"Many children, many women and many enemies": The era of many children and many blessings is gone forever.

In the traditional culture of China, we all have such an idea, that is, "many children are more blessed". The more children, the more blessings.

Why? In the words of the ancients, it is "the five borders of Reuters Jiangdong, and children and grandchildren can pass around their knees."

When we were young, we gave birth to children and raised them slowly. And our greatest wish is to ask them to be filial to themselves, to have a sense of security and happiness in their old age.

Because what we in China are looking forward to most is the warm and traditional "family happiness". A bunch of children around you make you feel the happiness of your family and the satisfaction of your life.

This idea is our wish and the hope of most old people in life. However, is there really nothing wrong with the phrase "many children are blessed"?

A philosopher once said, "A good thing is the other side of an unfortunate thing."

Everything in the world is contradictory. Since there is a good side, there will be a bad side, which is an unavoidable reality.

In some families with better education and richer assets, in fact, the more children, the happier they are. However, something unfortunate will happen eventually.

In some poor families, having more children often indicates that there is not much happiness, but the beginning of "pain". Because all "family happiness" requires people to pay the price.

Many times, how many children there are, how many people will "resent" you. Perhaps having more children doesn't mean more happiness. Retirement in old age is the beginning of pain.

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Aunt Chen and her wife Huang Shu used to run factories in big cities. They have a successful career and many assets and houses in their names. Both of them have been successful in their lives.

When they were young, they had three children. But because they are busy with their careers, they have no time to take care of their children. These three children were brought up by grandparents and grandparents in rural areas.

Generally speaking, Mr. and Mrs. Huang Shu can only see their children once a year, that is, during the Chinese New Year. There is basically no deep affection between children and parents.

Every new year, they come and go in a hurry, and there is no leisure time at all.

The couple have lived such a busy life all their lives. When they retire, they find that the distance between themselves and their children is out of sight, and their relationship is also very cold.

Many times, the couple told the three children that they hoped they could understand their parents' difficulties. Then, I am going to transfer my house and assets to them.

However, the children said that they would rather go back to their hometown and starve to death than a penny from their parents. When Huang Shu and his wife heard these words from their children, they were actually very chilling. They want to know why children hate themselves so much.

With these doubts, the two of them lived a deserted life. They don't know that their children are married, and even if they have grandchildren, they are not told.

In this regard, the couple always feel that they have worked hard for a rich industry for most of their lives, but they have lost their children and feelings. I don't know if this result is worth it.

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Aunt Zhang is 73 years old and her wife is 75 years old. The two old people are now facing a huge family crisis.

The couple actually have five children, all of whom were born when they were young. Although they had a hard time at that time, they still felt that many children should be blessed.

When these five children were born, in fact, their whole family lived a relatively poor life. There are even three children who have no books to read. So these three children especially hate their parents.

The two children who have books to read are actually not doing very well. Because when they go to college, their parents stop them and tell them that it is useless to read so many books, which will only increase the burden on their families.

Therefore, there are seven people in this family, all of whom have no education and culture, so they can only work as coolies everywhere, and the family relationship has always been very stiff.

Aunt Zhang and her wife retired and wanted to have a full house of children and grandchildren. However, children spend most of their time working in other places, so how can they have time to go home?

On one occasion, Aunt Zhang and her wife discussed that it was better to divide the old house and the land at home, so that the children could have a guarantee and also wanted to ease the family relationship.

However, when it comes to sharing a house, all five brothers and sisters are here, which is worse than outsiders.

Today, in this family, not only children and parents are at odds, but even brothers are in the same boat, as if they were enemies.

In fact, Mr. and Mrs. Huang Shu and Aunt Zhang are both unfortunate people in the "home".

Although the former is rich, he seldom spends time with his children when he is young. In the end, the children don't want to recognize it, so they can only die alone.

The latter is simply the epitome of some rural families. They have raised many children, but they have failed to fulfill their corresponding responsibilities and obligations, ruining their future, thus making their children resentful and their family relations worse and worse.

Both of them have a common feature, that is, they don't understand "education".

If Mr. and Mrs. Huang can spend more time with their children, they may not live a deserted life after retirement, and their children will be filial to them.

If Aunt Zhang and his wife can recognize the reality and have two or three fewer children, they should not hinder their children from going to school or delay their future. Perhaps, all potential and incompatible consequences will not happen.

As parents, we should understand that having more children does not mean happiness unless you can educate your children well. If you can't even fulfill your parents' responsibilities and have no ability to raise them, you are harming them by having too many children.

If you want to live well in your later years, you need filial and warm children after all. We should educate them well when we are young and pave the way for their future. Perhaps children will be more grateful to their parents.

When you have a child, you have to bear certain responsibilities. Otherwise, this irresponsible behavior will eventually make you suffer.

Text/There are deer in Shushan