What are the absurd marriage customs in Ming Dynasty?

Every dynasty has its own style. In the expression of culture, it is difficult to persist. In the historical choice, different cultures will change their appearance under the control of the main line. Weddings are related to culture. Because only when the world recognizes and becomes a habit can culture be embodied in this habit.

If we only talk about the customs of the Ming dynasty, it will lead to boring history books. It is better to look at the custom background of weddings in the Ming Dynasty from a different angle and with a modern eye. Compared with modern concepts, we can also feel the customs and characteristics of the Ming Dynasty more intuitively.

1. Marriage age is too early.

In the weddings of the Ming Dynasty, the age of marriage and birthday were the first to bear the brunt. Because in society, in order to prevent accidents, wedding choices will be at the right age; In the traditional thought of "many children and many blessings", ordinary people hope that their descendants can multiply quickly, so the age of early marriage in Ming Dynasty has become a major feature.

In the Ming Dynasty, men 16 years old and women 14 years old could get married. Compared with the current marriage age of 20 years old, the marriage age in the Ming Dynasty was really too early. At the age of junior high school, you have to face another partner in your life. I don't have a definite answer about my cognition of life, but I need to know the opposite sex first. From the perspective of education and life, it is really not easy and irrational to get married too early.

It's not easy to get a wife.

In addition to the age of marriage in the early Ming Dynasty, the strictness of marrying concubines also became a major feature. It was recognized in ancient history that men married concubines. In order to meet the needs of the population, marrying several women is undoubtedly the best solution. But in ancient times, concubinage also needed material support.

In the Ming Dynasty, the negative effects of concubinage gradually appeared. For example, the disharmony between wives and the influence of chaos. The laws of the Ming Dynasty made stricter regulations on concubinage.

Whoever takes his wife as a concubine has a hundred staffs. Wife, wife, 90 employees, the correct saying is "official married musician, employee 60, divorced" ... In the laws of the Ming Dynasty, it is not easy to marry a concubine. Therefore, the ancient desire to marry concubines could not be realized in the Ming Dynasty.

3. Parents' orders, matchmakers' words

Of course, as a feudal dynasty, the main line of weddings in the Ming Dynasty could not be separated from "the life of parents and the words of matchmakers". Because in the choice of wedding, the ancients thought that the independent choice of marriage was often associated with chaos. In order to prevent chaos, it is a reasonable solution to regulate by parents and others.

However, in today's modern civilization, the progress and liberation of human nature overthrew this ancient bondage. Perhaps it is right to worry, but in the human nature of free choice, human civilization and development can make better progress. You can't always say no to most things with fear. Because in the unknown, as long as you are good at discovering long-term value, this courage is worthy of recognition.

Residual influence

In addition to the customs and etiquette and the characteristics of the Ming Dynasty, we can also see the shadow of the marriage customs of the Ming Dynasty. However, in the marriage life of both sexes, there are also negative effects of ancient weddings. The negative influence is not unique to the Ming Dynasty. In the marriage relationship, China's traditional thought of consolidating the foundation has become the biggest "culprit".

1, folly in marriage

In order to increase the festive degree of the wedding, getting married is a relatively civilized thing. But in the chaos, the cruelty and distortion of human nature are also reflected. In the Ming Dynasty, in order to prevent the influence of marriage, "the bride's clothes and shoes are all sewn with thread, which may be scattered and chaotic".

So marriage can really improve the festive atmosphere of the wedding, but barbarism is really not allowed. Before the wedding, it is the key to deal with excessive marriage to make arrangements and preparations for etiquette. Of course, putting an end to this uncivilized behavior is also a kind of wisdom.

2. The narrow concept that men are superior to women.

In the Ming Dynasty and ancient history, only men could write divorce certificates, and women's divorce certificates were not recognized. This proves that in ancient marriage life, men were superior to women. First of all, in the ancient economy, men created more value than women. Secondly, under the influence of traditional ideas, women have always been subservient to men's lives.

In modern civilization, women's rights and values have been greatly liberated. However, this solidified ancient thinking still affects modern life. Only by treating the married life of both sexes equally can we get a suitable living environment. Because of the power of knowledge, people have a relatively fair competition platform.

3. The traditional concept that mothers depend on their children.

In ancient traditional families, men have always been the key to the reproduction of family descendants. For example, in the Ming Dynasty, the feudalism and the clan inheritance of the scholar-officials all focused on men. In genealogical records, women often take their surnames, while men have their own names. In order to ensure their position in the family, women's concept of attaching importance to their mothers has become the embodiment of their values.

But considering the reality, it is natural to have boys and girls. Because children, both men and women, have their own values. As long as you give them selfless love, children will feel it sincerely and repay their parents with gratitude. And with the promotion of women's power, the concept that mothers are more precious than children gradually dissipates.