Why is the father often absent from the child's growth education?

Nowadays, many fathers are absent from the growth and education of their children. This absence can be divided into two situations. First, explicit absence. Explicit absence means that these dads travel for a long time or work in other places. Such dads spend limited time with their children, and occasionally they may not have much emotional communication with their children. What they are most concerned about is their grades.

Second, the invisible vacancy. Such a father will go home every day, but he is busy with his own affairs every day, or playing mobile phones, games, mahjong and so on. , and rarely ask about their children. He thinks it is the mother's business to discipline the children. Such a father is obviously invisible in parenting education. Perhaps we are talking more about this invisible absence.

Why are there so many invisible absent fathers in family education? These invisible absent fathers are mostly "three noes" fathers. Ignorance, helplessness and incompetence.

The first is ignorance. Many dads think I just need to be responsible for making money. If I buy a big house and a car, let my wife and children live a happy life and provide a good enough life, I will do my duty as a father. This kind of father is not irresponsible but does not know how to be responsible in the family.

There is a typical case, Jackie Chan. Jackie Chan got married secretly in those years, and his son couldn't tell anyone who my father was for many years. In fact, this is very harmful to children. Jackie Chan is famous for picking up children from school on a whim. As a result, everyone left without seeing his son. When he got home, he found his son in the living room. He asked his son, "Did you play truant today? Why didn't I receive you? " As a result, his son told Jackie Chan that he went to middle school, but Jackie Chan was waiting to pick up his son in his primary school. Such a father is also a serious vacancy.

The second is helplessness, because there is a natural connection between mother and child from the close contact from pregnancy to delivery to breastfeeding. However, there is little natural connection between father and child, so many fathers are helpless when their children are born. In fact, every father loves his children, but because of the lack of this natural connection, fathers and children need more acquired efforts in this respect. Not every father is born to take care of his children. In this process, these fathers may be accused by their mothers the most. Fathers are getting less and less confident. The fun of getting along with children is getting less and less. So with the passage of time, he began to become unwilling to do such a thing, even afraid to get along with children for a long time.

The third incompetence, the last one said that there is less innate connection between father and child, and that incompetence just doesn't know how to create connection with child in the acquired situation. It is possible that the children go out to run and jump, and my father thinks that my big belly can't keep up with the rhythm of the children. Maybe moms will complain about dad. In family education, everyone knows the importance of fathers, and mothers should learn to accept these stupid fathers and let them have more contact with their children. Let them have more parent-child interaction and solve this problem slowly.

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