What does the old man in the countryside mean when he says that if his son-in-law gets laid, his family will die?

This sentence may have some truth if put in the past. Especially before marriage, the son-in-law is not allowed to spend the night in the mother-in-law's house. At that time, if anyone's son-in-law did not get married and spent the night at his mother-in-law's house, we can't say that the family is broken, at least it will make a mess of the whole family. This is a big deal in the past, and it will make people look down on you if they know about it.

I remember when I was a kid, there was a girl in my village who took advantage of her parents' absence to let her boyfriend spend the night in her house. Then the girl got pregnant, which at that time simply became the village explosive news. It immediately became the talk of the town after dinner. At that time, the social environment, is absolutely not allowed to girls pregnant before marriage. Later, the girl could not bear the unpleasant words of the village people to her. She ran to the reservoir in the mountains and jumped into the water to kill herself. People's saliva alive swallowed a young life, really should be this, son-in-law in bed, the family broke.

But now this is a bit outdated, son-in-law does not go to bed, let the son-in-law hit the ground? Whose son-in-law doesn't go to bed? We are here married son-in-law, are followed by the daughter-in-law back to her mother's home, of course, must be sleeping in the mother-in-law's bed, and have not seen anyone's family broke. What kind of logic is that? Even in ancient times, there was no such thing as a married son-in-law who couldn't go to bed, and it was probably just a regional custom.

We do have a local custom of not letting the son-in-law stay at the mother-in-law's house to sleep before the daughter gets married. However, with the development of civilization today, even this custom is seldom followed. Of course, even with the development of society, there are still some people who are more traditional. Especially in rural areas, some parents are still quite feudal, even if the girl has been talking about the object for many years, as long as they are not married, they do not allow their daughter to spend the night in the man's home. If for special reasons, the boyfriend must stay at home at night, then also absolutely can't let the girl live with the boyfriend.

Some years ago, if anyone's son talked to someone, even if he stayed at his boyfriend's house for the night because of bad weather or some other reason, it was to be done secretly. If the neighbors found out, people would point and laugh at the woman for being a lightweight. If anyone's daughter stays at her boyfriend's house overnight without getting married, that's even more treasonous. If the neighbors find out that a son-in-law who is not married spends the night at his mother-in-law's house, that would be a disgrace. Parents also firmly will not agree to let the unmarried son-in-law, in the mother-in-law's home overnight, which may be the old rural people say, son-in-law can not go to bed the reason for it. This is probably the reason why the old people in the countryside say that a son-in-law can't get laid.

In our Yudong region, there is no such statement, nor this custom.

Every time I accompany my wife back to her mother's home, my mother-in-law will tidy up the room in advance and take out a new quilt for us to use as a couple. It's just that my wife always seems to have endless things to say to her mother-in-law, and she comes back to bed in the middle of the night every day.

Of course, the couple also inevitably do some of the bed brother thing, but can not be like in their own home as carefree, although all have gone to bed, always a little cautious, afraid of being heard by others, the next day will get up early, clean up the battlefield.

In fact, they are all over, the father-in-law and mother-in-law are always deliberately avoided, there is a kind of natural tacit understanding. Mother-in-law likes to get up early, often wait for us to wake up, has made the meal.

We feel that is a family, there is no need to divide a you and me, sister-in-law brother-in-law is also very enthusiastic about us, brother-in-law career success, prosperous people, and did not see anything bad.

Another year of Ching Ming Festival holiday, I believe there are many people who work outside the home will return to their hometowns to sweep the graves and worship, which also has a lot of married girls will be in the Ching Ming Festival holiday back to their own mother's home. Since it is married, back to his mother's home is certainly dragging the family, some married girls because usually busy, it is hard to look forward to a long vacation back to his mother's home to think more days, but the night can not sleep with her husband in a room, that is, the rural proverb said "son-in-law bed, family broken", then married girls in the mother's home and The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need.

Last year, the neighbor Zhang in the Ching Ming Festival and daughter-in-law back to his mother's home has been refused to spend the night in his mother-in-law's home, Zhang daughter-in-law, although not belong to the long-distance marriage, but back to his mother's home to more than an hour, so Zhang daughter-in-law each time back to his mother's home will be staying for a few days, the previous is Zhang to daughter-in-law melting to send after lunch Zhang drove back on their own, last year's Ching Ming Festival catching up with the holiday, Zhang and his daughter-in-law will be in the home together with a few days, who thought this is a good idea to get a little bit of a good time, and I'm sure it will be a good idea for you. A few days, who had thought that this is the last time Zhang in the mother-in-law's home overnight. Listen to Zhang said, that night in bed, Zhang was arranged to sleep with his brother-in-law, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law to sleep together, it turned out that Zhang daughter-in-law where there is a married girl back to her mother's home can not sleep with her husband's customs. Zhang's brother-in-law is fat and snores at night. So those nights Xiao Zhang sleep very tormented, so in Xiao Zhang back to their own home and daughter-in-law said, in the future I send you to your mother's home you live on your own, I do not live with your brother.

In many areas there are married girls in the family can not sleep with their husbands in the custom, in the past most areas have this custom, mainly and the previous patriarchal thinking has to do, people think that the daughter married is someone else's family, if the married girl and her husband in the flower of the bed together, it will have a bad influence on their sons. But as people's minds have changed more and more, many areas no longer have this traditional custom, but there are still some areas where this custom is still passed down.

In the past, because of the seriousness of the patriarchal concept, in addition to the married girl can not sleep in the same room with her husband in the mother's home, there is also the first day of the New Year married girl can not go back to her mother's home, married girl can not be in the mother's home to sit in the month and so on customs and traditions. Although we no longer have the custom that married girls cannot live with their husbands in their mother's house, the latter two customs still exist. My old neighbor's sister married into a family without a mother-in-law, and after she got pregnant, she was especially worried about where to spend her menstruation, because there was no one to take care of her in her own house, and it was not allowed to go back to her mother's house. The neighbor's sister was able to sit at her mother's house and get along with her sister-in-law because of this incident, and the two of them are like sisters.

With the increasing openness of people's minds nowadays, a lot of old traditions and ideas have slowly disappeared from our lives. But for those areas with these old traditions, we should also respect the traditional customs and traditions left by our ancestors.

I'm from Shangluo, Shaanxi Province, and we have this custom here. Son-in-law to the house of the parents-in-law, but also can not sleep in a room with the daughter, is to sleep separately, said to sleep together will be bad for the mother's family.

My cousin aunt married back to the door, because mom and dad a little far, the car is not convenient, she married from her brother's home, she and her husband directly back to her brother's home, her brother bought a house in the county, more convenient.

Her sister-in-law is the brother's second wife, she may not be very satisfied with her, back to rest at night, deliberately said to her husband and wife to let them sleep in a room, the results they did not avoid, but also the newlyweds small young, do not understand these things, and no one gave them to say.

As a result, the next day dawn, her sister-in-law on her husband and wife cursed, said they do not know shame, on her home to eliminate people, anyway, cursed to be more difficult to hear how difficult to hear, threatened to disown them, they left early in the morning.

Then their parents, brother also followed the angry, this second wife was relatively strong, even with the mother-in-law scolded together, said that will not teach the daughter, my aunt is also followed by a lot of tears.

Most of the rural people are still relatively taboo these customs.

All are feudal society left behind the dregs of son preference, son-in-law slept in the bed of the family of the father-in-law, the family of the father-in-law will die. In fact, it is not treating the daughter as a human being.

My classmates and I are from the same city, my family here does not say that the daughter can not go home on New Year's Day custom, but the classmates home there, said the New Year's Day home will affect her brother.

The reason why there are two very different customs in the same city, not far from each other, is because of the preference for sons over daughters. My family looks at children the same way, so naturally there is no such thing as stigmatizing daughters. My classmate's family values their sons more than their daughters, and their daughters are outsiders, which is obviously disrespectful and stigmatizing to their daughters.

The most disgusting thing about this kind of patriarchal family is that most of the sons are losers, and their parents are losers, and they need their son-in-laws to help them in every way. The student's family is so poor, poor, her father failed to do business, and since then do not care about the family, just care about their own pleasure. The money to pay social security, or son-in-law out of money, on this kind of people still look down on son-in-law, son-in-law called classmate wife, but also by the father-in-law a scolding, think should not be called wife.

Today, this father-in-law also hijacked a classmate's home, a property, the classmate wanted to rent out the house to pay off the debt, her father did not agree, said he wanted to stay to him as a vacation place, have time to write a big word.

The face of incompetent men is the ugliest, and they make rules in their favor everywhere. The dregs of patriarchy that remain now are what some incompetent men made in ancient times.

Modern some incompetent men are also making rules, such as the bride price "ten thousand purple and red a green" "one-sided, roadside, hitchhiking" and so on, are some incompetent men in order to ask for the son-in-law's money and the development of, precisely because of this incompetent man There are too many of them, and they have become a custom in the countryside.

What does it mean to say that a son-in-law goes to bed with the old man in the countryside and that "the family is broken"? Rural old saying more reason is also particularly much, there is such an old saying I I don't know if you have heard of that is, son-in-law in bed, home broken, this sentence sounds particularly serious is also very oozing, so what does this mean, today I will take you to talk about this sentence!

In fact, the meaning of this sentence is to say, in their own daughters after marriage, and then return to their own mother's home, not to be able to the same room and sleep separately, such a situation in the ancient times, especially more, that time, the women do not have any status, so married out of the girl in the mother's home to return to the bar, it is an outsider has not been on this side of the cousins pro and the old man at that time, that is, if the aunt and daughter in the mother's home in the first half, the daughter and son-in-law will not be able to sleep together. If the aunt and daughter in the mother's home after the same room, will bring bad luck to their own homes, and may even engage in the family inside the family's death, over time there is such an old saying has been passed down!

But in modern times, where there will care about this matter, not to mention the married, even now a lot of unmarried son-in-law to go to their own in-laws home, are open cohabitation, in-laws will not care about these small things, I do not know if my understanding of this sentence is correct?

On the rural proverb is a lot, and many are very easy to understand, like the old man often say this sentence "son-in-law bed, family broken", said the married woman with her husband (that is, the old man's son-in-law) back to his mother's home, live in his mother's home overnight, if the two people in the same bed, if you are sleeping, on the woman's family is very bad, very likely to break the family! Unfavorable, it is very likely that the family will die; so this old saying, is there any truth? The following specific analysis:

In the past, people believe that the married woman is someone else's family, with her husband back to her mother's home to see the mother's family is just a guest, is a guest, in the mother's home for the night, we must also comply with some of the customs, otherwise it is disrespectful to the mother's family; some places have such a custom, the son-in-law and his wife to go to the old husband's home, sleep at night, the man and his own wife can not live together, otherwise it will be a great honor to the old man, and the wife will not live together, and the wife can not live together, and the wife can not live together. The old man's home, otherwise there will be a bad influence on the old man's home, and as for what is a bad influence, no one specifically said, as for the family broke, and how many people have seen it?

In the view of the countryside, "son-in-law on the bed, the family broke" the relationship between son-in-law and the old man's family said some exaggeration, son-in-law and his wife back to his wife's mother's home to visit the old man and so on, this is a very happy thing, and the previous road is not very good, back to a trip is quite a run, the night wash up a good rest, and how can it be? Rested, what else can be done, sleeping in the same bed can lead to the family broke up is also exaggerated to the extreme, is it that they should not come back?

If the existence of "son-in-law on the bed, the family broke", it is possible that the son-in-law and the old man's family relationship is not good, and even have a big contradiction, the old man is not willing to his daughter to continue with the son-in-law together, when the son-in-law and the old man's daughter with the old man's home, but also want to think of the usual in the same normal as in the family to sleep in a bed performance, will be very loving look. The way of love, will cause the old man's family's dissatisfaction, may quarrel, fight out of life, and such a thing once happened, the consequences are also very serious, that is, "son-in-law on the bed, the family broke".

There is no "son-in-law on the bed, the family broke" this statement, but the son-in-law and his wife to go to his father-in-law's home is to live together in a room to sleep together, if the two families are close to the words do not stay the night, but the same day to return to their own homes.

Of course, although the son-in-law in the old man's home can sleep with his wife in a bed, but if the two married for special reasons did not worship ancestors in the old man's home, then, the two in the old man's home is not to sleep in a bed, but separate two rooms to sleep, otherwise it will affect the old man's family's fortunes; as for the reason why there is such a saying, I asked my mother, she said she didn't know anyway, and she said she was not sure. She said she did not know, anyway, this is the old people in the past passed down, and no one dares to break the rules; I thought about it later, I think it should be, although the son-in-law and his own daughter to get a marriage license, but because of the marriage at the time of the two did not pay homage to the woman's ancestors, is not really "married", so the daughter of the son-in-law to come back to be The first time I saw a woman's face, it was in her eyes, and it was in her eyes.

For like "son-in-law in bed, the family broke and died" such old saying, country house small dishes think there is no real basis, like this old saying "the first month do not cut the head, cut the head of the death of uncle," the same as the cut a hair can be decided on the uncle's life and death? I remember the first month of the child's hair cut it, the year before last, last year are cut, and did not see the impact of the child's uncle, his uncle is good; so that "son-in-law on the bed, the family broke" exaggerated the son-in-law on the old man's family impact.

Hello everyone, I am the creator of the field of agriculture, I am very happy to answer this question for you. Let me tell you what it means when a son-in-law goes to bed and the family breaks up.

"Son-in-law in bed, the family broke the people died" this saying in my hometown side also have, that is, the old man read out. So what is the meaning of "son-in-law in bed, the family broke"? The meaning of this saying is very easy to understand, that is, when the son-in-law and the daughter go back to the mother's home together, if the son-in-law and the daughter live together in the same bed, it will bring bad luck to the family, and in the end, the mother's family will be broken and perished. But I don't think there is any truth in this argument, let me tell you what I think.

Since they are son-in-laws now, they are husband and wife, and if husband and wife don't live in the same bed, then who else does. And a son-in-law living in the same bed with his daughter is just a normal thing, not a bad thing, just like we all have a meal, a common thing, how can it break up the mother's family? In my opinion, this kind of argument has a rather long history, and I feel that it is a bit of feudal superstition, and as we are now anti-feudal superstition, we must not believe in this kind of argument. Some people also think that this is some rural tradition, but I think it is bad and needs to be discarded by us. A son-in-law living in the same bed with his daughter shows that there is a good relationship between the two of them, which is good for the family and will not be a bad thing, and will not break up the family of the mother's family. This argument, we still do not believe, after all, this is not good for both son-in-law and daughter, this is bad habits, should be abandoned.

What does it mean when rural elders say that their son-in-laws go to bed and their families are broken?

It means that after the daughter is married, the daughter and son-in-law back to the bride's home to sleep in separate rooms, can not be the same room.

If the daughter son-in-law back to the bride's home to sleep in the same room, that is, son-in-law in bed, the family broke it means that it will bring bad omens, bad luck, does not mean literally, but with the literal meaning of the seriousness of bad things!

Previously, the rural areas really special rules, with the TV series is the same, from the meal to the clothing and housing every one of the taboos, such as the direction of the house, towards the north or south, according to the terrain, the year and month of the day to choose, you can not violate these rules, how to open the doors and windows, the door of the house can not be the door, the house should be selected to choose the right day! Marriage does not see the color white, mourning does not wear red clothes! And so on and so on and so on and so on and so on and so on and so on and so on and so on!

Besides these rules, you can't stick your chopsticks into your rice, and you can't knock on the table with your chopsticks! You can't say unlucky words on New Year's Eve! The first fifteen days of the year should be offered to the ancestors! These are all daily, but in my opinion, these are old ideas, the times are developing, some unfounded ideas to be discarded!

My grandmother is a very conservative people, so we do everything according to her rules, built a new house new house to the first fire pot, then people can move in, but also to tell the ancestors, blessing smooth, is my words, these things are not out of it, but in the case of the old man, or to go along with her meaning!

That said, the old man said son-in-law in bed, the family broke, that you have considered now people are only child how to do, often back to his mother's home, the room is not enough, and can not sleep together, that can not sleep in the living room! All old married couples, the same room is reasonable! The law permits it, so what's not to like!

So I think some of the backward concepts in rural areas have to be discarded, the rules are not keeping up with the progress of the times. Like son-in-law in bed, the family broke the old concept of no scientific basis to change change! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty!

There is a saying in the countryside called: "wildflowers on the bed, the family broke", the number of the old saying is still very easy to understand, but also for the price of marital infidelity to pay, and here said son-in-law on the bed and said a few meanings of it, in fact, said that after the marriage of the girl back to her mother's home, is not to sleep in the same bed with her husband, although this is a past saying, but it is also said to be the same bed with her husband, but it is not the same bed with her husband. Although this is a past statement, but it seems that now there are some areas, there is indeed such a preoccupation, but with the progress of society, such a custom becomes less and less, why there is back to the mother's home, married daughter and son-in-law can not be the same bed of the saying?

In fact, these are some of the feudal ideas in doing Chong, not only married women back to their families can not and husband in the same bed, it seems that there are married girls can not be in the mother's home to give birth to a child to talk about, these are why it is, the girl is not pro-life it is definitely pro-life, and these practices are only effective on the pro-girlfriends, for one thing, is that the birth of a child is considered to be a matter of filth in the past, as for the fortunes of the family and the Feng Shui, will have a great impact, that is, the parents do not say, sister-in-law or brother-in-law will also mutter, the second married daughter has been the in-laws of the people, the birth of a child is to the in-laws of the family, the birth of a child is the need to wait for people to take care of the birth of a child in the mother's home, the birth of a child is not their own people, this kind of effort is not pleasing to the people can not do, in addition to not having a child in the mother's home, it also said that is this! Return to the mother's home can not sleep in the same room with her husband said.

Our village is also such a saying, married daughters back to their mother's home, but also to sleep separately, couples can not be in a house, according to the village east of the old Zhangtou said, the two mouths in the mother's home together overnight, if pregnant with a child, when the time to give birth to the child, it will be the mother's family's blessing of the wealth of the road to take away, for the family's fortunes is very unfavorable, but also some will use some means of removing it is to give the money, is also a meaning, how much is it? In fact, it is also a meaning, how much is not limited to give the mother's family a few money, meaning that the meaning of the rental of the house to live in, rather than strings of relatives to live in, in fact, these are all practices against the heart, is not to give money to the daughter and son-in-law? These are just a way of giving self-justification.