What rituals will ancient women hold when they grow up? [Historical topic]

As a girl's coming-of-age ceremony, the bride price is also a ceremony to show adulthood, just like the man's crown ceremony, and as far as the procedures of raising gifts are concerned, it is basically the same as the crown ceremony. But there are also many problems that need to be emphasized separately.

First, the meaning of salute

The ancient meaning of etiquette is based on the superiority of men over women, so it has some obvious brand of the times. The ancient meaning of bride price is a gift that women perform after engagement (promise to get married) but before marriage. Obviously, women's social responsibility will be reduced to a narrow range; However, we should not give up the sacred and symbolic function of the ceremony itself on the grounds of the limitations of the times. In fact, it is entirely possible to give new ideas to the times on this basis. We will find that the symbolic meaning of gifts is as important as the coronation ceremony, and it is also a reminder of life responsibility and social role-of course, the connotation of this social responsibility has been adjusted with the progress of the times. Women need independence and self-improvement, but women's self-improvement does not need to annihilate their femininity in a powerful way. Regarding the contradiction between the two, we have actually gone astray. Women should be "equal" and look at men in all directions. Without elegance, they are a little more rude ... so it is very meaningful to teach girls how to correctly understand the relationship between beauty and self-improvement during their growth. We must admit that the way to pay tribute to gifts is feminine: a long hair, a comb, carefully combed into a beautiful bun, and solemnly tied with a comb ... This process embodies the femininity of women and implies that women will support our world in a different way from men.

Second, salute age.

Zhou Li and ancient customs are about fifteen years old, and twenty years old at the latest. Considering the development of the times and the adjustment of the meaning of gifts, girls should study like boys and finish their studies. Therefore, it is more appropriate to put this time after graduating from high school 18 years old.

Third, the date of salute.

As for this date, the first part of the coronation ceremony has been detailed, so I won't repeat it, only adding a date: the third day of the third lunar month-Daughter's Day (Shangsi Festival). This is a China festival that originated more than 2,000 years ago, but it is only circulated in Japan and South Korea at present. At present, "Daughter's Day" has become one of the five major festivals in Japan. Therefore, it is not only a question of traditional etiquette, but also of great significance to the revival of national festivals.

Fourth, pay attention to the problem.

There is a lack of records of ceremonies and ceremonial costumes in the literature. But from all kinds of information, the whole salute procedure is basically the same as the coronation ceremony, with only a few slight differences.

1) Guests, ministers, Zans and other attendees should be women. The place to salute is suitable for the classroom.

2) Gifts: Like the crown ceremony of men, the gifts of ancient women also include three or two gifts. The crown was put on a plate, covered with a handkerchief and held by a department. Men's three plus are towels, hats and hoes, while women are also crowned countless times. If conditions permit, you can add hairpins and rockhoppers. Considering the actual situation today, only one item can be added to simplify the ceremony-that is, the guest of honor solemnly combs the woman's hair and adds a quilt. Hairpins and hairpins are still very popular today, so it's much easier than men wearing clothes for the first time. There are few records about clothes for giving gifts in the literature, so I basically refer to the male crown ceremony in the following ceremony.

3) About the length of hair: At present, many girls are used to keeping short hair, which directly conflicts with the way of the ceremony and cannot be said to be a problem. We don't have any particularly good suggestions about this at present, and we would like to hear your opinions.

Five, the concise operation of the gift ceremony

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1 date: the date is fixed. Set it on an adult's birthday (Gregorian calendar or lunar calendar) or a day of great significance to it. But Spring Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and Tomb-Sweeping Day are not suitable for saluting-Spring Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and family reunion days are not suitable for inviting people to attend; The theme of the Qingming Festival doesn't match, so the temple can't have both.

2. Invite guests to refuse guests: that is, determine the participants and invite them by invitation or various communication methods. For guests, parents should invite them home three days in advance (the latest day).