What did ancient women in China do to traditional virtues? Urgent need ~ thank you!

In China's traditional ethics, the requirements for women are harsh, and the so-called "three obedience" and "four virtues" are the foundation of women's existence. So what are "three obedience" and "four virtues"?

The so-called "three obedience" means: don't marry from the father, marry from the husband, and the husband dies in the child. It means that girls should listen to their parents' instructions before getting married, and don't contradict the instructions of their elders at will, because their social knowledge is rich and has fundamental guiding significance; After marriage, you should be polite to your husband, keep a house and practice with your husband, respect the old and love the young; If the husband unfortunately dies before himself, he should stick to his duties, find ways to raise the children and respect their philosophy of life. Obedience here is not "following" in the superficial sense, but the essence of "engaging" with the nature of work.

The so-called four virtues refer to: virtue, tolerance, words and deeds, that is to say, being a woman, the first thing is morality, and being upright; Then there are looks (pointing out that you should be dignified and steady, and you can't be frivolous and casual), words (meaning that you should be free to add meaning when talking to others, understand what others say, and know what you should and shouldn't say) and the way of running a family (the way of running a family includes taking care of your husband, educating children, respecting the old and loving the young, being thrifty and so on).