Who knows the marriage customs of Huizhou in Ming Dynasty?

Fujian folk taboos can be seen at any time in daily life, especially in festivals, marriages, gifts from relatives and friends, and communication.

People also have the custom of not sweeping the floor on the first day of the first lunar month, that is, avoid sweeping the floor. It is said that sweeping the floor on this day will sweep away all the treasures at home, which is unlucky. This is a sustenance of people's desire for wealth. In fact, this custom was first seen in Searching for the Gods. The book says that in ancient times, a businessman crossed Caoqing Lake and met a god. God asked him what he wanted, but the businessman said he only wanted the best. God agreed and turned out to be a handmaid. The merchant brought her back, and soon the family was rich. Later, when the merchant saw that the maid never swept the floor, he was very unhappy, so he became angry, scolded her and even hit her. Ruyi was beaten, and reluctantly got into the broom in a rage. Since then, businessmen have frequently swept the floor, but their families have become poorer and poorer. So people say that sweeping the floor is not satisfactory, but not sweeping the floor is satisfactory. But I can't do it without sweeping the floor every day. The first day of the first lunar month is the first day of the year. People think that this day can herald bad luck all year round, and the first day of the first lunar month does not sweep the floor. This used to be a legend, but later it became a common custom.

The first taboo in marriage is that men and women have the same surname, Chou Xing and the difference is three or six years. The purpose of not marrying the same surname is to prevent the blood relationship from being too close and affecting future generations. In ancient times, there was a saying that "men and women share the same surname, and their origins are not complicated", which has its scientific basis. The reason why Chou Xing didn't get married was that some people "collaborated with the enemy" and "sponsored the enemy" when preventing clan fights. Couples aged three and six are accused of being biased and aggressive, which may be related to the saying that "one arrow hurts at three years old and two arrows hurt at six years old".

In Fujian, it is taboo to get married from April to September in the lunar calendar. As the saying goes, "April is a bad day, May is a wrong day, June is a half-year (wife), July is a ghost, August is a female, September is a dog's head, and death is a husband." In fact, there is a reason to avoid marriage from April to September. April and May coincide with the busy farming season, and the climate changes greatly. Getting married for a happy occasion not only affects farming, but also is bad for your health. Dances is homophonic with death, giving people an unlucky feeling. June and July are hot days, and July in the lunar calendar is the Ghost Festival (Purdue), which is also considered unlucky. August and September are the harvest season, and there are many things to do, so it is not appropriate to spend energy on weddings. And the frost in early September, first frost's funeral is also unlucky. In all these cases, getting married from April to September is considered taboo.

In some places in southern Fujian, clocks, fans, umbrellas, towels, mirrors, knives and green hats are taboo when giving gifts to relatives and friends at weddings.

The homonym of bell and tail, table and bitch naturally makes people feel unlucky. Although the fan is homophonic with kindness, it is only used in summer, and it is abandoned in cool autumn, indicating rude feelings. Therefore, the unpopular mirror is easily broken. If it is not broken, it will reveal the true face of people and show that people are ugly, so it is a taboo thing. Knives are easy to hurt people, and there is an idiom of "make a clean break", which is used to give people a bad feeling, so it is taboo. The handkerchief is a gift from undertaker to thank them. They are not welcome at weddings or other occasions. A man wearing a green hat is regarded as synonymous with his wife's infidelity, and taking a green hat as a gift is regarded as an insult and taboo.

Umbrella is developed from sun visor. It was once a symbol of religious power and was widely used as a shelter from the rain, or it happened after18th century. Sometimes, umbrellas are not only used to keep out the rain, but also fashionable things that women sell well. Therefore, umbrellas have become a taboo for giving gifts. In addition, because umbrella and scattering are homophonic, scattering is discrete, and many people don't want to. Some people say that umbrellas are only used in rainy days. Isn't giving an umbrella to others just to express the hope that people will often spend rainy days? It's cloudy on rainy days, so umbrellas are regarded as unlucky gifts.

Sending zongzi is also taboo, because in southern Fujian, only bereaved families accept zongzi from relatives and friends.

At the wedding, relatives and friends give gifts, usually before the wedding. Giving gifts after the wedding will be regarded as wishing them to remarry, which is taboo. Others, such as giving red envelopes, cannot be sealed, because the seal needs to be torn off, which is unlucky and taboo.

When giving gifts to pregnant women, we should pay special attention to avoiding taboos, otherwise we will bow down and misunderstand. Generally speaking, in southern Fujian, it is advisable to give a rooster or hen as a gift to the parturient, and it is forbidden to send a duck mother with vegetables. Some people say that Grandma Duck cuisine is not suitable for pregnant women, while others say that Grandma Duck cuisine often makes the sound of "defeat, defeat, defeat", giving people an unlucky feeling, so they avoid it.

There are also quite a few taboos when dealing with interpersonal relationships.

Throughout southern Fujian, wearing sandals into other people's homes is considered taboo. Because in the old society, when family members died or mourned for their parents, they only wore sandals; It is also taboo to use door panels as beds in the hall, because in the old society, the floor in the hall was used to move dead bodies, and the door panels were mostly used to carry the dead. Don't put chopsticks when eating, because chopsticks are for the dead. Clothes and trousers are worn out, so don't patch them on your body. You said that if you put them on, you would die. You are mainly worried that you will hurt your health accidentally when patching them. Reading in casinos is considered taboo, because books are homophonic with losing, and gamblers certainly don't want to lose.

In some places, the surname Chen is taboo when taking a boat, because the surname Chen and Shen are homonyms. When boarding the ship, people surnamed Chen should report themselves: "My surname is Fu", otherwise they will be accused by everyone after being discovered.

In the taboo of numbers, most Minnan people avoid the word "four", which is mainly similar to "death". Historically, some places in Fujian were reluctant to sail or drive on the fourth, fourteenth and fifth days of April, which was mostly related to taboos. The taboo of four may be unique to Fujian, and many other places list four as a positive number. For example, China has four ancient capitals, four famous mountains, four ancient towns, four academies and four famous gardens, all of which prove that Four is not taboo.

Let's talk about color customs.

People generally say that taboo things, actions and language should be avoided as much as possible. This is taboo, but if you encounter it, you must find a way to transfer it. This is called seeking luck, winning the lottery or winning the prize, and it is called "color custom". On Chinese New Year holidays or other festive days, people are afraid that someone will say the word "death" and avoid anything that dies, but if it happens, we should try our best to make up for this unlucky thing. So in Fuzhou, when chickens, ducks, pigs, sheep and cows die, they all say "alive" instead of dead, ducks are born, pigs are born and so on. When a person dies, don't say "dead" or "alive", just say that someone is "old".

During wedding banquets and Spring Festival, children will break bowls. Because they are "broken" and have the same pronunciation as New Year's Eve, they usually say something like "Peace through the years" to cover it up. Sometimes a gap in the bowl is disappointing, so there is a saying that "the gap is lucky, come while eating"; If someone accidentally drops his chopsticks on the ground, people who are good at winning the lottery will say, "I dropped my chopsticks"-that is, "I am happy". Breaking an instrument at a wedding is the most taboo. Every time this happens, someone always says something auspicious, such as "Break now, have brothers next year".

This kind of ridicule can be seen everywhere in daily life.

In the old days, people in Fujian often saw the poster of "auspicious house for rent", which was called empty house. Because the empty words were not good-looking, it was changed to auspicious. Some people call the injury hanging or bringing flowers, and eating Chinese medicine is called drinking tea, which also means winning the lottery.

Oranges and pears are homophonic and auspicious, so people use them as gifts. Eating fish is homophonic with wealth and surplus (or surplus), among which leek is close to long wealth, and many people are happy. Therefore, it is a traditional custom in Fujian that a banquet cannot be held without food and fish. Fuzhou people generally don't eat fish when they go to eat, which shows that they eat more than enough.

The original masterpiece of chopsticks, because it is as unlucky as the stagnant sound, is named chopsticks. In the past, some people gave chopsticks as gifts at weddings and celebrations. Because chopsticks mean to have a baby soon, they are also auspicious, and they are intended to win the lottery.

In our country, it has long been a custom to celebrate the birthday of the elderly, and all birthdays are integers, and every ten are common. People say that birthdays begin at the age of 50; Sixty years old, seventy years old, eighty years old and ninety years old; A hundred years old is a long life. Centenary is often used as a synonym for death, which is taboo for many people. So every centenarian is called ninety-nine. If he celebrates his birthday every ten years, he will be nine years older than ten. Nine stands for long. Send birthday couplets, plaques and all kinds of calligraphy and paintings to the elderly on their birthdays. Life couplets are inlaid with the words "blessing" and "longevity", indicating good luck. The plaque symbolizes happiness, and calligraphy and painting also depict pine cranes or bats and deer. Pine crane means longevity, and bat and deer mean blessing.

Funeral was originally a sad thing, but the funeral of the elderly in Fujian is often a happy thing. When the old man died, red cloth or paper was put on the door. At the funeral, the filial male hangs red, and the filial female wears red skirts and shoes. Put paper money, set off firecrackers, put on music, and fight along the way. Generally, there are eight people carrying coffins, which is called "Eight Immortals Carrying Coffins". When people see the coffin, they all say that they will get rich when they see the coffin. Many people are taboo about coffins, so some places call coffin shops Shouban Store, Fushou Store and Ping 'an Store. Drugstores and hospitals are related to patients and were once taboo, so they are called rejuvenation shops and recreation hospitals; It's not a pleasure to go into the drugstore, so don't look back or say "goodbye" when you come out.

In daily life, we can also see many people take the initiative to seek luck and win the lottery.

For newborn babies to grow up healthily, winning the lottery is inevitable. It is more common to wash three denier and make a full moon. The washing of Sandan was carried out on the third day of the baby's birth, and was congratulated by relatives and friends. It was called the ceremony of the Three Dynasties and had its own auspicious meaning. To be a full moon is to shave the baby's head, trim his eyebrows, put on new clothes, wear new hats and so on. Don't shave it all, leave a small piece before and after. The first piece is called smart hair, and the second piece is called support hair (hair of centenarians). Usually, when the baby is full moon, he will wear a life lock, a knife, a comb, a round mirror and so on. Her grandmother gave it to me. The round mirror shines on the demon, the knife is combined to exorcise the demon, the comb exorcises the demon, and the longevity is locked and locked.

Old relatives and friends send red dates, longan and lotus seeds to the bride and groom. Not only congratulations, but also winning the lottery. Folk taboos and colorful customs are various and enduring, forming a fairly stable group consciousness, such as silent orders, which regulate people's words and actions. Although some have faded and disappeared with the development of society and history, a considerable number of taboos and colorful customs still haunt people's minds, which are manifested in daily life and interpersonal communication. Even today, even if science is developed, it cannot be easily rejected.

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