Do you eat before or after the wedding?

First of all, which party will hold the banquet first?

In many places, there is actually a rule that women give a banquet first. First of all, in rural Chengdu, there is a dinner on the night before the wedding: it is called "Flower Night Dinner", and in some places it is called "Garden Party", which is a traditional custom. However, due to the progress of society and the development of traffic, more girls have joined the ranks of far marriage, so this custom is no longer suitable for the development of real society. Now it is more popular for both men and women to hold banquets.

But some old men are very traditional and may get married twice, which is unacceptable. They think it's unlucky, but the woman's parents want her daughter to get married beautifully, and they want to hold a grand wedding for her daughter and entertain relatives at the same time. Because of the long marriage time, it is impossible for all relatives to go to the man's house, so there will be a situation where both sides can do it.

Second, can the woman hold a wedding reception first?

1, it is strange that the woman simply invites her relatives to attend the formal wedding and attend two weddings. If you don't attend a formal wedding, the suggestion is to be formal first and then pick a simple time. Basically, a wedding is when the man drives to the woman's house to pick up the bride and then goes to the hotel.

2. If the two families are far away, for example, in different provinces, it is basically done twice. In this case, the order is irrelevant, mainly depending on the convenience of your own arrangement. If the man wants to do it first, I suggest the woman accommodate. Traditionally, a man marries his wife. Adoption is a special case.

3, it is recommended that the woman's family do it first, which is basically the case. This woman can do it simply.

4, the woman's family will get it first! Because the woman is too far away from his home!

5, can be made up of two * * *, two happy marriages, so marriage is a matter for two people. As for who will pay for the marriage, local customs should prevail, but there is no need to be so old-fashioned.

Third, wedding banquets and mothering banquets.

Marriage is a folk name for women to get married and get married. In ancient times, unmarried women lived in the attic. In ancient times, women were required to guard the front and second doors and were not allowed to meet men outside. Therefore, married women are called "married", and conversely, marriage is unmarried. In the past, the day before the bride got married, the bride's family would hold a wedding reception for the girl, which was also the last meal for the girl at her family, because after marriage, she became a member of the man's family. All the people invited were close relatives and friends of her family. On the wedding day, the bride's parents can't appear at the wedding scene, so the bride's family will entertain close relatives and close friends before the girl goes out.

Mothering feast:

Mothering relatives in the province, a custom handed down from ancient times, can also be called being a guest, going back to another home (in Minnan) or going back to the Three Dynasties. It means that the newlyweds bring gifts to the woman's house on the third day of marriage, and the woman's house must also prepare a banquet at this time (usually at noon, it is called a mother-in-law banquet or a son-in-law). After the mothering, the matchmaker's work is over, and the man must give the matchmaker a gift. In other words, the current return visit is usually on the third, sixth, seventh, eighth and ninth day after marriage, or at the full moon, the son-in-law goes back to her mother's house with the bride to pay a New Year call to her parents and relatives. The ceremony of becoming a husband from kissing is now complete. This custom originated in ancient times and is generally called "mothering in the province", which means going home to visit parents after marriage. Later generations have different names, such as "Hundred Doors" in Song Dynasty, "Two-way Doors" in North China in Qing Dynasty, "Huijia" in South China, "Jiaoshu" in parts of Hebei Province and "Huilang" in Hangzhou.

In modern times, it is usually on the third day after marriage, which is also called "Three Dynasties Meeting Door". This is the last ceremony of the wedding. Daughters will never forget the kindness of their parents. The son-in-law thanked her parents-in-law and newlyweds for their love and beauty. Generally, the woman hosts a banquet, and the new son-in-law is seated, accompanied by the female elders. The newlyweds either return on the same day or stay for a few days. If they stay, they won't live in the same room.