Origins of Japanese Weddings

Japanese people consider marriage to be a major turning point in their lives, so they are extremely careful about getting married. Most Japanese weddings are combined with religious ceremonies, such as in accordance with Japanese tradition, young people from meeting and getting to know each other, the conclusion of the marriage contract, the bride price to the disclosure of the wedding banquet have many rules, if you do not have a good grasp of the often be criticized, comments.

The Japanese people believe that marriage is a major turning point in life, so the issue of marriage is extremely careful. Most Japanese weddings are combined with religious ceremonies, such as in accordance with Japanese tradition, young people from meeting to meet and get to know each other, to conclude the marriage contract, the bride price to disclose the wedding banquet have many rules, if you do not grasp the tendency to be criticized and commented on. So ready to get married Japanese, especially women, will generally go to the pre-wedding classes before the wedding to learn the necessary etiquette when the disclosure of the banquet, wedding etiquette, procedures, and after the marriage of many etiquette. It can be seen that the etiquette of marriage in Japan is complicated, but not uninteresting.

Japan and China are closely related, and the similarities with China can be clearly found in their writing, clothing, lifestyles and manners. Weddings, a ceremony that brings together the rituals of a whole society, are a very distinctive way of bringing out the rituals, customs and humanistic features of a place, or even of a country. It goes without saying that the bride price is an indispensable part of a Japanese wedding. Japanese weddings vary according to local customs, and so do the bride price. Unlike in the past when the preparation process was cumbersome, there are now many department stores in Japan that sell the five-, seven-, and nine-piece bride price packages. The traditional Japanese bride price is a seven-piece gift consisting of a white fan, white twine, kelp, dried bonito, shuriken rice, yanagibaru, and bride price money. In China, especially in the countryside, when you get married, you send gold, which is usually familiar to us as "hardware", usually including gold rings, earrings, bracelets, necklaces, anklets and so on.

Similarly, in Japan, people also believe that the gold goods than the marriage contract to have effect, so the Japanese people most of the gold goods as a token of agreement, such as the violation of the letter can be based on the gold goods to deal with subsequent problems. It must be the fault of the party to the economic way as the other party's compensation, and China has the same flavor. When it comes to the bride price money, nowadays it is mostly around half a million, seven hundred thousand, one million. Of course, this is also determined by the bride and groom of the two sides of the family situation specifically, if it is the marriage between the big plutocrats, open astronomical figures is not wrong, but if the family is poor, as long as the heart to the can, and do not have to reach a certain number, after all, the marriage is the union of two people, rather than economic transactions. If it is not the heart, and then more bride price is still the same as a piece of paper.

There is another point that must be mentioned, the Japanese taboos are quite a lot, such as visiting the sick can not send lily, because it sounds the same as "beheading". So in Japan for their habits need to have a certain understanding, otherwise it will cause unnecessary misunderstanding and trouble. Japanese people avoid sending 800,000, that 80 is a number that is not in front of the village and not behind the store, unlucky. Also, when sending bride price money, the names of all the members of the woman's family should be written on it. The name of the person who has passed away can not be left out, otherwise it will cause unnecessary storms.

In addition, with the change of times and the pursuit of speed and convenience, in recent years many families have replaced the bride price money with the holding of a marriage contract in the form of renting a hall in a hotel and having the man present the wedding ring to the woman at the marriage ceremony. In today's Japan, the dowry and the cost of the wedding ceremony are generally shared equally between the two families. The gift to the introducer is usually given at the end of the marriage ceremony. In contrast, only the introducer's fare and money for food and drink are usually given at the time of the engagement ceremony.

Japan is a very strict and disciplined nation that likes to pursue perfection. If you are invited to a Japanese friend's wedding reception, it is essential to know some of the necessary etiquette. First of all, Japanese people attending the wedding disclosure banquet usually have to give the bride and groom a gift of money. The amount of money varies depending on the relationship and the place, but generally speaking, 50,000 yen is given to siblings, cousins and cousins, and 100,000 yen is given to couples attending together. They must be placed in a ceremony bag decorated with gold and silver ropes. The gold and silver ropes are made of five gold and five silver ropes, which are then twisted together and woven into the shape of a moth. Most importantly, for the amount of the gift, please avoid numbers related to 4 and 9 (because 4 and 9 are pronounced similar to death and suffering).

Also, before the banquet begins, the bride and groom will be at the gate to meet all the guests, then at this time you are either the groom's iron friends or the bride's bosom friend, please in the greetings, and the newcomer took a picture of the newcomer immediately after the seat in their own seat, do not talk to them for a long time, which not only appears to be very uneducated, but also will make the newcomer into an embarrassing situation. Next, during the disclosure banquet, which is roughly the same as Chinese weddings, the bride and groom's elders, supervisors, leaders or celebrities are usually invited to speak, at which time everyone has to put down their chopsticks and listen attentively. Even if you haven't eaten for three days, don't continue to eat like a gourmand, or you'll be blacklisted by the others at the wedding next time, as well as ridiculed for the rest of your life for it. And, on a joyous occasion like a wedding, it is certain that you should avoid speaking words of unlucky and bad omen such as going, returning, returning, leaving, breaking, thin, cold, shallow, perishing and repeating, again, breaking, breaking and so on. One more thing, at the end of the wedding banquet, if you are the guest of honor, then you will usually receive a return gift, usually household goods, priced between about three thousand and ten thousand Japanese yen (about one thousand to three thousand three hundred Taiwan dollars). This is the time you can gladly accept, do not push and shove, but rather unattractive.

The fact that the wedding is over does not mean that the ceremony is completely over. After the wedding, newlyweds in Japan go to the home of the introducer to give thanks and express their gratitude, as well as to give gifts that they bought for the introducer during their wedding trip. Another thing the newlyweds have to do within a month after the wedding is to send out a marriage notice. If the newlyweds have their own new home after the wedding, they should hold a potluck dinner party at their new home to entertain those who helped with the wedding, as well as bring small gifts and visit the surrounding neighbors one by one in order to ask for future care. If you live with your husband's family, the bride will have to follow her mother-in-law and husband to visit the neighbors.

It is worth mentioning that in recent years, more and more young Japanese men and women are choosing different forms of marriage ceremonies, not only organizing many unique wedding ceremonies, but also becoming more and more distinctive. This may be because the age of marriage in Japan is now higher than ever before, and couples who get married want to make their weddings more memorable after attending the weddings of many of their friends and relatives!