How to deal with your extreme thoughts? !

Impulsive emotions are actually the most powerless emotions and the most destructive emotions. Many people will do things they regret when they are impulsive. Therefore, some positive and effective measures should be taken to control their impulsive emotions. (1) First, mobilize your reason, control your emotions and calm yourself down. In the face of strong emotional stimulation, we should force ourselves to calm down, quickly analyze the cause and effect of things, and then adopt "delaying tactics" to express emotions or eliminate impulses, and try not to fall into an impulsive, reckless and simple passive situation. For example, when you are satirized and laughed at by others, if you are furious and retorted, it is likely to cause disputes between the two sides, and the anger is getting bigger and bigger, which naturally does not help. However, if you can remind yourself to calm down and take rational countermeasures at this time, such as using silence as a weapon of protest, or just expressing your hurt in a few words and accusing the other party of being bored, the other party will feel embarrassed. (2) Use hints to divert attention. Things that make you angry usually touch your dignity or vital interests, so it is difficult to calm down at once. Therefore, when you feel that you are very excited and can't control your emotions, you can relax yourself and encourage yourself to restrain your impulses by means of hints and distractions. Verbal hints, such as "don't be the victim of impulse", "deal with this later, it's no big deal", or change something simple, or go to a quiet and peaceful environment, are all effective. People's emotions often take only a few seconds or minutes to calm down. But if the bad mood can't be transferred in time, it will be more intense. For example, the more worried people think about their worries, the more they feel that they have many reasons to worry; The more angry people think about angry things, the more they think they should be angry. According to the research of modern physiology, when people encounter dissatisfaction, anger and sadness, they will transmit unpleasant information to the brain, and gradually form a temporary connection of the nervous system, forming a dominant center, which will be consolidated more and more. If you immediately shift, think about happy things, send happy information to your brain, and strive to build a happy excitement center, you will effectively resist and avoid bad emotions. (3) After calming down, think about whether there is a better solution. When encountering conflicts, contradictions, and unsatisfactory things, you can't just escape, but you must also learn how to deal with contradictions. Generally, the following steps are taken: ① What are the main reasons for the conflict? What is the key to the differences between the two sides? ② What are the possible ways to solve the problem? ③ What solutions are unacceptable to one party to the conflict? ④ Which solutions are acceptable to both parties to the conflict? ⑤ Find the best scheme, take action and gradually accumulate experience. For example, Xiao Ming is in a bad mood these days. It turned out that he had a conflict with his father because he played football: his father asked him to give up his favorite football and concentrate on his studies; Xiaoming himself has a strong interest in football and is unwilling to give up galloping on the court. What are the solutions to the problem after the reasons for the differences are clarified? There are four schemes as follows: ① Give up football training and concentrate on study; (2) Give up football training and not concentrate on study; ③ Insist on football training, which affects learning; (4) Arrange the time reasonably, not only insist on football training, but also give consideration to study. Among them, the second and third schemes are unbearable for my father to witness, while the first and second schemes are unwilling to be accepted by Xiao Ming. Since the fourth scheme is acceptable to both sides, I might as well give it a try. (4) At ordinary times, you can carry out some targeted training to cultivate your patience. You can choose a few things that need meditation, care and patience according to your hobbies, such as practicing calligraphy, drawing and making exquisite handicrafts, which not only cultivates your temperament, but also enriches your spare time. Middle school students are young, enthusiastic, full of ideals and full of vigor. This is a period from naivety to maturity; This is a period when the inner world is not easily revealed; This is a period of coexistence of independence and dependence; This is also a period of simple thinking, little conservative thinking and enterprising spirit; At the same time, it is also a period of emotional coping style, which is easy to go to extremes and prone to mental illness. Learning to manage and control their emotions is an important foundation for middle school students to mature and succeed in life.