Why relatives introduced me to the object of the general "quality" is not good?

Why is it that the relatives introduced to you, the general "quality" is not good? There are three reasons for this.

Relatives of traditional thinking

Since the relatives to introduce you to the object, it is tantamount to acquiescence to the other party's view of marriage, and the parents of the relatives of the generation, most of the cognition is single, there will be some prejudice to the older people.

In the dating market, basically can not escape such cognitive law, when a woman over thirty years old is still single, either there is some kind of defect, or the character is more eccentric.

Don't think you're an exception to the rule, there are never a few people who harbor this kind of cognition, and they all feel that not getting married at that age must not be because they don't want to, not actively choosing, but not being able to meet the right one, forcing them to take the road of dating, and there is no one who is willing to marry, and that's why they're still single.

These relatives, although verbally promised enthusiastically, but privately most of them have to chew the tongue.

Compared to men, girls are more likely to be thwarted on blind dates. As long as they are a little bit younger and older, blind dates are like jumping into a fire pit because some relatives are so over the top that they don't respect women and don't recognize their value.

But they won't be able to show it to the public. In the eyes of these relatives, although you are economically independent, have a career, and have a car and a house, what they see is still the value of your birth.

The final result is that the mouth does not say, in fact, to find you a middle-aged greasy uncle to match you, people are so that you set up, in the end, you are angry directly away from the scene, but also owed each other a favor.

You don't have self-knowledge

Laozi said, "Knowing people is wise, self-knowledge is clear." As the saying goes: people are valuable to have self-knowledge. Now many young people to escape from reality is not to use: "inferiority" word.

Rather, they have opened a narcissistic mode, narcissism, means overestimating their own comprehensive strength, immersed in their own very perfect fantasies, as a way to escape from reality, thinking about thinking about the reality of more and more far away.

Narcissism goes back to the stage of omnipotent narcissism in infancy, and if this period is not fulfilled, it will be pursued frantically in the days to come.

Or a prolonged blow from the outside world, where narcissism is chronically damaged and not effectively remedied, can also rebound back in exaggerated fashion in adulthood.

Over time, the frustration is reflected in the interpersonal relationship is "narcissism", such a person because of the bones feel that they are more important than others, so it is difficult to do the real meaning of the transposition of thinking, naturally, but also in the emotional frustration.

Rather than miss the boat, you can't afford to settle for less. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products in the world, and then you'll be able to get your hands on some of the most popular products in the world.

Like a lot of thirty-something women, all "guarded like a jade" so many years, how can easily give up?

The sunk cost of letting go of the past is also the beginning of a new life.

Relatives don't think you're "good"

When you ask your relatives for help, there's no chance that they're just trying to save face, worrying about the impact on the relationship and pandering to you before promising to find you a good one.

You must have also mentioned your requirements before seeking help, but by this time the relative has already priced you out.

A 36-year-old older woman, told me about her relatives, she can not be said to be ugly, but at least she graduated from graduate school, working in a joint venture management, 1.63 meters tall, annual income of 20W, but the results of her relatives, who opened a chain of hotels, even introduced her to a junior high school graduates, height of only 1.7 meters, divorced and with a child grocery store small boss.

Then the single dog my friend was crushed, the result of the relatives also did not forget to sneer, said my friend earns money not more than others, said my friend high vision, do not know their own a few kilograms how many twos and two ......

In fact, in the relatives of the concept, you may be ordinary, or that your relatives pressed the root! The actual fact is that you can't get the most out of your own home, and you'll be able to get the most out of your own home.

Don't think that the relatives is the branch of the relatives relationship, can be like relatives can really look forward to you, really willing to do for your good people, in addition to the parents have no other, the relatives instead of to stab you in the heart.