How should leaders build good relationships?

The following is what I saw in Zhihu. I hope I can help you.

Whether it's a leader, a customer, or an object you want to pursue, if you want to have a good relationship, you should first start with a circle of friends, with the aim of getting familiar with each other and improving your exposure. Of course, this praise depends on the specific situation. If the leader is ill and you like it, no one can save you. The leader may put you on the blacklist.

Get familiar with the circle of friends of leaders, such as where you have been recently and what books you have read. At least you have a general understanding of the preferences of leaders. If there is an opportunity, you can communicate more, at least let the leaders feel that you can communicate on some values.

Of course, this is not to flatter, but to reach a certain understanding in the field of mutual recognition. Usually pay more attention to the situation of leaders. When you go out to play, bring some valuable calligraphy, which can increase the leader's goodwill towards you.

First, imitation.

Imitate your way of thinking to deal with such a person who has a good relationship with his superiors.

Second, rehearsal.

We often encounter some situations. When the conversation ended, it suddenly occurred to me how I wished I had just said that, how I wished I had just said a word without silence, and so on. Therefore, when this happens, we should constantly restore this scene in your mind, in our hearts or when there is no one around, so that the answer in this language can become a memory response.

On the other hand, you can also boldly imagine how the conversation will go on the day before an important conversation, such as an interview, such as a report. And then design how to respond, how to answer, how to add some wisecracks to make yourself look attractive, and so on.

Third, memory becomes a reaction.

All rehearsals and imitations are intentional, which is a subconscious reaction on the spot. When you do enough and go deep enough in this rehearsal, some topics will become trigger points, and you can subconsciously say your thoughtful lines. I think for those of us who are not good at talking, the occasional words of laughing and laughing are even more refreshing and impressive for those who are superior.

When this reaction gradually increases, it will become a feeling in our hearts. Remember this feeling and let it become your normal heart and normal reaction.

There is another method that may not be suitable for everyone, and that is drinking. Under the influence of alcohol, people will put down a lot of defenses and reach a relaxed and comfortable state, so the leaders in many systems are completely two people before and after drinking. If you can drink some, you must feel the refreshing feeling of relaxing after a little tipsy. Remember this state, and then slowly bring it to your sober state.

Finally, there is another big taboo, that is, speaking ill of leaders in the workplace. There is no airtight wall in the workplace. Even if someone starts this topic, you should keep your mouth shut. Talk about right and wrong, something will happen sooner or later.

The answer comes from Zhihu.