How to deal with the psychological test point of teacher-student relationship

"Without love, there is no education", which is a famous saying of modern educator Xia Mianzun. Tolstoy, a famous Russian writer and educator, once said: "If a teacher only loves education, then he can only be a good teacher. If a teacher reads a lot of books, but he doesn't love his profession or his students, he is not a good teacher. If a teacher combines his love for his career with his love for his students, he is a perfect teacher. Fista Lodge, a Swiss educator, argues that the most important virtue a teacher has for his students is love. He said: If you want to be a real child educator, you should serve them wholeheartedly. It can be seen that loving students is an indispensable condition for teachers' work, and loving students wholeheartedly is the common quality of all excellent teachers.

Years of education and teaching practice have convinced me that a good teacher-student relationship is the premise to promote and ensure the smooth progress of the education process and an important factor to promote the healthy growth of students. To establish a good teacher-student relationship, we must do the following: (1) Care and understand students. (2) Respect and trust students. (3) Be good at discovering students' "bright spots". (4) Encourage students to participate in the educational process and absorb their correct opinions.

First of all, a good teacher-student relationship is the premise to promote and ensure the smooth progress of the education process.

The process of education is a process of cooperation between teachers and students. Therefore, its smooth progress depends not only on teachers, but also on students, which is based on their enthusiasm. Whether these two initiatives can be fully mobilized is largely restricted by the relationship between teachers and students. For students, all the educational influences, even the harshest criticisms, given by teachers who have deep relations and feelings with them are regarded as their care and love, so they can accept them happily. On the contrary, if the relationship between teachers and students is not harmonious, students will often ignore the same educational influence and have no enthusiasm and initiative to participate in the educational process. Similarly, the relationship between teachers and students has an impact on teachers' work. Good teacher-student relationship is also an incentive for teachers, which will make teachers work harder and experience a special kind of happiness and pleasure from their work; On the contrary, teachers will feel unhappy and affect their enthusiasm.

Many teachers have such personal experience. If they have a good relationship with students in a certain class, teachers will be refreshing and gushing. On the contrary, teachers are bound to be listless in teaching, which will affect the teaching level. It can be seen that without a good teacher-student relationship, it is difficult for the education process to achieve the expected results.

Second, a good teacher-student relationship is an important factor to promote the healthy growth of students.

Establishing a good teacher-student relationship is helpful for students' self-esteem, self-confidence and self-improvement, and forms a sense of ownership. If the relationship between teachers and students is equal, mutual respect and trust, students often feel a sense of dignity when they live in such an environment every day, so they are full of confidence in themselves and willing to display their talents and participate in the educational process. They often notice that they are the masters of learning, thus inspiring their sense of ownership and responsibility. This kind of consciousness can be continuously strengthened, and finally as an ideology and morality, it is rooted in the spiritual world of students and becomes the criterion for them to participate in school life and future social life.

Good teacher-student relationship helps to cultivate students' noble moral feelings. Teachers care about students, and students have deep feelings for teachers, which is a noble moral emotion in itself. This kind of moral emotion will create a good moral atmosphere and constantly edify and infect students. In this way, they will gradually form a correct understanding and belief in the relationship between people, expand the scope of friendship from the emotional point of view, learn to dedicate their love to others, understand that individuals should be closely linked with others, the collective and the motherland, and then more consciously put their love for the motherland, socialism and the people into practice-study hard and train themselves as successors of the socialist cause.

Establishing a good teacher-student relationship helps students to form a perfect personality. Students live in class groups every day, and the relationship between teachers and students is a very important factor in the formation of their personality. If the relationship between teachers and students is good, students will feel comfortable, optimistic and positive, feel that life is a kind of enjoyment, and thus have a positive attitude towards people, themselves and the surrounding environment. For example, caring for the collective, helping others, being serious and responsible, not afraid of difficulties and so on. After continuous strengthening, these characteristics will gradually be fixed, forming a relatively stable tendency and becoming a part of students' personality. A good teacher-student relationship is helpful to arouse students' learning enthusiasm and improve learning efficiency.

To sum up, the teacher-student relationship is an invisible potential educational factor, which restricts students' educational level, affects the whole educational process and largely determines the quality and effect of education. As the educator Tchaikovsky said: "As far as the effect of education is concerned, it is very important to look at the relationship between teachers and students."

Third, caring for students is the most basic requirement to deal with the relationship between teachers and students.

Teachers' love for students is different from ordinary people. It does not come from blood relationship, nor from some simple personal needs of teachers, but from their correct understanding of educational objects. The more consciously a teacher loves his students, the more he can win their love. Good teacher-student relationship can be established quickly and developed healthily. So, how to care for students and win their love? Every student is a living person with thoughts, feelings and personality. On the surface, there seems to be a great difference between students. In fact, every student has his own unique and distinctive side. Therefore, if you don't understand students, you can't have real love for them, let alone give them targeted education. And getting to know students is by no means an easy task. Therefore, teachers must make efforts.

Students are the object of teachers' work. Without understanding students, teachers lose the premise of doing a good job in education. Only when teachers fully understand students' students' life, thoughts and health conditions can they proceed from reality and educate students in a targeted manner and achieve good educational results. An excellent class teacher once talked about his handling of a student's cheating. In order to help everyone master English better, the representative of English class in his class asked the teacher's permission and organized a classmate test in the self-study class. After the test, the squadron leader concluded that everything was normal. However, the class teacher thinks that there is no teacher invigilator, and it seems that the collective public opinion is not strong enough. As expected, some students reported after class that many people read books during the exam, even the squadron leader read books. What shall we do? The teacher remembered a famous saying by Thomas Macaulay: "Truth is what a person does when no one knows it. Can show his character. " The next day, he asked all the students to learn this famous saying by heart, and told a story reflecting a student's remorse for cheating in his school days 30 years later, and asked each student to write an experience entitled "The Answer to the Mind". Several students admitted the mistake of turning over the book on the answer sheet. The class teacher also made a recording of these good answers, named "heartfelt wishes", so that students can receive another self-education while listening to the recording. This makes the class further form a strong and healthy collective public opinion. The reason why this teacher has achieved such good results in education lies not only in his brilliant educational skills, but also in his profound understanding of students. He understands students' emotions, demands and psychological characteristics. He respects his classmates and encourages them to educate themselves, understand and correct their shortcomings without hurting their self-esteem.

To understand students, we must first strive to be comprehensive and thorough. It is necessary to understand the students' own past lives, the family life environment where students grew up, the people and things they often contact, and the advantages and disadvantages and specialties of students' performance; Also understand the inner world of students, including his distress and anxiety. In a word, only when teachers try their best to understand everything about students can they open the doors of students' hearts, find educational ways and methods suitable for students' personality characteristics, and let teachers love play a greater role. Only by comprehensively and deeply understanding students and education can we "suit the right medicine" and get practical results.

Secondly, teachers should strive to make themselves close friends of students. Teachers should take the initiative to make friends with students, understand their inner world, understand them, help them, gain their trust and listen to their voices. Only in this way can teachers have a profound and comprehensive understanding of students.

Thirdly, teachers should understand the psychological characteristics of students and care about them, instead of replacing them with their own psychology.

(2) Respect and trust students.

A student is not mature, he is a person first, then a student, so teachers must respect and trust them very much. If teachers put the power of educating students above students' personality, they will inevitably regard reprimand, satire and sarcasm as normal teaching methods, and even develop to the point of insulting and corporal punishment, resulting in tension between teachers and students. Generally speaking, children and adolescents have strong self-esteem and self-motivation, and they all want to respect their self-esteem. Seeing beautiful things shining on them will make them understand the love of teachers, accept their education more easily, and actively overcome their shortcomings. Suhomlinski pointed out: "The whole trick of educational skills lies in grasping children's self-motivation. If we don't strengthen and develop children's personal self-esteem, we can't form their moral values. " Suhomlinski once told such a story. When he was the principal of Pavlysh Middle School, he once met a female primary school teacher who gave the first class to freshmen. She talked about students coming to school to keep their hands, ears and clothes clean. When she saw a child with dirty ears sitting in the front row, she said, "Look, everyone, how dirty Grisha's ears are." At this time, all the children in the class looked at him intently. The child was so ashamed that he really wanted to hide his face. After every class, he always feels as if the whole class is looking at his ears and can't concentrate in class. As a result, by the end of the first semester, Grishad's grades were already very poor. When his mother learned of this situation, she transferred the child to another class. As a result, Grisha became a good student. Suhomlinski believes: "The mistake made by this female teacher in education is that she is indifferent to the child and criticizes him as a model in the whole class, thus hurting the child's self-esteem."

Respecting students means trusting them. Respect comes from trust, and it should be believed that students can make progress through education. People who don't make mistakes in life don't exist, especially in the middle school era when their outlook on life and morality are rapidly formed, and they are more likely to make mistakes of one kind or another. Therefore, we should fully understand that they trust them and guide them to correct their mistakes. Trust is also a very important educational force.

First of all, teachers should respect students' personality, self-esteem and legitimate hobbies. In the process of education, teachers should treat students equally so that students can truly feel that they are a person with personality and dignity. Satire, sarcasm, reprimand, abuse and corporal punishment are all disrespectful to students' personality. Will greatly hurt students' self-esteem. Secondly, teachers should fully trust students. Teachers' trust in students is a powerful educational force, which can stimulate students' self-confidence and pursuit of a better future, and promote students' development in a positive direction.

In short, there is no education without love. For the future of the country and the prosperity of the nation, teachers should dedicate their love to students and strive to cultivate them.