What should I do if my child is not confident after entering kindergarten?

Beibei, who is 3 years old, does express a clear lack of confidence in himself when it comes to painting and paper-cutting, and is worried about not being able to do well. Parents may be a little surprised, how can such a young baby have so little self-confidence? In fact, the baby's sense of self begins to develop from the moment he is born, and gradually deepens as he grows older. 3-year-old Beibei liked painting very much, so her parents signed her up for a painting class at an early childhood education center. However, one day, her mother took Beibei to learn painting. Halfway through, Beibei suddenly said she didn't want to go. Mom was surprised: "Don't Beibei like painting very much? Why don't you want to go?" Beibei said timidly: "What should I do if I don't draw well? What should I do if the teacher doesn't praise me?" After listening to Beibei's words, mother I felt very uncomfortable. This is not the only sign of Beibei's lack of confidence. For example, once Beibei wanted to play paper-cutting, so her mother took scissors and white paper and showed her child how to cut gear shapes. The child picked up the scissors with great interest, but hesitated. After a long time without cutting it, he said, "What should I do if I can't cut it?" So he decided not to cut it. Ordinarily, Beibei's parents have always been praising and encouraging Beibei. They have never made too many demands on their child or criticized her. Why is the child so unsure of herself? Why is the baby "unconfident"? When 3-year-old Beibei dealt with painting and paper-cutting, his words did reveal a clear lack of confidence in himself and worry about not being able to do well. Parents may be a little surprised, how can such a young baby have so little self-confidence? In fact, the baby's sense of self begins to develop from the moment he is born, and gradually deepens as he grows older. When a baby comes into this world, when the mother faces him, he can clearly feel whether he is anxious, relaxed, angry, or happy. At the same time, his feelings about himself are gradually formed through the attitudes of the people around him towards him. For example, I am popular, I can bring happiness to others, or it is because my mother is unhappy. As the age increases, the baby's skills gradually develop, such as talking, walking, eating, etc. Every baby is different, some are faster in this aspect, and some are faster in that aspect. At this time, the parents' attitude towards the baby's development also directly affects the baby's self-feeling and self-understanding. Some babies talk and walk later, and parents become anxious and always compare their children with other people's children. At this time, even if the parents do not criticize the child, the baby can feel it and feel that he is not good enough. This is a basic process in the formation of children's self-awareness. The reason why Beibei feels unconfident in painting and paper-cutting may be due to the evaluation of people around him on the one hand, and may also be due to the feeling of being unsure of himself while growing up. Based on Beibei’s story, let’s talk about the reasons why babies are not confident: 1. Inappropriate praise Although Beibei’s mother mentioned that they mainly praise and appreciate their children and rarely criticize them. However, there are some situations worth thinking about when it comes to appreciating children. Some parents appreciate their children by saying "you are awesome". However, the parents' praise has no actual basis. At first, the child may believe it, but as the child grows older and the scope of contact gradually expands, when he discovers in collective life that he is not as great as his parents say, he will doubt others' affirmation of him. , and at the same time, you will doubt yourself. There are also some parents who have a strong sense of comparison when they praise their children, such as, "Good baby, you are better than them all." This will invisibly make the baby develop a desire for success, and he always likes to compare with others. Once he does not do well in anything, he will be hit mentally. 2. Failure to communicate well with teachers. Babies like to be praised by teachers, but once they are not praised or criticized, they will lose confidence. This is also normal. Therefore, Beibei is worried about not being praised for his poor painting. It is also possible that he has experienced psychological frustration in the process of learning to paint. In fact, there are many standards for whether children's painting is good or bad. Some teachers attach great importance to coloring, while others prefer to let children graffiti freely. Parents also have their own standards. Therefore, whether the painting is actually good or not, if the parents do not have standards in mind and do not communicate with the teacher in a timely and sufficient manner, the children will feel low self-esteem due to lack of recognition on the one hand, and they will also be confused on the other hand. 3． Lack of self-confidence is a learned reaction in children. If parents are calm and calm in dealing with people, neither humble nor overbearing, it will also affect their children invisibly and make them develop a good sense of themselves. If parents are prone to self-denial, their children will also learn this self-denying way of thinking, and thus they will not be able to confirm themselves. How to raise a healthy and confident baby? 1. Raise children with a happy attitude. No practical method can match the positive and happy attitude of parents. It will have a greater impact on the healthy growth of the baby. Therefore, in order to make babies confident, parents must first cultivate their minds and make themselves calm and confident. This will invisibly convey the message of happiness and confidence to the child, allowing the baby to have a better sense of self. 2. Learn reasonable appreciation. Appreciation is first and foremost the heartfelt appreciation of parents for their children. Therefore, we must break the rules and regulations in our minds and be good at discovering the shining points of our children. In addition, there is not much difference in the intelligence level of each child, but some people are better at this aspect, and some people are better at that aspect. These innate factors are beyond the control of children. Whether a person can develop well in the end depends on hard work.

Therefore, parents should appreciate their children's efforts, not their intelligence.