Biography of Mourning Your Son in Summer

"Women's Virtue, Women's Words, Women's Appearance and Women's Merit" —— Zhou Li Nine Wives of Celebrities

A woman's virtue means chastity and obedience (moral quality)

Women's words are rhetoric (rhetoric)

A woman's appearance is called elegant delivery (etiquette)

Women's work is called silk (craft)

So most of them are gentle and refined, and the lively and cheerful ones are a minority after all.