The feudal thought of the elderly at home

Do you have any questions? My grandparents and grandparents' thoughts are very feudal. Let me talk about my personal experience, because I am a girl. Although there is no preference for boys in my family, some customs are feudal, and I am also the only child in my family. Even if I am spoiled by the only child, some feudal thoughts will come to me. For example, you can't change places at will when you eat, and you have to get married several times if you can't be with others in the future. Actually, I don't think so. Usually, the old people in the family are forced to do housework. Personally, I think some housework should be done and we should do our best to contribute to the family. But while doing housework, some old people say bad things. Girls don't do it, so how can they get married if they are lazy? But I think this boy loves you and won't let you do housework. Everyone has the right to choose. Housework should be done, but there are some compulsions and verbal threats that I don't think are necessary. Please give me more advice.