Currently, college students are generally lack of employability in employment, enterprises always complain that college students are not "professional", this divergence between college students and enterprises has an insurmountable gap, hindering the employment of college students. However, more and more people are now beginning to worry about the lack of employability of college students. Enterprises on the lack of college students in the employability of the view is - attitude is the biggest problem. A well-known IT company's human resources manager believes that: college students have just come to work in the enterprise, not up to the standards of the enterprise is very normal. Enterprises employing college students is valued for its plasticity, learning new knowledge and new things fast, and is willing to do some heavy work to enhance the vitality of the enterprise, but if college students lack the initiative mentality is difficult to get the favor of the enterprise. He said: "The student period is a passive mentality, is the acceptance of the mentality, while the enterprise hopes that each employee has a proactive mentality, the initiative to care about the enterprise's mentality, the initiative of the work of the mentality, to have the spirit of mastery, and now the students are relatively lack of such a spirit, the urgent need to have a change of mind." Have a normal heart, can start from zero, which is often the most difficult for graduates to do, the attitude of humility is extremely lacking. Nowadays, graduates think they know everything, often asked to take on important positions as soon as they arrive at the company, but to the company only to find out that in fact the actual operation of the textbook with the content of the learned is too much difference, and to be in a company within the picket at least have to understand the company's culture, the results of the company only to find out that in fact, they can not do anything. It is an indisputable fact that the current employment situation is relatively tense, and the number of university graduates has increased a lot more than in the past, which inadvertently exacerbates this situation. The resulting shock is more often than not not a motivation to move forward, as advertised, but on the contrary creates widespread psychological anxiety. This refers to an emotional state of tension and fear arising from psychological conflicts or personal setbacks and the possibility of having to suffer setbacks. And excessive anxiety will undoubtedly have a negative impact on the employment of college students, it will not only inhibit the normal thinking of college students, but also make it difficult to concentrate, memory significantly reduced, thus affecting the normal study and life of college students. College graduates facing a severe employment situation anxiety is inevitable, but to achieve smooth employment, we must recognize the employment situation, face up to the employment status quo, change the concept of employment, timely adjustment of the employment mentality, so as to grasp the employment opportunities. Employment is a major turning point in the development of life, is an important stage in the transition of college students from "student" to "social person". The cognitive psychology of college graduates refers to their knowledge and understanding of themselves, their careers and their surrounding social environment in the process of choosing a job, as well as their reasoning and judgment of things in the process of choosing a job. The key for college students to make psychological adjustments and overcome the psychology of employment anxiety is to change the ideological concept of employment. To break the traditional idea of seeking stability and success in everything, and establish the concept of market competition. Understand that the job search process is a competitive process, even if you get a more ideal career, if the lack of competition, no longer continue to work hard, will also lose the job. Competition will have risks, establish a sense of competition, not afraid of risks and setbacks, anxiety will be alleviated. In the face of employment anxiety, rational thinking is the foundation, and updating one's mindset according to changes in the situation is the key. Only by facing up to the pressure of employment will we force ourselves to act positively. We know that moderate psychological anxiety can generate pressure, and this pressure can be turned into motivation, which enhances one's enterprising spirit. However, if the psychology is overly anxious and uneasy, and one cannot adjust these emotions within a certain period of time, these emotions will become psychological disorders or mental illnesses, which will seriously affect the play of one's subjective initiative, and even bury one's potential and bring additional difficulties to employment. In our daily life, our assessment of anxiety psychology can be objective or subjective. Facing employment, we are in a serious situation, the anxiety is a normal reaction; if we make unrealistic assessment of ourselves and the employment situation, i.e., we can't face up to the employment situation, the anxiety is not an adaptive reaction, but will make us feel abnormally nervous, and in serious cases, it will lead to anxiety disorders, thus correct cognitive cultivation is the foundation of a correct state of mind. In the absence of socialization before the baptism, many students self-perception is not accurate, some produce self-conceited mentality, mainly manifested in the choice of career expectations are very high, unwilling to take on the hard work, unwilling to go to economically underdeveloped areas and grass-roots level to work, and often leave the employer with a "low-eye, impetuous and boastful" of the bad impression; some produce Inferiority complex, mainly manifested in the low evaluation of their own quality and competitiveness in employment, do not dare to take the initiative to sell themselves to employers, do not dare to take the initiative to participate in the competition for employment, and fall into the predicament of losing without a fight. On the other hand, the peripheral environment cognitive inaccuracies, environmental underestimation will appear to sit and wait for the psychological, sitting and waiting will be easy to lose the opportunity, if the students are unrealistic thinking, focusing only on economic awareness and regional concepts, pay attention to the money first, the environmental conditions of the first, do not want to go to the treatment of the poor, the conditions of the poor place, will be prone to the "high no, low no" situation. This will easily lead to the situation of "no high, no low". College students with idealized tendency will have decision-making hesitation psychology in the employment process, thus missing some good employment opportunities. Anxiety will make college students feel nervous and worried, and a good mindset is conducive to their grasping of employment opportunities. In the process of employment, college students should not only relax themselves appropriately to keep a calm mind, but also pay attention to grasp the opportunity, so as not to let the opportunity of employment pass them by. Grasp the opportunity is not the tighter the better, just like the sand in our hands, sometimes the tighter you hold, the less will be left, so grasp the moderate anxiety and moderate relaxation, in order to let yourself always have a good state of mind. There are a variety of effective ways to relax, such as the use of imagination to reduce anxiety, we can imagine the employment process may appear in the anxiety scene, and then let themselves experience anxiety, while always reminding themselves that the anxiety of the mind, although they are uncomfortable, but there is not much danger, at least not fatal, in the imagination, we can with anxiety **** survival, in addition, a moderate amount of Physical exercise, listen to their favorite music,
can also adjust the tension. A recognize their own situation. Some people, full of passion, set high goals for themselves, when the scholar, elite, large sums of money, the results of a wave hit, began to sigh; some people, with a try or no other way out of the mentality of the temporary dry, and the situation is just the opposite of what was said, the starting point set very low, encountered a little frustration, I feel faint, that they are such a low demand can not be achieved, frustrated and disappointed. Both of the above situations are manifestations of not recognizing one's own situation, which is too biased and not objective. By recognizing one's own situation, it means that one should know clearly that one is employed in a highly competitive industry with a low threshold, so one should be humble as if one is walking on thin ice, and at the same time, one should be energetic, not burn out, and actively learn the skills of the industry. In this way, you will be able to cope with it. Second, adjust your mindset. Can't say that because of their own employment in the low threshold of entry into the profession, from the heart of the first three short of others, inferiority complex should never be. Modest and cautious, not inferiority complex, if a professional think that their own profession is short of three, they are equal to lose before the battle. Therefore, positively adjusting the mindset is a prerequisite for employment in the low threshold of entry into the profession. Improve your skills. Some people feel that they are engaged in the profession is a personal training, or even do not need training on the job, so the business skills to take the attitude of avoidance, is obviously wrong. Any career, do a good job long premise is to be proficient in business, the so-called connoisseur said this is the truth, can not let themselves become experts, but also at least should be familiar with common sense, so that they can have the confidence and confidence in the profession engaged in the inside to stand still. Fourthly, we believe in the future prospects. Some people, encounter difficulties, do not look for reasons from themselves, like to emphasize the objective, such as the industry downturn, fierce competition, complexity, poor image of the profession, no social status, etc., is not to look for reasons from themselves. Engaged in an industry, the first to see the prospects, the first to be optimistic about the prospects, otherwise the motivation of the officer will be lost, no motivation, there can be no performance and the possibility of development. In this period of job search, is the graduates choose and be chosen period, but also graduates there are more employment psychological problems of the period. Now the common psychological barriers to employment, the causes and their adjustment methods are briefly described. (A), in the employment process, common psychological barriers 1, inferiority complex. Some students believe that their strength is not as good as others, school reputation is not as good as the famous schools, lack of confidence in the employment process, lack of courage, do not dare to compete, resulting in the loss of their employment opportunities. 2、Anxiety psychology. This period, many students will be too much to consider their own wishes can be realized, employers can choose their own problems, heavy mental burden, distracted. 3, cowardly psychology. Some students in the interview, blushing, incoherent, answering the wrong questions; some students in the interview or trial teaching for fear of saying the wrong thing to affect the employer's impression of their own, and thus whispering or dare not speak. 4, the psychology of dependence. Some students do not want to put themselves into the market to participate in the competition, but put their hopes on their parents, relatives, friends, relying on them to find a job, resulting in a very inactive job-seeking attitude. (B), self-adjustment 1, self-reflection. When encountering difficulties, we should think calmly and reevaluate and reposition ourselves. Should be clear about their own career direction, hobbies, characteristics, personality, temperament; think more about what they are best suited for, their own strengths and weaknesses are, what is the main reason for the failure of their choice of career, and so on. Only through objective evaluation, in order to make their own employment in a more favorable 2, moderate catharsis. Because of the setbacks caused by psychological imbalance, you can talk to teachers, friends, or appropriate sports. 3, face the reality. Reality is objective, to their own advantages and disadvantages, the key is how to use the "good" to eliminate the "bad". At the same time to adjust expectations. 4, dare to compete. Dare not compete, is the employment counseling process found that many graduates have problems. "Graduates and employers two-way choice", compared with the past distribution system, fully embodies the competition mechanism. Students can combine the actual situation, through appropriate ways and means to recommend themselves, to dare to think, dare to say, dare to do, and meet the challenge with confidence. Dare to compete, but also good at competition, rely solely on the "courage" is not enough, to "have a plan", the face of the position, the face of the opponent, to be well thought out, to master the skills, seize the key. 5, not afraid of setbacks. Some students suffered setbacks, complaining about social injustice, self-loathing, loss of confidence. In such a state of mind to job search, generally not successful. Imagine: even their own do not believe in themselves, who can still believe you Therefore, it is necessary to maintain a balanced state of mind, looking for the reasons for their own failure, learn a lesson, to face the new competition.