How to treat "people, the most comfortable way of life: don't get too close to anyone"?

People, the most comfortable way of life, don't get too close to anyone. This statement has some truth, but it is not entirely correct. People and things are relative, and we can't take anything as truth.

First of all, we must understand that people, as social animals, cannot live alone in this world and need people around them. For example, if a person lives in the mountains and forests for a long time, his psychology and personality will become abnormal, and even he will suffer from depression and other morbidities. I once saw a documentary about a man waiting for a long time in a deep forest. Not to mention its external changes, when it was discovered, it became speechless, ashamed to communicate with others, lost its communicative ability, and the overall performance showed an abnormal state. It fully proves that people need others.

As for whether you need to get too close to others, there is actually a premise that you can make friends who can get close to yourself. There is a true saying that a person will meet or make many friends in this world, but few people really have heart-to-heart friends. In other words, it is lucky to make a true friend who doesn't care about anything. This kind of friend is the kind who can get too close. If you can make such a friend, you will find that he will make your life more comfortable.

Fortunately, I have such a friend. He was my colleague when I graduated from school and took my first job, and also the first friend I met after I entered the society. Because my personality, viewpoints and other aspects are very similar, and I am also the kind of person who doesn't have too much impatience to calculate others. The natural relationship is getting closer and closer, and finally I become an iron buddy who talks about everything. This relationship lasted for more than 20 years. Although due to my reasons, for several years, I have hardly contacted or met each other. However, after resuming contact and meeting, it is still the same. I don't feel any change in my relationship and friendship, and I am still so close.

In fact, the comfort and material aspects of modern life are only appearances, and the key is whether the inner and spiritual world are comfortable. For example, do you feel depressed in your heart, do you have something in your heart but nowhere to talk, and you can only hide it in your heart and digest it alone? This is an important criterion to measure whether modern people are comfortable or not.

Why do many people only talk about their depression with strangers? Because they don't have a friend who can express their feelings. Most of them are just interested in each other and can't get too close psychologically. Therefore, it is not that you can make your life comfortable without getting too close to others, but that it is difficult to meet a friend who can really get close.

In fact, everyone needs someone who can really get close from the heart. With such people, their lives will be very comfortable and there will be no uncomfortable dead ends. Just whether you can meet such a person depends on everyone's nature. Although there are many friends, it is hard to find a confidant.

What do you think of this statement? Do you have such close bosom friends around you?

Thank you for your patience in reading, and welcome your attention and comments. To express their views and communicate with each other!

Yes, because if you get too close, you will talk a lot. Not every word can satisfy others. Often if you offend others unconsciously, you will be excluded by others. Furthermore, if you get too close, there will be economic communication, and if you spend more and I spend less, there will be contradictions. Therefore, if you don't get too close to anyone, you won't be sad and you will live comfortably.

Yes, I personally think so.

Because everyone has different thinking, different hobbies, different economic bases ... and so on.

When a person is most comfortable, he is alone. When a person is quiet, he can learn a lot, and he can do whatever he wants, without being bound by anyone or considering the feelings of others. Maybe I belong to the kind of person who enjoys loneliness [cute]