In-laws to married daughters to stay in the room led to daughter-in-law dissatisfaction, married daughters are splashed out of the water?

"Married girl splashed out of water" is an old Chinese saying, but also a feudal society, a bad habit.

According to records, the ancient custom of girls getting married was that on the day of the marriage, before the bride got into the sedan chair of the man welcoming the bride, the mother had to bathe and dress the daughter who was about to get married. Wait until the daughter on the male sedan chair, the mother will also use a pot of water sprinkled to the back of the sedan chair, said his daughter is innocent, if the man wants to repent is not too late. This is the so-called "married out of the girl splashed out of the water" origin, but with the change of history, gradually this phrase has another meaning.

Anciently, women had to abide by the three virtues: the three virtues were from the father before marriage, from the husband after marriage, and from the son after the husband's death, and the four virtues referred to the woman's virtue, woman's speech, woman's face, and woman's work. Ancient feudal society practiced "male superiority and female inferiority," and although men were allowed to have three wives and four concubines, women were required to remain faithful to their husbands. As long as a woman was engaged in marriage, she would be a member of her husband's family in life and a ghost of his family in death. And in ancient times, if a woman was repudiated by her husband's family, it was a very humiliating event, and her parents and family would not be able to hold their heads up.

Although it is now the 21st century, many people have a sense of equality between men and women. However, the influence of the saying that "the daughter who is married off will be thrown out of the water" is still y rooted.

And until now there is still a bad custom in many rural areas, which is to regard it as bad luck for a married daughter to spend the New Year in her mother's house. There are also sayings such as "see the mother's family's flower paper, the mother's family will be poor to the end of the child". Meaning, as long as the daughter married out, can not see the mother's family New Year's Eve wall stickers "paper horse" (on behalf of the gods and ancestors of the gods and paper). Otherwise, the mother's family will be poor to the end. Especially now the divorce rate is very high, a lot of divorced daughters back to their parents' home, if the family still has older brothers and sisters, then the New Year's this daughter will be locked in a separate house, can not go out of the door half a step, in order to not be able to see the mother's family of the "paper horse", can not let the mother's family poor to the end of the child.

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