Sometimes he's traditional, sometimes he's not. Anyway, it just depends on whether it's in his favor or not, and I feel like he's quite selfish

Traditionally the man is the breadwinner. The women stay at home with the children and the men do the work and the women do the weaving

As you said at the beginning of your post, it's all about whether it's good for him or not.

Men have to say everything first you have to labor in the family accounted for more than you are entitled to say such things. The low status of women in ancient times also had something to do with the ability to support the family. Agricultural society women's status is necessarily low. Modern society women many work on labor and men are equal. That's why we advocate equality between men and women, just like the emperor when others are loyal to you must be benevolent, not benevolent, don't blame people for being unfaithful and unrighteous. You men want others to listen to you, then you have to practice the system of male farming and weaving, to undertake most of the family labor.