What are some good tips for modern parenting?

1. A proper view of responsibility for health and safety.

Every parent has a responsibility from start to finish to protect the health and safety of their children. But to protect the child's health is not to eat the cleaner the better, the more nutritious the better; to protect the child's safety does not mean to restrict the child's freedom of action, here not allowed to move there not allowed to do. Parents should treat their children's health and safety in a dialectical way.

In terms of health, don't give your child too many clothes to keep warm, just be appropriate, and occasionally a little bit of cold is good for your child's resistance and adaptability. Eat not too fine too clean too nutritious, according to the age of the development of the law appropriate to eat some of the miscellaneous food, but also do not need to disinfect here and there disinfection, fear of children sick, in fact, the child appropriate contact with some micro-organisms is conducive to the enhancement of the immune system; in the safety of the child to encourage the full exploration of the world's behavior, and at the same time foreseeable prevention of the child's insecure factors occurring. The child wants to touch the garbage can, buy him a new clean, inside put some clean paper for him to turn; want to move the mop, also buy a smaller clean, all as a child's toys; encourage him to move their own chairs to get their own bowls, just follow the back to see him, ready to step in to protect him at the first sign of danger.

No matter how old the child is, what parents should do is: the first step is to remind, tell the child that you do this thing may be such a dangerous situation; the second step to prevent, that is, follow the child around to pay close attention to the process of his practice, if there may be a danger, preventive blocking of the danger occurs.

2, focusing on the development of children's methods and habits, and improve the related adaptability and problem-solving ability.

Parents should not only tell their children "what", but also "why", and even more importantly, "how". Many of our parents only focus on letting their children recognize the word, learn this and that, in fact, the knowledge to tell the child "what", such as learning to recognize the word, only know how to read the word, what it stands for, as for why it is so, parents do not pay much attention to how to cultivate children's interest in recognizing the word, to tell the child to recognize the word of the way to let the child recognize the word themselves! The parents tend to ignore it even more. The latter, it is the method of habit cultivation problem, which is more important than the knowledge of education, as the so-called "teach and fish, not as good as to teach and fish".

The cultivation of methods and habits is the core of the entire parenting process, which aims to cultivate children's ability to adapt to the environment and problem-solving skills. To cultivate children's adaptability and problem-solving ability, we need children to come into contact with various environments as early as possible, and to recognize and think about various problems, and to solve them with their hands and mouths.

(1) According to the developmental law of children, the earlier the education, the better. That is to say, parents should pay attention to early education, the development of the child's intelligence, cultivate the child's methods and habits. Many parents lack awareness of the importance of family education in early childhood and believe that education begins only after elementary school, which is a backward concept.

(2) Comprehensive training, not one-sided training. Most parents focus on knowledge and skills in their children's education (focusing only on their children's physical health and intellectual development), only tell their children "what", not "why" and "how to do", and ignore their children's methods. ", ignoring the child's methodological needs, psychological needs, good character and morals, behavioral habits of cultivation, which is one-sided view of quality education.

(3) Can't do it all, must be the child's own experience feeling. Many parents of children overly spoiled pampered, overprotection, all kinds of things, etc., all are no labor skills, "little emperor", "little princess".

3, the analysis of several new methods of parenting.

(1) Use classical music to improve IQ. There is no doubt that music can enrich a baby's life. But does listening to more classical music improve IQ? In fact, this conclusion is derived from an experiment in the United States in 1993, in the students listen or not listen to Mozart sonata comparison test, listen to the group's test scores are higher than those of the group not to listen to the conclusion, and from this has been widely spread. Classical music for babies and even fetuses was also published. Mothers have been convinced that those elegant music can enhance their children's intelligence.

A study showed that letting children aged 4-6 learn some musical instruments can really improve their memory and concentration. This is an important component of a child's IQ. After your child is old enough, you can encourage them to learn a musical instrument even better.

(2) Sign language is good for early speech. Sign language is useful in helping babies express their needs earlier. But experts say that when parents use sign language with their babies, they are also using their mouths to express themselves directly. This means that the parent and child are actually communicating with each other in two ways. Thus, it seems that sign language is only a positive aid to the baby's language expression. What's more, there is no scientific evidence yet to show how significant early talking, walking and literacy are to a baby's long life. Therefore, sign language should not be taken as a utilitarian means of parenting, but as a casual form of parent-child communication with the baby, to be carried out on the premise of having time and energy. This is more conducive to parents and babies to communicate in a relaxed and pleasant state.

(3) Don't use a walker to help your baby walk. One study confirmed that for every 24 hours a baby uses a walker, it delays the time he stands alone by 3.3 days. And there's a bigger problem with walkers, which is that children are prone to bumping or falling down stairs while on the move. Data shows that during the prevalence of walkers, 25,000 babies in the U.S. were accidentally injured each year as a result. Since the walker can easily become a hidden danger that jeopardizes the safety of young children, it is better not to use it, so that babies can learn to stand and walk on their own feet and legs from the very beginning.

(4) Early entry into kindergarten is detrimental to growth. While some studies have confirmed that those children who enter kindergarten earlier experience more behavioral problems than those who stay at home. However, there is no very significant difference between the two parenting styles. In particular, studies in recent years have shown that when children get out of the house more, their self-care, self-control, ability to handle problems independently, and socialization skills are enhanced to varying degrees. In fact, the environment of each family is different, the personality of each child is different, and the situations encountered by children in their growth are also different, so it is difficult to quantify the impact of different environments on children by the same standard. It has been proved that a child growing up in any kind of environment will lead a happy life as long as he receives enough attention and encouragement. So, there is no need to worry too much about whether or not your child is entering kindergarten too early, but rather whichever works better for your family is the best way for your child.

(5) TV affects your baby's ability to concentrate. There have been a number of research projects centered around the relationship between TV viewing and concentration in babies, but the conclusions have varied widely. An American study conducted among babies who watched a lot of TV programs between the ages of 3 and 4 found that these children developed concentration problems at the age of 7; however, another study concluded to the contrary, suggesting that there was no correlation between the two. Despite this, however, other negative effects of television exist. Because babies are not yet able to accurately distinguish between life on TV and life in reality, watching TV can take up a lot of the time that babies use to improve their physical and social skills. It is not necessary to absolutely prohibit babies from watching TV, such as some cartoons still have a certain amount of benefits for children's development. But the best way, should spend more time and energy to accompany the child to carry out some activities other than television, such as games, storytelling and so on.

4. Eradicate the two most harmful parenting concepts.

One view is that babies need to be beaten up if they don't behave well, and that children can't be beaten up if they don't behave well. This is one of the more traditional, common and harmful views of parenting in China. For many parents, "hitting" is the best way to punish a baby for not listening. In fact, this kind of "beating education" is because parents do not pay attention to the early education, after the formation of bad habits to take strong remedial measures. But have you ever noticed, on the one hand, is the society of child abuse cases more and more, on the other hand, due to domestic violence caused by matricide and other disobedient events are endless, countless facts have proved that "stick under the filial son" this concept of upbringing in the modern society is inappropriate, more and more educationalists and psychologists have proposed that

The world of babies is very simple, as long as the mother a little more praise, a little early guidance, by the affirmation of their good behavior will continue, in order to get more praise from adults. Some experts have mentioned that children who have experienced domestic violence as children are much more likely to use it when they grow up. This is because they have grown up under the shadow of violence, and therefore, they may be biased in the process of personality formation and prone to emotional outbursts.

Hitting and scolding is not the best way to teach your baby to misbehave, but rather, you should use "encouragement" to get him to do what you want. Although encouragement may not be able to make your baby achieve 100 points, with your "push", you will be surprised to see his progress in the long run.

Another way of looking at it is that I don't have the means to be there for my baby, so I have to make it up to him with the best material things. Many parents are unable to accompany their babies because they give them to others to bring up, so they want to compensate him with the best material life, in fact, this will instead cause the baby's values to deviate. Parents should usually take the baby out regularly, such as going to the supermarket, the park, so that he grew up to understand life, learning to choose which things can be contacted, which can not, even at home to clean the toilet, you can let the baby on the side of the watch, so that he knows that this is the way to clean the toilet. You can't always compensate for the baby, everything is ready for them, so it is easy for him to develop a dependent personality.