What are the common negative effects of family of origin on women?

From a psychological point of view, there are 3 common negative effects of family of origin on women.1. Strong mother and weak father. Growing up in such a family, the child's personality may also become strong. They want to dominate the relationship and make their partner obey them, because they have only seen this kind of relationship mode, and they think that the "parent's relationship mode" is familiar to them. Although she thinks that it's not good to be too strong from the rationale, but people will always feel that what is familiar is safe. So, she will be very strong to make her partner listen to her, the partner if not as weak as the father, will fight back, the two will continue to fight, attack, the relationship will become worse and worse, and ultimately the relationship breaks down. 2, the parents seldom love their own (or foster care in the family of a relative since childhood). In such a family, the child may lack love and therefore become especially wanting of love, and is likely to become sensitive in character, insecure because of the lack of love, and especially afraid of being abandoned. They are especially afraid of being abandoned once someone is good to them because of the lack of love, so they will show the trait of anxiety, often worried that their partner will leave them, whenever their partner does not respond they will feel that the sky is falling, and they will be very panicky inside, sending him a lot of information, and every time you have a fight once your partner avoids the contradiction by not saying anything, your inner panic will be triggered, and you will become very angry. Such two people will be very tired to get along, because the partner to always take care of your emotions, to always maintain your inner sense of security, a long time will be very tired, will want to leave you because of the heart tired.3, the mother is very sensitive emotionally, always focus on the child. There are many such mothers, put too much attention on the child, their lives may be very unfortunate, and often say to the child, "if not for you I would not be like this", the child's heart is filled with a lot of powerlessness and guilt. Such children may grow up to be very sensitive and often lose their temper because their powerlessness will make them feel angry all the time, so it is difficult for them to control their temper. When they grow up, they will be very insecure and eager for love in relationships, but they will also push their partners away because of the difficulty in controlling their temper, and their partners will always be stung by her emotions. The volatile emotions coupled with the insecurity of having to be filled by her partner will push her partner further and further away from her and they will eventually go their separate ways. Many of the traits we present in relationships are actually family-of-origin influences, and these influences can interfere with our behavior, make emotionally damaging moves, and affect our happiness as adults. However, we talk about family of origin in order to find the causes and solve the problems. The point is to "solve the problem", not to put all the emotional problems to the family of origin, dumped on the parents. Problems exist objectively, and we need to solve them rationally. We need to see that the problem of the family of origin does exist and belongs to the past, but what we are solving is not the problem of the past, but the past "left traces on us" and "the impact on our behavior now

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